Should I return the ring?

[chiquitapet]

Date: 5/29/2009 9:31:03 AM
Author: summertime
Logically, I think it would be foolish to spend such a sizeable amount of money on something you weren''t happy with, especially when you are within the return period.

Ditto.

 

[Londongirl1]

Date: 5/29/2009 12:30:57 PM
Author: MC
Jessicap, how much was the ring? Was it $1K or $5K? If it was a less expensive ring, then just live with it. If he spent a fortune, then explain to him the truth. I think your DH was trudging dangerous waters by picking a ring out without your input and then expecting you not to state your opinion. I would be *mad at my husband* if he spent $ on a ring and then attached strings to the deal. Luckily my DH never does that. He always just hands me the CC and has me pick out my own diamonds (and I like it that way!). (I think he''d be scared to buy me any jewelry at this point since I know diamonds too well!)

To be fair to Jessicap''s husband, his only ''crime'' was to buy his wife a birthday present! I don''t think it came with ''strings attached''. It sounds to me like he''s just got his feelings hurt becasue he thought he was doing something nice for his wife, then in his mind she rejects his loving gesture - give him a break!

If I didn''t like something my other half bought me I would thank him for the gift but say it''s just ''not me'' and I wouldn''t want him to spend his hard earned money on something I wasn''t entirely happy with.

 

[Stone Hunter]

Oh I hope this works out smoothly. He already knows she doesn''t love the ring so they do need to talk it out.

Hope you can explain that you just prefer rounds!

 

[swingirl]

Here is my 2 cents. If it were an engagement ring I''d say returning it for something you like better would be worth it. But for a birthday gift...I''d leave it alone and love the effort and sentiment. Funny thing about PS when I found this site I thought I wanted a princess, then I started to lean toward other square shapes and ended up with an asscher. I started off disliking rounds and pears and now I love them!! I''ve since bought a pear and a round and have my eye on a princess! There is beauty in every cut. But you only have one husband!

 

[Gypsy]

Date: 5/31/2009 1:01:10 AM
Author: swingirl
Here is my 2 cents. If it were an engagement ring I''d say returning it for something you like better would be worth it. But for a birthday gift...I''d leave it alone and love the effort and sentiment. Funny thing about PS when I found this site I thought I wanted a princess, then I started to lean toward other square shapes and ended up with an asscher. I started off disliking rounds and pears and now I love them!! I''ve since bought a pear and a round and have my eye on a princess! There is beauty in every cut. But you only have one husband!

DITTO!

 

[Londongirl1]

Date: 5/31/2009 1:01:10 AM
Author: swingirl
Here is my 2 cents. If it were an engagement ring I''d say returning it for something you like better would be worth it. But for a birthday gift...I''d leave it alone and love the effort and sentiment. Funny thing about PS when I found this site I thought I wanted a princess, then I started to lean toward other square shapes and ended up with an asscher. I started off disliking rounds and pears and now I love them!! I''ve since bought a pear and a round and have my eye on a princess! There is beauty in every cut. But you only have one husband!

Wow - well said

 

[marcy]

For a birthday gift I would keep it. I am like Swingirl that since joining PS my tastes and wish lists have moved from shape to shape and through every color of the rainbow gemstone. Since you loved it at first it must be a pretty ring. Many of my original jewelry was picked out by my husband for me; and while some of them I would not pick out for myself I still enjoy them because of the sentiment attached to them. We generally pick out our own gifts but I still like when he takes the time to pick out something for me that is a surprise.

 

[winternight]

Definitely return the ring! Your husband will get over it. I''ve returned gifts before from my fiance and honestly he could care less. In fact I think its much worse to have something you don''t really love because you won''t wear it that much. I have some diamond Tiffany earrings sitting around because I would have never picked them out on my own, I wear them maybe 1x a year. Its a shame. I really wish I would have spoken up and gotten something I loved.

 

[Ellen]

1 post and no update....

 

[jessicap]

Update:

We decide to return the ring. I think if I hadn''t told my feelings to my husband, I might keep the ring. But he already knows I am not 100% happy with the ring. I think it''s better to return it.

The ring is my first engagement-style ring. We married when we were both in graduate school. We got a pair of beautiful engraved wedding rings. Unfortunately, after our son was born, my finger size moved up. My wedding ring can''t be resized because of the engrave. My husband thought my birthday this year is a good time to give me a new ring. I feel very bad to return it but it will be worse if I keep it. I don''t think I can keep my dislike to the ring a secret for a lifetime.

My husband had recovered from this. He may never give me surprise jewelry anymore, but maybe it is better this way. He is always happy to let me buy things I like.

We will buy a new ring in a few months when our anniversary comes, with a bigger budget. It is hard to "upgrade" to anything smaller than the previous ring

 

[Imdanny]

Date: 5/29/2009 10:23:07 AM
Author: Ryon
3.8 liter V6


I did love cars along time ago, had one with rims, new exhaust, intake then it got totaled at a red light lol...

Ever since I refuse to care about cars...

LOL!

 

[Ellen]

Date: 6/2/2009 1:07:30 AM
Author: jessicap
Update:

We decide to return the ring. I think if I hadn''t told my feelings to my husband, I might keep the ring. But he already knows I am not 100% happy with the ring. I think it''s better to return it.

The ring is my first engagement-style ring. We married when we were both in graduate school. We got a pair of beautiful engraved wedding rings. Unfortunately, after our son was born, my finger size moved up. My wedding ring can''t be resized because of the engrave. My husband thought my birthday this year is a good time to give me a new ring. I feel very bad to return it but it will be worse if I keep it. I don''t think I can keep my dislike to the ring a secret for a lifetime.

My husband had recovered from this. He may never give me surprise jewelry anymore, but maybe it is better this way. He is always happy to let me buy things I like.

We will buy a new ring in a few months when our anniversary comes, with a bigger budget. It is hard to ''upgrade'' to anything smaller than the previous ring

Yay! I''m glad things worked out and he understands. I hope you find something wonderful, and please come back to share it!

 

[jet2ks]

Glad to hear that it worked out and there are no hard feelings. It sounds like the two of you came up with a good solution. I hope you can come back with pictures once the purchase has been made.

 

[Bliss]

Hooray! So glad things worked out for you! The same thing happened to me not long ago - Hubby surprised me with diamond earrings from WF, which I expressed a desire for randomly once. When I got them, I decided I wanted studs instead. (But they were lovely, I highly recommend WF!) Anyway, we returned them and everyone is happy now! Especially me! I''m so glad that you both know to pick things out together and that he sees that above all, you just want to love what he gave you in EVERY way, aesthetic qualities included!

 

[HornAround]

Date: 5/29/2009 9:53:05 AM
Author: bgray

Date: 5/29/2009 9:31:03 AM

Author: summertime

Logically, I think it would be foolish to spend such a sizeable amount of money on something you weren't happy with, especially when you are within the return period.

agreed--any man who buys a woman an expensive piece of jewelry (unless you have scads of expensive jewelry and in that case its quite different) is being silly. I have few pieces of jewelry--if my husband was going to spend a lot i want some input...

How wrong you are. I think if you know your significant other well enough it's perfectly justifiable to go out and buy something without her knowing it. Hell, it worked for me....

 

[laurenfischer5]

I think you did the right thing. I''m not 100% in love with my current ERing (We had a very small budget at the time and my DH grandmother gave us some of her diamonds to use so I had to pick the setting to accomodate the stones. It ended up not being my style at all)...I didn''t say anything for the longest time and it just made me bitter everytime I though about it being on my finger for the rest of my life. I talked to my husband about it and he was very understanding about it all and said that he actually thought it was understood we would eventually upgrade to my dream ring. It would have bothered me so much if I had never said anything...