The Joy of Toxic Family

[House Cat]

I participate because my grandmother who is currently 96 turning 97 is there, and given the fact I had not seen her for a year and she could die at any time I feel obligated into going. I'm glad I got to see her. I'm not glad I have to deal with all the B/S from 2 x families (we see both my husband's and mine usually not both at once but within days of each other) that goes with it.

Sending you hugs. I hope you are able to decompress and wash yourself free of the toxic feelings from that day.

Is it possible to arrange different visiting times with your grandma to avoid the drama? This is what a lot of people do when a loved one is still immersed in the toxic family. They might not see their beloved family member on the actual day of the special event but they get to maintain their sanity. Many have said that they actually prefer their meetings this way because they get their family member all to themselves.

 

[arkieb1]

Sending you hugs. I hope you are able to decompress and wash yourself free of the toxic feelings from that day.

Is it possible to arrange different visiting times with your grandma to avoid the drama? This is what a lot of people do when a loved one is still immersed in the toxic family. They might not see their beloved family member on the actual day of the special event but they get to maintain their sanity. Many have said that they actually prefer their meetings this way because they get their family member all to themselves.

No because she lives with them as carers for her, and to be honest at times she can be pretty toxic to everyone herself, but I figure she is really old and has who knows how much time left so I would rather see her than not.