Second Time Engagement Ring Ideas?

[Morenita21]

Hi All,

Just a general question! As a divorced woman, I’m wondering if I do get engaged again, I’m not quite sure I’d like a traditional engagement ring. I had two different engagement rings during my first marriage - one was a MRB and the second a gorgeous moval set east-west. I’m leaning towards an emerald stone (Colombian) or just an eternity band if I were to get engaged again. However, antique cuts have my heart.

Question though - for all you second marriage people - what did you opt for? Pictures would be helpful too!

Thanks in advance!

 

[VRBeauty]

Choose what you want to wear!

I wasn’t a second-timer, but I was a late-in-life first-timer: late enough to realize that I didn’t need to please anyone but myself with my ring choice — with input from my fiancé. Both my now-husband and I spent quite a few hours looking at settings online and narrowing down the options for re-setting an heirloom stone. And then it occurred to me that the ring I really wanted to wear on my left hand was a three-stone that I’d bought myself several years ago! I had recently started wearing it on my left hand because of sizing issues, and I really didn’t want to let it go! So we chose my wedding band to complement that ring… and my husband acknowledges that he’s still on the hook to get that heirloom diamond reset someday!

 

[tyty333]

For my first marriage, I had a poorly cut round brilliant (picked out by my ex). For my second marriage, I chose a pear. Just
needed something different. I now also have a Super Ideal round and go back and forth between it and the pear.

Get what you want...if you like OECs or OMC go for it!

 

[MissGotRocks]

If I had to do it all over again in a second marriage (which hopefully I never will!) I would choose exactly what I would want in terms of looks and comfort. Not sure what that would be but I think a very elegant eternity band might be a nice choice!

 

[RMOO]

I think you stated what you would want: an antique cut. But why wait for a proposal? A beautiful right hand ring can make your heart sing now!

 

[LoveMunkie]

My dear friend swore she’d never get remarried but then ended up reunited with her college sweetheart. They opted for a 5 stone band for her ER. It is gorgeous.

 

[Morenita21]

My dear friend swore she’d never get remarried but then ended up reunited with her college sweetheart. They opted for a 5 stone band for her ER. It is gorgeous.

Ahhh, I love that.

 

[Inked]

I am recently remarried at 49.

My original set from my first marriage I told my ex I wanted a particular ring. He didnt listen, he got me a tiffany ring with a small center... so he blew the budget on the name. I always resented it because it cost a fortune and it wasnt what i wanted.

I feel like I'm waaaay less sentimental now, so i have three engagement rings that i rotate between. We do have completely joint finances so technically I bought them and I designed all of them myself so they are EXACTLY what i want.

I am 'into' jewelry, and I like more than one thing. I look at my ring all day. I'm sure many people dont care that much so they get what they get and dont care and just love it, and would like anything. I wish i wasnt so picky, but I am, and I am INTO my jewelry. Here we are obsessed with jewelry, so i feel like for members here, it matters more.

My DH and I had discussions about getting engaged so I designed my ring, bought the center diamond and gave it all to him so the engagement could still be a surprise. Since I am not sentimental at all I dont feel like it needs to be the ring that was there the day he proposed. Which is good, since that ring is like 3 rings ago, LOL

The ring is quite literally a SYMBOL, so not matter what "symbol" is on my finger, it represents my love and my marriage. Any ring i put on symbolizes our marriage.

I feel like because I am older and divorced I know what I want more now, I won't "settle" for anything anymore, and because I am into jewelry I dont want to just have one ring and thats it. Also since there are lab diamonds now I can get a big diamond and not feel guilty that it's not going into retirement LOL

I guess I just feel as a divorced "older" bride, I was less sentimental and have more fun with it, like i said I feel like ANY ring I wear on my left ring finger is a symbol of our love and our marriage

Lab transitional


5 stone, this one has my grandmother's diamond as the center so this one is special but i dont wear it often as my e-ring, i wear it more as a right hand ring


THis is the one I wear the most, Lab OEC

 

[tyty333]

@Inked what was your ex's excuse for not getting the ring you asked for (if you dont mind me asking)?

 

[luckygreen317]

I am recently remarried at 49.

My original set from my first marriage I told my ex I wanted a particular ring. He didnt listen, he got me a tiffany ring with a small center... so he blew the budget on the name. I always resented it because it cost a fortune and it wasnt what i wanted.

I feel like I'm waaaay less sentimental now, so i have three engagement rings that i rotate between. We do have completely joint finances so technically I bought them and I designed all of them myself so they are EXACTLY what i want.

I am 'into' jewelry, and I like more than one thing. I look at my ring all day. I'm sure many people dont care that much so they get what they get and dont care and just love it, and would like anything. I wish i wasnt so picky, but I am, and I am INTO my jewelry. Here we are obsessed with jewelry, so i feel like for members here, it matters more.

My DH and I had discussions about getting engaged so I designed my ring, bought the center diamond and gave it all to him so the engagement could still be a surprise. Since I am not sentimental at all I dont feel like it needs to be the ring that was there the day he proposed. Which is good, since that ring is like 3 rings ago, LOL

The ring is quite literally a SYMBOL, so not matter what "symbol" is on my finger, it represents my love and my marriage. Any ring i put on symbolizes our marriage.

I feel like because I am older and divorced I know what I want more now, I won't "settle" for anything anymore, and because I am into jewelry I dont want to just have one ring and thats it. Also since there are lab diamonds now I can get a big diamond and not feel guilty that it's not going into retirement LOL

I guess I just feel as a divorced "older" bride, I was less sentimental and have more fun with it, like i said I feel like ANY ring I wear on my left ring finger is a symbol of our love and our marriage

Lab transitional


5 stone, this one has my grandmother's diamond as the center so this one is special but i dont wear it often as my e-ring, i wear it more as a right hand ring


THis is the one I wear the most, Lab OEC

We are kindred spirits! I read your response and it basically captured my life in a nutshell.

 

[luckygreen317]

Hi All,

Just a general question! As a divorced woman, I’m wondering if I do get engaged again, I’m not quite sure I’d like a traditional engagement ring. I had two different engagement rings during my first marriage - one was a MRB and the second a gorgeous moval set east-west. I’m leaning towards an emerald stone (Colombian) or just an eternity band if I were to get engaged again. However, antique cuts have my heart.

Question though - for all you second marriage people - what did you opt for? Pictures would be helpful too!

Thanks in advance!

My story is very similar to @Inked. The benefit of second time around for me was having a clear understanding of my design “lifestyle”. I am a very active person so having a micropave halo wasn’t the right choice for me. I ended up never wearing it because of concerns over durability and not staying with the man who gave it to me.

I am happily remarried to my partner in life who supports my jewelry obsession. When we were discussing marriage, I knew I wanted a 5-stone ring that achieved finger coverage yet would be durable enough to wear everyday. He purchased the diamonds I picked out through Blue Nile along with one of their basic settings. I had learned about cut proportions and the HCA tool from this forum so this ring is a fireball. I lived with the ring in its basic setting for 4 years then recently reset it in its forever home.

I have 2 other rings that I rotate wearing as my wedding ring. It’s nice to have options! I have “the solitaire” 1.75ct recently reset into a milgrain bezel. This ring comes out for nice dinners and days I want extra bling. The newest addition is the marquise diamond eternity band (in my avatar photo). I wore this ring on my trip to Europe because it’s durable, understated yet substantial.

I truly love Emeralds as green is my favorite color. However, the softness of the stone would not be a good choice for my active lifestyle. I would choose my 5 stone ring and eternity band over and over. I would go lab diamond for the solitaire if I had a do-over. Save the thousands of dollars for a ring that gets limited wear. I would get a Brian Gavin Premium Lab oval in the 3ct range set in a simple bezel.

 

[Morenita21]

I too am jewelry obsessed! I love having different options too. That’s the problem! However, lab diamonds do make that possible now.