Chili_Willy
Rough_Rock
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- Jan 9, 2009
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- 15
Hi all,
I''m mostly just a lurker here, but recently bought an engagement ring with the tremendous help of this site. I write to you now with an unfortunate problem. I relocated with my girlfriend last October as I knew I wanted to marry her, but have had a long job search here. I wanted to find employment before proposing and she knew this but around Thanksgiving/Christmas I decided I should just do it as I have already made up my mind and promised myself I would marry her, so I thought I should make the same promise to her.
I did tell her around Christmas that it would be coming soon with or without a job....
Well two months of shopping and lead time later I will receive the ring next week, just before we leave on a Caribbean vacation where I intend to propose, but I want it to surprise her, she wants that too.
Though I''ve been very careful, shes very perceptive. Yesterday a Tiffany catalog came in the mail and I joked that I knew what she wanted in there. Something about the way she said "don''t tease me" made me fear she knew I intended to propose on the vacation.
In hindsight I should have let her suspect it was coming, but last night I wanted to keep it a surprise so I said that we''ll take a trip to Tiffany to look at rings after I get the job offer I expect next week.
Well this backfired - she got really upset, and told me she thought I would have proposed by now, why did I need the Job if we''d end up together anyway, all sorts of stuff, she cried and I was at a loss of things to say. She was still very upset this morning when she left for work.
I''m sure the surprise is not worth upsetting her this way, but at the same time I don''t want to ruin my planned proposal. I need her to be in a good and happy mood to do it right. What should I do?
My best idea now is to tell a friend or her sister, and have them call her with the hopes that she will confide this upset to them, and then have them suggest that I was just trying to keep it a surprise.
Also I had planned to aske her dad permission the day before we left, because I don''t trust he won''t let it slip. Maybe I should ask him now?
Thanks for any suggestions ladies.
- Will
I''m mostly just a lurker here, but recently bought an engagement ring with the tremendous help of this site. I write to you now with an unfortunate problem. I relocated with my girlfriend last October as I knew I wanted to marry her, but have had a long job search here. I wanted to find employment before proposing and she knew this but around Thanksgiving/Christmas I decided I should just do it as I have already made up my mind and promised myself I would marry her, so I thought I should make the same promise to her.
I did tell her around Christmas that it would be coming soon with or without a job....
Well two months of shopping and lead time later I will receive the ring next week, just before we leave on a Caribbean vacation where I intend to propose, but I want it to surprise her, she wants that too.
Though I''ve been very careful, shes very perceptive. Yesterday a Tiffany catalog came in the mail and I joked that I knew what she wanted in there. Something about the way she said "don''t tease me" made me fear she knew I intended to propose on the vacation.
In hindsight I should have let her suspect it was coming, but last night I wanted to keep it a surprise so I said that we''ll take a trip to Tiffany to look at rings after I get the job offer I expect next week.
Well this backfired - she got really upset, and told me she thought I would have proposed by now, why did I need the Job if we''d end up together anyway, all sorts of stuff, she cried and I was at a loss of things to say. She was still very upset this morning when she left for work.
I''m sure the surprise is not worth upsetting her this way, but at the same time I don''t want to ruin my planned proposal. I need her to be in a good and happy mood to do it right. What should I do?
My best idea now is to tell a friend or her sister, and have them call her with the hopes that she will confide this upset to them, and then have them suggest that I was just trying to keep it a surprise.
Also I had planned to aske her dad permission the day before we left, because I don''t trust he won''t let it slip. Maybe I should ask him now?
Thanks for any suggestions ladies.
- Will