Smoking dilemma

[House Cat]

Well I'm a nonsmoker, and a couple members of my family are smokers. They know when they are visiting either me or my brother, to go on the back stoop to smoke. Most likely your neighbor is probably complying with the requests of other nonsmokers, ones who either live with them or visit, to smoke outside, rather than the convenient thing which is to smoke inside. Believe me smokers do not smell the smoking residue so avoiding smoking up the interior is NOT the reason. It's either because of some other nonsmoker request, or they simply enjoy being outdoors and enjoying a smoke at the same time.
Also, my smoking family members are always telling me about the latest restrictions on smoking, whether it is restaurants, bars, and at work.

So just to give you a perspective, this person is probably already doing something they perceive as inconvenient. They are doing it on their own property, one of the few places left they can legally smoke. And now you are going to ask them to not do that as well.

Just like someone firing up a grill or burning wood in a fire pit, sure you may ask your neighbors not to do that on their property, but they are well within their right to refuse.

I think a fan not in the window itself but in the room directed towards the windows should help with ventilation.

If you are a non-smoker, I do not understand how you can be so certain about this statement.

I used to be a smoker.

I was NOT aware of how much it stunk up my environment until after I quit.


For instance, when I am driving there can be a person driving three cars ahead of me with a smoker inside and I can smell the cigarette smoke. I am appalled. Or when we are at a park, you can smell a person's cigarette smoke. I shudder to think what our old neighbors went though when my friends and I would sit outside and smoke for hours! Sigh.

I didn't really smell it. I thought it went up in the air and dissipated. Because, well, I couldn't smell it. I had no idea how immune to the smell I had become.


(when i was a smoker)If I had a neighbor who had a newborn and they kindly told me that my cigarette smoke was going into that baby's bedroom window, believe me, I would smoke somewhere else.

 

[hlmr]

Well I'm a nonsmoker, and a couple members of my family are smokers. They know when they are visiting either me or my brother, to go on the back stoop to smoke. Most likely your neighbor is probably complying with the requests of other nonsmokers, ones who either live with them or visit, to smoke outside, rather than the convenient thing which is to smoke inside. Believe me smokers do not smell the smoking residue so avoiding smoking up the interior is NOT the reason. It's either because of some other nonsmoker request, or they simply enjoy being outdoors and enjoying a smoke at the same time.
Also, my smoking family members are always telling me about the latest restrictions on smoking, whether it is restaurants, bars, and at work.

So just to give you a perspective, this person is probably already doing something they perceive as inconvenient. They are doing it on their own property, one of the few places left they can legally smoke. And now you are going to ask them to not do that as well.

Just like someone firing up a grill or burning wood in a fire pit, sure you may ask your neighbors not to do that on their property, but they are well within their right to refuse.

I think a fan not in the window itself but in the room directed towards the windows should help with ventilation.

If you are a non-smoker, I do not understand how you can be so certain about this statement.

I used to be a smoker.

I was NOT aware of how much it stunk up my environment until after I quit.


For instance, when I am driving there can be a person driving three cars ahead of me with a smoker inside and I can smell the cigarette smoke. I am appalled. Or when we are at a park, you can smell a person's cigarette smoke. I shudder to think what our old neighbors went though when my friends and I would sit outside and smoke for hours! Sigh.

I didn't really smell it. I thought it went up in the air and dissipated. Because, well, I couldn't smell it. I had no idea how immune to the smell I had become.


(when i was a smoker)If I had a neighbor who had a newborn and they kindly told me that my cigarette smoke was going into that baby's bedroom window, believe me, I would smoke somewhere else.

Oh, I totally hear you on not realizing how badly it smelled to non-smokers, as I once smoked too. The part that I am questioning is the statement that a smoker wouldn't actively choose to avoid smoking in the house, just because it was stinking up their interior. I chose to smoke outside when I did smoke, for that very reason. I didn't want my furniture/contents to reek, or my walls to discolour.