This is likely to be my last chance, please wish me well.

[mrscushion]

I found myself thinking about you a lot over the past couple days! Today is the day. Best of luck to you, I hope the phone rings early in the day and with good news.

 

[Steel]

Thank you part gypsy, mscushion - that was a lovely message and it was lovely to hear that you were thinking of me.

I am very grateful to you all for thinking of me and wishing me well. I wanted to make sure I gave this my best shot, since it is almost definitively my last.



So, it looks like I missed the boat. I still do not have an answer but drawing inferences from today's events it looks like I am out of the running. I have spent almost all of the day in tears and cannot understand what happened. DH has been very supportive but he too is devastated. Technically I still have to wait for a formal decision but considering the timeline has been extended I think it is only going to be bad news. I have spent so many weeks imagining what could be and now I am sure it is over. I couldn't be more upset.

Again, thank you all for your kind wishes. I couldn't have tried any harder or wanted it any more.

We gave it our best shot, didn't we.

Over and out, Steel.

 

[dragonfly411]

Steel - don''t give up hope yet! I would call and follow up too!

 

[Steel]

Date: 10/16/2009 12:08:28 PM
Author: dragonfly411
Steel - don't give up hope yet! I would call and follow up too!

Awh, thanks Dragonfly.

But it is past that stage. I can only wait for the official final decision before I find out if I did anything wrong and even then this type of firm does not really offer feedback. My problem is that I will never be in such a good position to secure this role as I am now. Without it I have to take the next job that comes along; just to pay the bills. And working outside this sector will cause me to be passed over for future interviews. So this was my last chance and I would have worked harder than anybody else to do a great job, because it was not just a job to me. And I feel so sad that, poof, it has probably gone....

 

[dragonfly411]

cheer up, and keep hope. If you don''t get it, there is a reason, but pls don''t give up yet.

 

[movie zombie]

Date: 10/16/2009 12:15:29 PM
Author: Steel

Date: 10/16/2009 12:08:28 PM
Author: dragonfly411
Steel - don''t give up hope yet! I would call and follow up too!

Awh, thanks Dragonfly.

But it is past that stage. I can only wait for the official final decision before I find out if I did anything wrong and even then this type of firm does not really offer feedback. My problem is that I will never be in such a good position to secure this role as I am now. Without it I have to take the next job that comes along; just to pay the bills. And working outside this sector will cause me to be passed over for future interviews. So this was my last chance and I would have worked harder than anybody else to do a great job, because it was not just a job to me. And I feel so sad that, poof, it has probably gone....

Steel, please remember you can do everything "right" and still not get the job! I know you are discouraged. But please remember: you are you, a wonderful human being, and getting or not getting this job is not going to change that! Sometimes we do have to move outside our field.....but sometimes when we do we are able to create a new beginning utilizing the tools and knowledge of our field in ways we had not foreseen or imagined.

mz

 

[bee*]

Oh Steel-I have been waiting for your update all day. Please don''t think you''re out of the race until you hear from them. Sending tons of hugs-I know how horrible it is to want something so badly and you can''t get in the door.

 

[mrscushion]

It sounds like you are pretty sure you didn''t get the job even though you haven''t heard. What tough luck. I''m so, so sorry Steel.

 

[CJ2008]

Steel,

I am so sorry that it looks like you aren''t going to get the job.

But sorrier for all the stress and anxiety you''re going through.

I don''t know what kind of industry this is, as I only read your first post and skimmed the last couple of pages. And, I know it''s easier to say these things than to do them - but how about doing something BOLD? I know what the formal process is, etc., etc. - but how about calling over there and speaking to a decision maker as to why you ARE the right person for the job? (even though I''m sure you did that via your thank you notes, etc.)

However - you can''t effectively do that from a place of worry/stress/anxiety - you have to come from a strong and powerful place. THEY would be missing out. Go BEYOND all of the stuff you already said - what ELSE will they be missing out on? You have to believe that they need YOU as much as you need them. And tell them that.

But if you even at all consider doing that I would spend today/tomorrow quieting my mind/visualizing positive outcomes/getting myself into the right frame of mind.

It would be giving it your best best best shot.

Good luck Steel. I really hope you get this job.

 

[movie zombie]

Steel, thinking of you!

mz

 

[somethingshiny]

I''m sorry to hear that you think it''s over. But, remember, when dreams seem to come to an end, there are ALWAYS more dreams. You can''t stop them from coming! So, pick yourself up and dust yourself off. YOU will be okay. I''d guess that you''ll be much better than okay.

I''ve always liked this quote: "To sit patiently with a yearning that has not yet been fulfilled, and to trust that, that fulfillment will come, is quite possibly one of the most powerful "magic skills" that human beings are capable of. It has been noted by almost every ancient wisdom tradition."

 

[Steel]

Thank you Dragonfly.

MZ: I hope so, I really do. I cannot get this position out of my mind. I awoke at 6 this morning having only got to sleep after 2 and my first thought was to check my phone and how much I hope that this works out. It is no longer up to me and I really wish I could further impress upon the company what a great choice I would be. But woulda coulda''s don''t achive anything

. That said I am praying.

Bee: I am trying to talk myself back in the game - until I hear otherwise. I really did great interviews and I hope that they will stand to me.

mscushion: yup, it sucks. I am trying to be less pessimistic.

CJ: Awh, thank you so much. It is a v.e.r.y formal field and as much as I would LOVE to go back it would guarantee to get my name crossed off the list. It would be really frowned upon.

MZ: Thank you for checking in. I really appreciate support at the moment.

SS: I have felt so low since Friday it is very difficult for me not to mourn the position. On advice of family and friends I am trying to think more positively until I hear definitively later on in the week. Fingers are most certainly crossed.

 

[miraclesrule]

Steel- Um, your name is Steel.

I''ve had this happen to me on four occasions. Every time I didn''t think I got the job, I did get an offer, except for one..but they can back to me a year later when their first choice didn''t work out. To my own surprise, the last company that offered me a position,I turned down. I had to wait 6 MONTHS to get the one job that would solidify my career path. I thought for sure that they re-posted the position because they didn''t like me or the other candidates. I took a measly temp position that I hated and lo'' and behold, I come home to a message that I never expected.

Free your mind and your timeline. Ask for a miracle. You will get it, but if it isn''t this job, it will be even better. I promise.

 

[TravelingGal]

Hang in there Steel...as far as I can see, the fat lady has not sung yet. We''re pulling for you.

 

[Steel]

miraclesrule &TGal: Thank you both for your positive posts!

On a random note, I have a song that keeps swirling around in my head. I''m sure it is from a Father of the Bride type movie where there are ladies dressed up as bridesmaids singing something like "wishing and hoping and praying....do whap do...uuuummmmmh". That segment of the song (because I do not know the rest of it) is swirling round and around my head, because that is exactly what I am doing.

Again, I can''t tell you how much I appreciate this support online, thanks.

 

[Steel]

I found it....awh.

You Tube Linky

 

[miraclesrule]

Ahhhhhh, Dusty Springfield. I used to want to be her.

I''d be hearing "Hang on Snoopy, Snoopy hang on" in my head.

Hang in there Steel!!

 

[movie zombie]

where art thou, Steel?!

doing ok?

mz

 

[Delster]

Steel you''re in my thoughts every day, still rooting for you and sending out lots of success vibes. Don''t give up.

Have you ever considered hopping over to the ''other side of the fence'' (trying to speak in code here!) just for the ''paperwork'', and then hopping back over after a year or two of experience with a firm? I know a couple of people who''ve done that, to expedite the whole process, and it''s worked out well for them.

But I really hope this offer comes through for you!

 

[Steel]

MZ & Delster.

I have changed into such a stressed person this last month I am going to be relieved even if I do get a PFO tomorrow. DH and I have made the topic off limits because we have analysed everything to death and just need an answer now.

I would die happy tomorrow if I got this job but honestly it looks unlikely.

They said they would have a decision by the end of this week for sure but there is only one day left (...see I'm clever

) I can't imagine I will get a call tomorrow at 11 saying, Hey Steel, sorry about leaving you hangin' but you are hired! I just hope that if it is not for me, that the PFO will arrive so I can get on with my life and pop to Tesco for come Coke for my favourite bad news drink; Brandy & Coke.

I would do anything to qualify and am so ready, in fact I am going to get 'less ready' because I have to take a basic admin job to pay the bills which removes me from the sector. I feel so very sad.

Would anybody like to be my fairy godmother and whisk me off to the ball?

Del: TC's are just as illusive in the UK as here. The problem there is that I would be there and DH here. As for going to the US, I would love to! But again, I am an 'old' married woman. Is that even an option for me; I would have to pass the exams and work for a few years before I could sit the equivalency back here. I know I am not the only person searching for their golden ticket but I have been searching for sooooo long; why can't this be my chance?

 

[Ara Ann]

Steel,

I am so sorry to hear about this...you sound so down. I know you are disappointed, and I''m sure that''s an understatement. I won''t try to talk you out of feeling discouraged, take some time to get through this...but I''m hopeful, after you''ve had the time to reflect on everything, you will be able to move past it. Sending you big hugs...

 

[movie zombie]

ok, here''s my take: they''re having a hard time making a decision. they were supposed to tell you the end of LAST week but didn''t. if you were out of the running, you''d have been told that already. in this case, no news is good news.

however, if you don''t get it, i see this: Steel takes an administrative job to pay the bills. eventually, someone notices she''s got a lot of knowledge and they need help with contracts or whatever. Steel rises to the occassion and to a position worthy of her skills.

mz

ps personally, i was a bourbon and cola person.....now i just go it straight with a manhattan.......good news or bad!

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 10/22/2009 3:30:39 PM
Author: Steel
I would die happy tomorrow if I got this job but honestly it looks unlikely.

They said they would have a decision by the end of this week for sure but there is only one day left (...see I''m clever

) I can''t imagine I will get a call tomorrow at 11 saying, Hey Steel, sorry about leaving you hangin'' but you are hired! I just hope that if it is not for me, that the PFO will arrive so I can get on with my life and pop to Tesco for come Coke for my favourite bad news drink; Brandy & Coke.

good luck Steel

you''ll never know,anything can happen.

 

[Steel]

Thanks for the support Ara Ann, MZ & DF!

So, here is the "update" and I use that term loosely.

It is almost 3pm and the post has come and gone. There was no PFO. My telephone hasn't rung once.

No news cannot be good news at this stage.

I think it sucks I so wanted this job, but at least they could have let me know. (ps. I am in a bad mood, but it is only because I am so sad)

 

[Cehrabehra]

I''m so sorry Steel - I don''t know what to say. Usually in this situation it can mean that someone else was chosen but they have to make sure they fully accept the job - leaving the #2 person hanging and hanging... but sometimes #1 doesn''t take it so there''s still a chance. I have no idea what industry this is, it''s all very esoteric to me, so I cannot really know what the norms are. I hope that you don''t let this be your last chance though, I know it''s hard but keep pushing! Unless you''re a spokesmodel who has always wanted to drive bigwheels and they''re getting too small

 

[Steel]

Date: 10/23/2009 10:26:06 AM
Author: Cehrabehra
I''m so sorry Steel - I don''t know what to say. Usually in this situation it can mean that someone else was chosen but they have to make sure they fully accept the job - leaving the #2 person hanging and hanging... but sometimes #1 doesn''t take it so there''s still a chance. I have no idea what industry this is, it''s all very esoteric to me, so I cannot really know what the norms are. I hope that you don''t let this be your last chance though, I know it''s hard but keep pushing! Unless you''re a spokesmodel who has always wanted to drive bigwheels and they''re getting too small

Oh, thank you for the giggle...

Sorry to be cryptic, I am not trying to be a pain in the a$$. I am just trying to be anonymous; goodness knows why but it is ingrained in me to be illusive about the who''s what when where and why''s online. But I''m sure nobody would even care if I posted a big pic of myself in flagrante, never mind what sector I am applying to. That said, it is ingrained in me now.

 

[Skippy123]

sending lots and lots of good vibes, ps dust!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Regular Guy]

Date: 10/22/2009 3:30:39 PM
Author: Steel
They said they would have a decision by the end of this week for sure but there is only one day left (...see I''m clever

)

Well...I haven''t heard the fat lady sing yet.

Wishing you patience, strength, and a bit of good luck.

Regards,

 

[canuk-gal]

HI:

Recently, I too, was waiting for my phone to ring about a position I longed and was eminently qualified for.....call never came....I could not understand why as the person who assured me of communication was very sincere...the call did come albeit 3 weeks later.....the decision had to go up then back down the chain of command....turns out funding had changed...position was eliminated...and it took that long for the information to change hands and get back to me. The employer was very embarrassed at having suggested the timing to me--"end of the week" because in fact, it was out of her hands and she did not know it.

My point is Steel, and yes I do have one--circumstances surrounding the position and hiring could have changed and folks are not at liberty/cannot comment. Variables like timelines change frequently even without key players knowledge...and they inadvertantly make promises they cannot keep...

Keep your chin up!

cheers--Sharon

 

[Delster]

Steel I think Cehra may have hit the nail on the head. That's been done to me a few times - left hanging while numero uno makes their mind up. It sucks.

I so want this to come through for you, you deserve it so much after all the fight and determination you've shown. Don't give up yet hon, please. We need more people like you who really really want the job.

Totally agree with you about the UK, and there are huge difficulties there with getting the Irish qualifying degrees recognised, you'd have to take on extra courses before you'd even be considered, and then you'd probably have to commit to giving seven years post-qualification. Or so I hear anyway.

But in any event I actually didn't mean to consider going to the UK, I meant to consider the 'other side of the fence' right here at home! I meant you could consider doing your studies a little further 'up the hill', in the place where you don't need a TC... get that qualification, go straight into your chosen line of work rather than adopting the usual course people take after that degree, and then after a couple of years working you just 'switch over'... wouldn't take you any longer than the 'official route' although of course it would be one year of awful hardship with the fees. But then not all TCs include fees so maybe it all evens out? I dunno, I could be talking out of my hat here! Plus I'm trying to be keep things cryptic and it's so hard!!!