Hi Ladies, sorry for the very uninspired title but I really wasnt sure how best to pose my question...
Here's the thing, my family sadly lost my brother unexpectedly in 2014 and everyone took it hard but my mum has never quite seem to have recovered from it. She functions as per usual, is able to to go about her daily life and is able to laugh at jokes etc but from time to time she tears up pretty badly and withdraws from social situations in order to let that feeling of grief pass. I'd say that on the whole, she is handling it pretty well, with not too frequent periods of intense pain/grief when she gets reminded of him.
So recently, I've been thinking of gifting her with a piece of jewelry. She used to love wearing jewelry when she was younger, but has handed most of her nice pieces down to myself and my sisters. I was hoping to get her something nice and petite, just for everyday wear and was thinking to involve a small emerald. The thing is, emerald is my brother's birthstone and i'm not sure if she might get triggered by the sight of it or the meaning behind it. All i intend for was for her to get to keep something that's representative of my brother close to her heart. But i'm not sure if she might take it the wrong way because she's a person who guards her emotions very closely and had always preferred to grief alone so i've always respected her preference to keep that personal, and find it hard to talk to her to gauge where she is at right now...
What do you girls think? Good idea? or should i scrape that thought altogether?
Here's the thing, my family sadly lost my brother unexpectedly in 2014 and everyone took it hard but my mum has never quite seem to have recovered from it. She functions as per usual, is able to to go about her daily life and is able to laugh at jokes etc but from time to time she tears up pretty badly and withdraws from social situations in order to let that feeling of grief pass. I'd say that on the whole, she is handling it pretty well, with not too frequent periods of intense pain/grief when she gets reminded of him.
So recently, I've been thinking of gifting her with a piece of jewelry. She used to love wearing jewelry when she was younger, but has handed most of her nice pieces down to myself and my sisters. I was hoping to get her something nice and petite, just for everyday wear and was thinking to involve a small emerald. The thing is, emerald is my brother's birthstone and i'm not sure if she might get triggered by the sight of it or the meaning behind it. All i intend for was for her to get to keep something that's representative of my brother close to her heart. But i'm not sure if she might take it the wrong way because she's a person who guards her emotions very closely and had always preferred to grief alone so i've always respected her preference to keep that personal, and find it hard to talk to her to gauge where she is at right now...
What do you girls think? Good idea? or should i scrape that thought altogether?