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She knows when I'm proposing, how to make it special

Discussion in 'Proposal Ideas' started by MLM123, Mar 27, 2019.

  1. MLM123
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    by MLM123 » Mar 27, 2019
    My Fiance and I both travel a lot for work, we wont have much time together for the next several months so I'm proposing next weekend. She's my best friend so we talk about everything, so I'm lousy at keeping secrets. She knows I have the ring. She knows I'm proposing next weekend (we've already booked the honeymoon in Cancun )

    Any ideas on how to wow and surprise her when she knows it's coming?
     
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  2. foxinsox
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    by foxinsox » Mar 28, 2019
    Don’t propose next weekend, do it randomly this coming week like while you’re cleaning up after dinner, going to bed or when you’re just hanging out together if you want it to be a surprise.
     
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    by mizzbutterfly » Mar 28, 2019
    I agree with foxinsox. Don’t propose next weekend. Perhaps do it a day before she is anticipating the proposal? Doing it afterwards may introduce some unnecessary anxiety.

    Unless she doesn’t like surprises... in which case do it when she is expecting, but while doing something “random”. Suggest going to get coffee and then a walk? Or get her a pair of shoes or something and ask her to wear it before going out to your “special evening” but then have the ring in the shoe box? Or none of these ideas, but something to still catch her off guard.
    Just some thoughts...
     
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  4. OoohShiny
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    by OoohShiny » Mar 28, 2019
    +1 to this - my good lady stresses massively if things don't go as she expects :rolleyes: :lol:


    Do you travel together? On a plane? You could whisper it into her ear as you watch a sunrise through the window :)

    Or you could wire up some hidden fairy lights in the garden while she's out, then tell her to come out and look at something when it's dark, so you can switch the fairy lights on and propose under the stars just before bed :)
     
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  5. MLM123
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    by MLM123 » Mar 28, 2019
    Great suggestions, thanks! We only have a 5 day window to be together in April. I won't see her again until June. We'll both be flying home from separate trips the same day. I'm picking her up from the Airport a few hours after I land.

    I like the idea of doing something at home, If I take her somewhere special it will telegraph the proposal even more. You gave me some ideas:
    • We have a large garden in the back yard (empty, we have 4 seasons here). I could spell out a Marry me message inside them
    • I could do a marry me message in Christmas lights in the back yard, or have them lit up on the front of the house when we pull in the driveway form the airport.
    • I could decorate our bedroom with flowers, balloons, marry me messages, etc. We'll be getting home late from the airport and heading right to bed.
    Please keep the suggestions coming.
     
  6. OoohShiny
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    by OoohShiny » Mar 28, 2019
    Ooh, I forgot - a friend of mine put the ring on a kitten's collar and then presented the kitten as a surprise, with the added extra surprise of the ring and proposal - you could substitute the kitten for a teddybear on the pillow while she's cleaning her teeth before bed, and see how long it takes her to notice the surprise addition :)) lol

    I guess a lot depends on what sort of person she is - will she like an intimate proposal with just the two of you, or does she prefer huge displays in public with a flashmob of choreographed dancers, a videographer and a facebook live feed? lol
     
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  7. MLM123
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    by MLM123 » Mar 28, 2019
    We're pretty private people. I think she'll appreciate something more intimate.

    When dating early on I passed her a silly note that said something like " I like you, do you like me" with yes and no check boxes. Like little kids do. She still has it and brings it up now and then.

    I was thinking about passing her a note with something like " I love you, will you marry me?" with the same check boxes. Too boring?
     
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  8. cmd2014
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    by cmd2014 » Mar 28, 2019
    No, I think that's really sweet, and a nice call back to the start of your relationship. I actually think low key, intimate proposals are the nicest.
     
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  9. jamesallenrings
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    by jamesallenrings » Mar 28, 2019
    This is a brilliant idea! So personal and detailed.

    Also wondering if you could find some way to set both of the notes next to one another, like in a picture frame or on the inside of a jewelry box. It could be a nice way to symbolize your journey together.
     
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    by bludiva » Mar 28, 2019
    This is such a cute idea. I love the teddy bear too if there is something like that she would appreciate you could combine both.....like a stuffed animal, toy, book, whatever she would like and hidden somewhere is the note and when she opens the note you can present her with the ring. Whatever you choose, I'm sure she will love it and congratulations!
     
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    by seaurchin » Mar 28, 2019
    I'd skip the backyard stuff because it's weather-dependent.

    LOVE the note idea. I'd go for that in the decorated bedroom, if you have time. Please remember to get down on one knee, it's so romantic!

    Also, I would not do it before she expects it. All just personal opinion of course but I would rather be proposed to when I've had a chance to do my hair, makeup, nails etc. suitable to the momentous occasion.

    I agree with you on keeping it private. Whenever I see a proposal in public, I do kinda cringe, to be honest. I personally would hate a public display, whether in front of friends and family or strangers.Then again, that's just me. More importantly, congratulations!
     
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    by bludiva » Mar 28, 2019
    i actually would prefer the surprise personally... she can always get all dolled up after to go out and celebrate and you could even take her for a manicure so she has her "nails did" in the photos she will most likely want to share w/ friends & family =) you know her best so i will stop adding suggestions ...let us know how it goes!
     
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  13. missy
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    by missy » Mar 28, 2019
    Me too! My dh proposed when I was a wreck and during a snowstorm blizzard outside. I literally had unwashed hair, torn jeans and no makeup on at all. And it was perfect. For us.

    You know your girl. If she wants a surprise make it a surprise. And as @bludiva wrote she can always get dressed up and made up later when you go out and formally celebrate.

    And I agree with @seaurchin private proposal all the way! Sounds like you are similar in that a public proposal is not your cup of tea. I would have been super embarrassed if my dh did it publicly but he knew/knows me so well and knew that was not an option.
    Good luck and please come back with photos.:appl:
     
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  14. MLM123
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    by MLM123 » Mar 28, 2019
    Wow, thanks all with helping me get this right. Here's what i'm thinking I'll go all out decorating the bedroom. Chocolate on the pillows and nightstands flowers everywhere, tons of candles maybe balloons, stuffed animals, the works.

    I'll pick her up from the airport, we'll be home really late. When we get home and head toward the bedroom (the door will be closed). I'll stop in the hallway and give her the note, let her read it and drop to one knee and give her the ring.

    When she says yes and after the hugs and kisses open the bedroom door That should surprise her. I think she'll love waking up the next morning with our room decked out and a ring on her finger.
     
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    by bludiva » Mar 28, 2019
    :appl::appl::appl:so sweet!
     
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    by bling_dream19 » Mar 28, 2019
    Sounds romantic and perfect!
     
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    by OoohShiny » Mar 28, 2019
    I hear candles... i think fire risk... lol

    (Personal experience when younger!!)

    Maybe fairylights would be lower risk (and easier to light up quickly)?


    You could open the door when she's finished reading the note, *then* drop to one knee with the romantic backdrop behind you?


    Just my thoughts anyway! :)
     
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  18. cmd2014
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    by cmd2014 » Mar 29, 2019
    I was also thinking “wait...how are the candles getting lit?” You shouldn’t light them and leave them unattended, and I imagine it would be tough to run in and light them without her noticing. Maybe invest in some flameless battery operated ones,
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    by missy » Mar 29, 2019
    Honestly any way you go about this she will love it because the effort and love you are putting into this will show. And your words (as well as actions) will be what she remembers. All these years later I remember what my DH said when he proposed. How he couldn't imagine living his life without me to share it...those were the sweetest words I ever heard and to this day they make me tingle in a good way. Good luck and congratulations on finding the love of your life to share life with. Life shared with your soul mate and true love is life sweeter than any other IMO.
     
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    by mizzbutterfly » Mar 29, 2019
    I agree with everyones comments: please find an alternative to real candles. There are some battery ones that flicker literally just like a real candle. Or you can get string lights (also battery operated) and put them in cute little bowls/jars or something: https://pin.it/e3qxmrt2yrnn34

    This is going to be very romantic. I'm sure you guys will remember this special moment for years to come.
     
  21. MLM123
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    by MLM123 » Mar 29, 2019
    Love the idea, 1st anniversary present shopping....done

    Also, I'll go with unlit candles :doh:
     
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    by LinSF » Apr 3, 2019
    We'd love an update! We want to hear how much she loved it!
     
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    by MLM123 » Apr 3, 2019
    Counting down, proposing Friday :)
     
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    by Bron357 » Apr 3, 2019
    Ooooo I’m excited too!:appl:
    Love the idea of a little note with “check boxes” - perfect.
    Then you must have both that note and the original one framed as a lasting momento. That so the kids (later on!) can go “ahhhhhh” once they get old enough not to go “uggghhhh”!
     
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    Bite your tongue! We're in our late 40's with 4 grown kids between us :wall:. The baby factory is closed, but looking forward to grandkids someday, as long as we can send them home after sugaring them up :tongue:
     
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    by elizabethess » Apr 5, 2019
    What I especially like about this idea is the proposal is taken care of at the beginning of your time together and isn't hanging over either of your heads. And you'll have plenty of time to celebrate and feel lovey-dovey the rest of the time, hopefully stress-free :)
     

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