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Dancing Fire

Dancing Fire

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have money stashed away that you don't know of ? do you hide money from your SO?..:whistle:
 
No, and I don't hide money from him either. There isn't that much to go around so maybe that is part of it. :P2

How about you @Dancing Fire?
 
Oooh intriguing question. In my case we haven't been married long and haven't merged our finances yet...he knows the broad outlines of what's where and vice versa. We both work so outside of what we pool for joint expenses, we manage personal spending individually, for now anyway.

If/when everything merged I'd want us to each put away separate spending money for discretionary/fun purchases. :mrgreen2:
 
I don't have any money stashed away.
He does, and just recently told me where it is.............
 
No secret stash in our marriage. We both have trading authority on each others accounts but have not exercised it yet. We have joint and separate accounts (prior to marriage).
 
No. We've been together much too long. My husband is much too honest and I haven't a need to hide anything from him.
 
Don't know.
Don't care.

We have always had totally separate finances.
 
Nope. If I felt I had to hide money from him, I would not be here. If I felt he was hiding things from me, I would not be here.

We share accounts and anything separate still have authority to move/change as needed. We also both ahrea with how money is spent so no need for separate fun accounts.
 
Nothing hidden, but we each have our own "fun" money where we can do whatever we want with it (without having to ask the other). We put all of our money into our joint account except for the "fun money". I like it this way because it means that 99% of expenses go on the joint account and is stuff we both want/need/agree on, and then if we have our own funds for stuff that is only for one of us (my bling, his video games or board game things). I like not having to "ask" when I want to buy something like bling, since I certainly don't "need" it, and I know DH thinks it's a somewhat silly thing to spend money on. That way I can save up for stuff I want and just buy it :)
 
stracci2000 said:
I don't have any money stashed away.
He does, and just recently told me where it is.............
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I'm sure he have more than one stash...;))
 
I do sometime stash cash so I can secretly buy him birthday/xmas gifts without him knowing about it! How else can it be a surprise when you have joint everything... :kiss2:
 
Dancing Fire said:
I'm sure he have more than one stash...;))
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Oh! I never thought of that! DF, you are probably right:lol-2:
But our money is separate, and I needed to know in case the house catches on fire...........
 
Nope, we’ve had joint accounts from before we were married nearly 40 years ago.
 
Dancing Fire you need to get new material. ;))


Dancing Fire said:
have money stashed away that you don't know of ? do you hide money from your SO?..:whistle:
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The answer is No.
 
Nothing hidden that I know of :D...I dont hide money from him...I dont work so really have no income to hide!

My Mom does keep "mad" money hidden from my Dad...its usually only about $500. He knows that she keeps "mad"
money and if he ask her how much she's hiding she'll tell him none of his business! Its all in fun. Sometimes she
picks out something that she doesnt really want him to know that she spent "that much" on it. She bought a purse
a while back that I commented on it in front of my dad and I got that "shut up" look from my Mom...my bad!
 
lovedogs said:
Nothing hidden, but we each have our own "fun" money where we can do whatever we want with it (without having to ask the other). We put all of our money into our joint account except for the "fun money". I like it this way because it means that 99% of expenses go on the joint account and is stuff we both want/need/agree on, and then if we have our own funds for stuff that is only for one of us (my bling, his video games or board game things). I like not having to "ask" when I want to buy something like bling, since I certainly don't "need" it, and I know DH thinks it's a somewhat silly thing to spend money on. That way I can save up for stuff I want and just buy it :)
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This is similar to us—we’ve always had one joint account. Any jewelry given was a gift. But I have recently begun to want to save up for frivolous purchases just because I want them. :mrgreen2: So we came up with a plan to carve out a bit of mad money that I could do what I want with. I am lucky in that I’m a contractor in my field—so if I want more money I can work more hours. That helps. :)

Although I don’t hide money, I did go through my closet and sold many nice purses and some clothing to a resale shop in town. My DH and I joked that it was “money laundering,” and I used it to fund an upgrade from .60ctw to 1.01ctw studs this winter. :kiss2:
 
lovedogs said:
Nothing hidden, but we each have our own "fun" money where we can do whatever we want with it (without having to ask the other). We put all of our money into our joint account except for the "fun money". I like it this way because it means that 99% of expenses go on the joint account and is stuff we both want/need/agree on, and then if we have our own funds for stuff that is only for one of us (my bling, his video games or board game things). I like not having to "ask" when I want to buy something like bling, since I certainly don't "need" it, and I know DH thinks it's a somewhat silly thing to spend money on. That way I can save up for stuff I want and just buy it :)
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This is us too.
 
As far as I know, there are no secret accounts. But if I knew, it wouldn't be secret anymore lol. But my husband keeps some cash in his gun safe which I only found out about a few months ago. So maybe that counts.
 
DF, just buy that bling you want and then beg for forgiveness:lol-2:. After 40 years together, doesn't your wife want you to be happy?

we have separate accounts so technically yes but DH always notices when I buy new things so I tell when asked.
 
No need to. Separate accounts means we do whatever we want! No need to explain, ask for permission or forgiveness, much less hide, lol. We are both adults. We make our own decisions.
 
Nope. Shared pot since before marriage. Both have visibility to our investment accounts as they are at the same brokerage.
We are old school---joint finances even though we married in our 50's. We also share all expenses for all 6 kids. View it all as "our money" and "our kids". I worked to provide health insurance for his kids and he has paid for my kids tuition. It's a team effort.
 
Secret stashes of money? No lol I know where all his money goes. However sometimes secret stashes of red velvet oreos or chocolate... yes indeed <<.>>
 
baby monster said:
DF, just buy that bling you want and then beg for forgiveness:lol-2:. After 40 years together, doesn't your wife want you to be happy?

we have separate accounts so technically yes but DH always notices when I buy new things so I tell when asked.
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That's the Q I asked her, and I'm still waiting for the 2.5ct from her...:whistle:
 
We have our own separate accounts. They're not secret stashes, but they are our own individual stashes. He runs all our accounts through Mint, so he's aware of general amounts. We don't look into each other's purchases, but I do always feel guilty about jewelry purchases so I try to "hide them" sort of.... and guiltily show him later...
 
I don't hide money from him and he doesn't me. I do hide the electric bill from him in the summer since I keep the thermostat at 68, lol!
 
Lol, I am signing up for the secret stash of chocolate. Only thing is that I dont have to hide it too well. My husband is so one track minded that he doesn't see anything unless you deliberately point it out to him (for example yesterday he left his wallet behind. Luckily I asked him about it before we climbed in a taxi, so he took my key to retrieve it. Then he promptly locked me out. I think he said something about just not having noticed his wallet today. Hence why I need the secret emergency chocolate stash). So I just stash my chocolate In the vegetable draw and he has no idea.
 
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My first husband "handled" ( total control, in reality)the money and we lived like paupers because he was cheap and I had no idea of where/what was happening with 'our' money. He was a successful stockbroker and I made good money and bennies. When it was clear the marriage was failing, I wised up and looked at the past 2 years of tax returns (I only ever saw the signature box) and I made an appointment with a divorce lawyer because I saw we had plenty of money and I told her (attorney) he was definitely hiding it. I got back some of what was mine, but not all of it. I just wanted out, so I didn't want to hold up the divorce to hire a forensic accountant.

I spent my first career as a musician, and my fellow players all had stashed money in cash on advice of their accountants. Shoe boxes of cash by friends who owned restaurant s.
 
I have gems instead, + he doesn't want to know... the expression ignorance is bliss comes to mind.
 
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