Sick of hearing that mistresses feel so "deceived"

[sugarpie honeybun]

Maybe I’m missing something here, but why exactly do all of Tiger’s mistresses feel so deceived? That’s all I keep hearing on the news. Weren’t they deceiving his wife and children by having an ongoing relationship with Tiger? Are they that naïve to think they were the “special” one and that he’d leave his wife someday?

 

[Prana]

You said it! They all thought they were the only (other) one, and that one day Tiger would leave his wife and kids for them. Pure stupidity.

 

[Nomsdeplume]

I don''t ever have any pity for any woman who will sleep with a married man. There wouldn''t be any men cheating if there were no women out there who would be willing to sleep with a man who is already married/in another relationship.

 

[trillionaire]

this is very common. I had a friend who was dating a man she knew was living with someone else, and when she saw that he had text messages from several women, she FLIPPED OUT!

 

[TravelingGal]

Date: 2/19/2010 11:35:21 AM
Author: kribbie
I don''t ever have any pity for any woman who will sleep with a married man. There wouldn''t be any men cheating if there were no women out there who would be willing to sleep with a man who is already married/in another relationship.

Hahaha, not! Men lie about their marital status and cheat!

 

[radiantquest]

It is one thing if they didnt know that he was married, but he is a public figure and it was well known that he is married. They have no right to feel betrayed they are mistresses!

 

[decodelighted]

If they''ll do it WITH you, they''ll do it TO you. These ladies were just hoping to get a piece of the PIE first I guess? Power/money/fame are powerful temptations. Especially for women with no self esteem, compassion or scruples.

 

[sugarpie honeybun]

And it’s interesting that one of the mistresses hired power attorney Gloria Allred to defend her…"reputation". Hmm…

 

[Shoopy]

Date: 2/19/2010 11:36:48 AM
Author: TravelingGal

Date: 2/19/2010 11:35:21 AM
Author: kribbie
I don''t ever have any pity for any woman who will sleep with a married man. There wouldn''t be any men cheating if there were no women out there who would be willing to sleep with a man who is already married/in another relationship.

Hahaha, not! Men lie about their marital status and cheat!

Who''s that calling you in the middle of the night?

Dat just my baby momma!

 

[Bia]

They have to say that, otherwise they just look like h**s.

I''m sure a few of the not-so-bright ones thought they were the ''one and only.''

 

[Nomsdeplume]

Date: 2/19/2010 11:36:48 AM
Author: TravelingGal

Date: 2/19/2010 11:35:21 AM
Author: kribbie
I don''t ever have any pity for any woman who will sleep with a married man. There wouldn''t be any men cheating if there were no women out there who would be willing to sleep with a man who is already married/in another relationship.

Hahaha, not! Men lie about their marital status and cheat!

Unless you are a one night stand, I''m guessing the signs would be there:
He only answers his phone or calls you during the day and during week days.
He doesn''t let you visit him at his place.
He doesn''t want you to meet his family and friends.
If he''s going away on business, he invites you along.
He is secretive about certain aspects of his life/phone calls etc.

I''m SURE she won''t figure it out. But just in case, maybe we need to introduce a new class for girls at school level.

 

[sugarpie honeybun]

Date: 2/19/2010 11:50:31 AM
Author: kribbie

Unless you are a one night stand, I''m guessing the signs would be there:
He only answers his phone or calls you during the day and during week days.
He doesn''t let you visit him at his place.
He doesn''t want you to meet his family and friends.
If he''s going away on business, he invites you along.
He is secretive about certain aspects of his life/phone calls etc.

I''m SURE she won''t figure it out. But just in case, maybe we need to introduce a new class for girls at school level.

Now this is something I never thought of! Good one!

 

[janinegirly]

Mistresses feel deceived because they fall for the bs line fed them about being the ONE and that the wife will be dumped soon. This is why I sometimes feel women are women's worst enemies--I mean come on, you're cheating and you still want the fairy tale?! Wake up and try to live life right and then worry about the fairy tale!

In this case however (Tiger's harem), a big piece is just wanting to stay in the spotlight..so these women say whatever in order to grab another headline for a day.

 

[sugarpie honeybun]

Date: 2/19/2010 12:02:47 PM
Author: janinegirly
Mistresses feel deceived because they fall for the bs line fed them about being the ONE and that the wife will be dumped soon. This is why I sometimes feel women are women's worst enemies--I mean come on, you're cheating and you still want the fairy tale?! Wake up and try to live life right and then worry about the fairy tale!

In this case however (Tiger's harem), a big piece is just wanting to stay in the spotlight..so these women say whatever in order to grab another headline for a day.

You know what, you are so right. Can you say "book deal"? Silly me.

I wonder if he'll pay them off to not write a book. Gosh, these gals might actually be pretty smart!

(sort of, but not really)

 

[Rachel9]

Things people do/say for a TV moment

being a mistress it''s just like unpaid W* ....you don''t need a lawayer to know that.

 

[VRBeauty]

Date: 2/19/2010 12:21:25 PM
Author: Rachel9
Things people do/say for a TV moment

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My thoughts exactly... or they''re trying to somehow parlay their 15 minutes of fame into a long-term paycheck.

But I think it may be a bit of a generalization to say that all of Tiger''s "other women" are p**ed off. I hope there''s at least one out there who''s feeling hurt or shame and hiding from the limelight.

 

[kenny]

Not surprising at all.

Cheating is about setting aside reality and indulging in fantasy.
Expecting him to "cheat only with me" makes as much sense as "this married man really really cares for me".

 

[Sizzle]

I don''t get that either! They set their own selves up. I too am disgusted by the "he said he loved me" and the " I got pregnant" .. I doubt you aborted your gravy train baby. These women are too opportunistic to be "innocent"

 

[Dancing Fire]

an old Chinese saying...being a mistress is better than being a wife.

the mistress always receive expensive gifts.

i have a friend whom bought his misterss an E VVS2 2.10 ct rb,plus a pair of F VVS2 1ct studs.

btw; all three of these stone were GIA XXX, but are what PSers would call steep/deep stones.

 

[AprilBaby]

BOO HOO for them-NOT!

 

[galeteia]

Date: 2/19/2010 11:40:56 AM
Author: decodelighted
If they''ll do it WITH you, they''ll do it TO you.

You know that quote about "when a man marries his mistress, he creates a job opening", eh?

 

[gemgirl]

Every mistress thinks she's "the one" who's going to save some "poor guy's" life.

Deception is necessary for any affair to happen.

 

[Arkteia]

I am probably cynical. I doubt that Tiger was the only man in their lives either. Is it unreasonable to assume that they were dating other guys at the same time, too?
Now here is this girl of ...not too strong moral standards, possibly not too smart. Suddenly she is on national TV, she feels important. She has to say something important, something moving, doesn''t she? So she says she felt "deceived". In reality, she is just one of many who slept with a celebrity.

 

[Cehrabehra]

Date: 2/19/2010 11:35:21 AM
Author: kribbie
I don''t ever have any pity for any woman who will sleep with a married man. There wouldn''t be any men cheating if there were no women out there who would be willing to sleep with a man who is already married/in another relationship.

there''d still be cheating men because sometimes men lie too.

 

[atroop711]

I love how one of them today was on the TV with a lawyer crying and saying the she deserved an apology...WHAT? She knew he was married, she knew the situation...she doesn''t get an apology.

Some ppl want that 15min anyway they could get it.

 

[Gailey]

Date: 2/19/2010 2:22:31 PM
Author: Dancing Fire
an old Chinese saying...being a mistress is better than being a wife.

the mistress always receive expensive gifts.

i have a friend whom bought his misterss an E VVS2 2.10 ct rb,plus a pair of F VVS2 1ct studs.

btw; all three of these stone were GIA XXX, but are what PSers would call steep/deep stones.

A number of years ago British TV aired a documentary about the lives of a couple of wives of prominent politicians. When asked by the interviewer, "What is it like to be the wife of a cabinet minister?" She responded by saying, "Not half as much fun, I imagine, as being the mistress of a cabinet minister!" I wish I could remember who she was.

 

[perry]

Based on what I know of the situation... I would not call these women "mistresses." Dates perhaps, in a relationship perhaps; but not "mistresses."

To me (a guy) a mistress is someone who you pay a routine stipend to be exclusively available for your romantic dalliances and other companionship needs. This is typically a long term situation - many months and often many years. In addition to the routine stipend various other gifts can be expected (jewelry, flowers, clothing, etc).

There is an understanding that there should not be children (unless agreed up front).

You can view the position as either an extension of the biblical "concubine" or as a form of high class prostitution; or something in the middle.

Of course the personalities and expectations must match; and both people do in fact check out the other person up front. There are both long term financial and emotional benefits to such a relationship (and many cultures do not have an expectation of sexual exclusiveness as part of a marriage).

As a single guy... might such a situation be better long term than dating a series of gals??? (assuming you can afford to support a mistress - and I personally would assume that the most basic agreement would start at $1000 per month for a minimum of a year; and can easily see how a good mistress could be worth $5000 - $10,000 a month - or more).

I know of no evidence that suggest that Tiger was paying any of these gals a monthly stipend with for a long term relationship; and thus believe that calling these women "mistresses" is inappropriate.

I am not saying that these women were not dating Tiger, or having occasional flings (affairs). But nothing so professional as being a real mistress. That might explain why they are so upset and feel so betrayed. A professional would just move on (and perhaps cash out her signed contract).

Perry

 

[Imdanny]

Date: 2/19/2010 11:41:22 AM
Author: sugarpie honeybun
And it’s interesting that one of the mistresses hired power attorney Gloria Allred to defend her…''reputation''. Hmm…

+1!

I was watching this on the news tonight and thinking, "WTF?" Since when do mistresses demand apologies? Or need lawyers? Just insane.

 

[Allison D.]

Date: 2/19/2010 10:34:00 PM
Author: perry
Based on what I know of the situation... I would not call these women ''mistresses.'' Dates perhaps, in a relationship perhaps; but not ''mistresses.''

To me (a guy) a mistress is someone who you pay a routine stipend to be exclusively available for your romantic dalliances and other companionship needs. This is typically a long term situation - many months and often many years. In addition to the routine stipend various other gifts can be expected (jewelry, flowers, clothing, etc).

There is an understanding that there should not be children (unless agreed up front).

You can view the position as either an extension of the biblical ''concubine'' or as a form of high class prostitution; or something in the middle.

Of course the personalities and expectations must match; and both people do in fact check out the other person up front. There are both long term financial and emotional benefits to such a relationship (and many cultures do not have an expectation of sexual exclusiveness as part of a marriage).

As a single guy... might such a situation be better long term than dating a series of gals??? (assuming you can afford to support a mistress - and I personally would assume that the most basic agreement would start at $1000 per month for a minimum of a year; and can easily see how a good mistress could be worth $5000 - $10,000 a month - or more).

I know of no evidence that suggest that Tiger was paying any of these gals a monthly stipend with for a long term relationship; and thus believe that calling these women ''mistresses'' is inappropriate.

I am not saying that these women were not dating Tiger, or having occasional flings (affairs). But nothing so professional as being a real mistress. That might explain why they are so upset and feel so betrayed. A professional would just move on (and perhaps cash out her signed contract).

Perry

Perry, according to many current-day definitions, a mistress is "a woman, other than his wife, with whom a man has a continuing sexual relationship".

While it is true that many mistresses are kept women (in that they are financially supported), it is not a requirement to satisfy the definition.

I don''t think dating is an apt definition; dating is a courtship undertaken by two people for the purpose of assessing their suitability as an intimate partner or spouse.

As for the upset/betrayed, that stems from a refusal to live in *reality*, not a broken ''contract''. Because they want so badly to believe in it, they delude themselves into thinking "I''m the one he loves so much that he''ll give up everything else for me."

Total pipe dream.

 

[perry]

Date: 2/20/2010 1:37:08 AM
Author: Allison D.

I don't think dating is an apt definition; dating is a courtship undertaken by two people for the purpose of assessing their suitability as an intimate partner or spouse.

I would disagree with your definition of dating. Many people "date" as a casual relationship without looking for long term suitability. The current term "Hooking Up" shows just how short term it can be.

Perry