mogster
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mogster|1314814887|3006558 said:Just curious, since the original post was from almost a year ago and it sounds like the wedding has since transpired (July 23?), AN - was this issue ever addressed with your friend?
mogster said:Just curious, since the original post was from almost a year ago and it sounds like the wedding has since transpired (July 23?), AN - was this issue ever addressed with your friend?
iheartbora|1314842805|3006993 said:I'm kind of glad this thread is revived. I'm on the other side of the fence... I was a bridesmaid for a good friend last year, but I didn't ask her to be in my bridal party because I wanted to keep it small and the two people that I picked are my best friends from grade school. It never crossed my mind that I have to "explain" to my friend why I didn't ask her back, not because I don't care about her feelings but I just did not realize it could be such a big issue. After reading this thread, I'm thinking maybe it is a good idea for me to bring it up? Although I must say, I don't feel she is hurt by it, we still talk to each other all the time and I sometimes would vent about wedding planning to her...
So is it safer to bring it up? Clear the air to ensure there are no hard feelings?I really do think she is a great friend of mine (of 5 years), and I don't want her to be upset/offended/hurt etc.
I have to ask - how much work, exactly, do you expect your bridal party is going to be doing?snoopkat|1315054328|3008959 said:This is an interesting thread, I'm going through something similar but from the other side of the fence. When Mr snoopkat and I first got engaged, I knew straightaway that I wanted my 3 childhood best friends to be my MOH and BMs. Later on I added Mr snoopkat's niece as the 4th BM because I knew it would make her happy (she asked me the first time we met whether Mr snoopkat and I were planning on getting married and if she could be in the bridal party. She was 9 at the time and we had only been dating for a couple of months!) I have another friend that I went to uni with and we have remained good friends ever since. She's not in my bridal party, purely because her personality is very different to my BMs and I don't think she will enjoy being in the bridal party and doing all the wedding stuff. She is more of a party girl and weddings aren't really her thing. It's occured to me that she might secretly be upset that I didn't ask her but I don't see the point in asking someone who's probably not going to pull her weight in helping with the wedding preps (she's not the most organised person) and I don't want our friendship to sour as a result of any resentment on my part.
My point is people view friendships differently and it's not necessarily a slight on your friendship if you aren't chosen to be in the bridal party. The best thing about not being in a bridal party is that you get to enjoy the wedding without having to do any of the legwork![]()