AmberWaves
Ideal_Rock
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Here''s the deal: My father is my best friend. He and my mom split up awhile ago. My dad has this "friend", has been "friends" with her for probably 10 years or so. Now, my parents were never married, and stopped loving each other a LONG time ago. This woman and my father have gone on trips together and other various things. Over the span of the friendship, they have stopped being friends for years at a time. She is very emotionally abusive, and she oftens tells my father that he''s useless, and that he''ll "never get her or another woman because he''s got nothing good to offer" and that she doesn''t know why she hangs out with him. If anyone has seen "SYbil" this is an exact story. She''s cruel to my father, one minute being nice to him and another literally hitting him. He doesn''t have many friends, not because he''s unlikeable, but because he''s just not good at making friends. Also, I am number one in his life, and always will be. He''d rather spend weekends with me, than anyone else. Since I''ve moved out, he''s been alone a lot, often hanging out with her because she''ll invite him out. She''ll make dinner for him, and then when they''re getting ready to sit down, she''ll get angry about something and literally box up the food, hand him his jacket and tell him to never call her again, forget her numbers and email. He hates this, it hurts him. But he has no one else. She has told him at least 100 times (that i know about) that he''s no good, and he was a horrible father (WHICH I COULD KILL HER FOR), and that she never wants anything to do with him. She''ll tell him never to call her, but then will call him days later bitching about why he didn''t call. Her attitude is very psychopathic, and bi-polar at times. He tries to explain things, and when the topic isn''t on her, she hangs up. She is utterly rude, and emotionally retarded. She''s abusive, emotionally, physically, and mentally. I tell him this, and he knows, but again, feels he has no option. She tells him that she''s all who''ll take him. Since they''re remodeling his house, he''s got plants and animals at her place. She yells at him for not taking care of them- he''s afraid to go over there when she''s angry- all the time it seems. He wants to take his things back, but is afraid no one will take care of them the two weeks he''s gone to my brother''s wedding. I told him I would, but still have to talk him into it. She bought his ticket to Australia for the wedding, and his visa, and got furious when he had bought his own visa. When I told him to buy his own ticket, he''s said he already got in trouble because of the visa thing. He doesn''t ask for anything. No help from her at all. She buys things for him when she''s gotten angry at him. To try to make up for it. The last straw was this morning, she called and asked him why he hadn''t called, and when he told her it was because she told him not to, she told him that all of her friends find him immature and irritating. That made me so angry. He is the friendlest man alive, and would do anything for his loved ones. The fact that she said that made me want to go write her an angry email telling her exactly what i think of her, and how she treats my father, but I didn''t.
The question is this: Should I email her? It''s been going on for far too long, and I can''t let her keep hurting her like this. She''s almost 60 years old, constantly acting like a child. Should I wait until he can get his plants and animals? I can''t let this happen anymore. I know he''s an adult, but it''s gone too far. He doesn''t stick up for himself.
The question is this: Should I email her? It''s been going on for far too long, and I can''t let her keep hurting her like this. She''s almost 60 years old, constantly acting like a child. Should I wait until he can get his plants and animals? I can''t let this happen anymore. I know he''s an adult, but it''s gone too far. He doesn''t stick up for himself.
I''m not one to actively wish harm on someone, but I wish her major harm.
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