Wedding silly save the date question

[DMBFiredancer]

after you sent your save the dates, did people contact you and let you know they got them? or say they were looking forward to the wedding or anything?

my immediate family and some closest friends did, but i guess i just figured i would have gotten a few more emails about it.

maybe i''m just being silly...do people usually say anything? what are your experiences?

i guess i was bummed that i spent so much time on a stinking wedding webpage and it has only 3 comments on it LOL

 

[kittybean]

My experience has been that a few people have said something, like, "Oh, they're cute!" or "I'm looking forward to the wedding," but most of the people who commented were close friends or family. The majority of guests haven't said anything, which is fine. To me, sending the Saves the Dates was just a courtesy to them, letting them know when they might expect the wedding to be--no response expected at all.

ETA: As far as the website goes, don't worry about the comments. Many people may have looked at it, but you have to remember that people are often uncomfortable posting comments publicly, or they don't know what to say, or they don't feel close enough to you to comment, or they're just not tech-savvy. Don't be bummed; I'm sure people are very excited about your wedding!

 

[DMBFiredancer]

thanks kitty bean! i feel much better
i went into a weird panic mode of "maybe people arent going to come!"

lol

thanks for the reassurance

 

[Sparkalicious]

DMBFiredancer - You seem to be feeling exactly the same way as I do right now.

A few people have called to let me know that they received their save the dates and that they loved them and are looking forward to the wedding etc but not as many as I had hoped. A lot of work went into both our website and our save the dates so we were sooooper excited to "launch" them for our guests. I guess it is just one of those things where people are never as excited about your wedding as you are, right?

I don''t think that you are being silly at all. I think that depending on the people and their relationship to you and their personality, they may be more likely to contact you but I don''t necessarily think that people automatically contact you or even know exactly what they should do or *if* they should contact you, right?

I totally hear you about the website as well. I have spent a ridiculous amount of time on ours and am so pleased and proud of it but only 4 or 5 people have signed our guestbook so far but we''ve had tons of hits so I know that far more people have checked it out than have signed. If I try to be rational about it, I agree with Kittybean ... some people are just not comfortable with signing or sharing their sentiments in a public forum and, for us, our wedding is in September of next year so people may very well feel as though they have lots of time. This is totally legitimate. If I step back out of my bride fog, I can recall doing the same for other weddings. I may check out the website several times before I actually sign it.

It''s pretty funny how being a bride can change your perspective, isn''t it??? I think that next time I get a save the date, I will contact the bride/groom to let them know.

I bet you that in the months to come you are going to get a lot more comments on your webpage ... if you have put a lot of time in and it looks great, your guests are going to appreciate and acknowlege that ... just maybe not as quickly as we would like them to.

 

[newbie124]

We have a relatively modest guest list and it''s limited to close family and friends so I did actually hear from a good number of people when they received our Save the Dates. However, most of those were my family members and a few close friends (and then some people confirmed when prompted by me asking .

There were definitely some who didn''t comment at all and I guess I just have to assume they got them. As far as I know, no one from FI''s family said a thing to us...his parents never even said anything about our website (grr), but I had a lot of feedback from my relatives.

I think there''s nothing wrong though w/ at least asking a few people if they received them. At least you''d know they weren''t lost in the mail!

 

[DMBFiredancer]

Date: 11/2/2008 11:06:01 PM
Author: Sparkalicious
I guess it is just one of those things where people are never as excited about your wedding as you are, right?


It''s pretty funny how being a bride can change your perspective, isn''t it??? I think that next time I get a save the date, I will contact the bride/groom to let them know.

sparkalicious -

i''m shocked that you didnt hear from more people considering how amazing your std''s are! i would have called just to tell you how great it was! its so good to know i am not crazy for feeling this way...and that i''m not the only one in this boat. i guess i just expected one of my groups of friends to at least email.
it does change perspective, you are right - i do remember contacting people when i got stds, but i will make sure i do so even more now

newbie - i want to put my nose right up to your avatar when i see it! cutest kitty nose ever!

thank you again, everyone

 

[newbie124]

Date: 11/3/2008 8:57:42 AM
Author: DMBFiredancer

newbie - i want to put my nose right up to your avatar when i see it! cutest kitty nose ever!

thank you again, everyone

Haha, thanks That''s usually the face I wake up to every morning (or rather the face that wakes me up!)

 

[Sparkalicious]

Date: 11/3/2008 8:57:42 AM
Author: DMBFiredancer
sparkalicious -

i''m shocked that you didnt hear from more people considering how amazing your std''s are! i would have called just to tell you how great it was! its so good to know i am not crazy for feeling this way...and that i''m not the only one in this boat. i guess i just expected one of my groups of friends to at least email.
it does change perspective, you are right - i do remember contacting people when i got stds, but i will make sure i do so even more now

DMB - You are too sweet. Thanks. I expected that the bridal party, all of them, at a minimum would contact us to say something. Only some of them have ... I can only attribute this to varying personalities. The ones who haven''t contacted us are the married ones, for the most part and I figure that they are just "over it", so to speak. Phooey to them.

You know what''s funny as well ... you can''t please all the people all the time, right? I suppose that there is likely the other type of bride to be out there who doesn''t wish to be contacted when people get any wedding correspondence ... I know that my cousin would have been annoyed if a bunch of people called her or emailed her after they got their save the dates, for example, because it would just take more time out of her day etc. She was NOT into the wedding planning stuff at all. Go figure??!

Be that as it may ... I willl be doing the same as you. Even though I contact people already, I''m stepping it up. Too much work goes into all of this for it not to be appreciated! Regardless of whether or not people want it or not.

 

[marchswallowbird]

FI and I are only inviting 40 people, all close family and friends. It''s a destination wedding because the venue is about 400 miles from where we live, but still in CA. We sent out save the dates very early because hotel rooms are scarce and can book up a year in advance. NOBODY responded AT ALL to my save the dates, even though we explicitly said that we would like to hear from people now who know they will be coming. Since most of them are close family and will be coming we expected to hear from SOME. But not one person responded. Nada. Zip. Zilch. Not even to say they received the save the date! We''ve heard from OTHER relatives that my uncle and three of FI''s neices and nephews can''t make it, but nobody has responded to us directly. Tacky and rude, in my opinion. Relatives, sheesh.

Truthfully, because of this, I am not going to bend over backwards to send out beautiful invitations. They are going to be nice, and have all of the necessary maps, directions and other information, but I have decided to do something simple and DIY and not spend a lot of money, since it seems nobody really cares about the invites. One more place to save $$.