Say Yes to the $$$$$$$ Dress-----Do you watch this?

[jaysonsmom]

There's this show on TLC that showcases brides trying to find their dream dress at Kleinfelds in NYC. Most of these dress were outragiously expensive, I saw one girl who got her dress for $14000. I didn't even spend that amount on my wedding! What are your opinions about the show, or spending on wedding dresses in general? I'd rather spend it on wedding jewelry

I guess I was the anti-bridzilla, I probably bought one of the first 3 dress I tried on. I didn't care too much about all the details because with all the weddings I've been to, I thought all the brides looked absolutely beautiful in their "white or off-white dress". I don't recall the details of anyone's dress....and as long as my dress fit, and it didn't break the bank, I loved it! No teary-eye moments, no spectators, I went shopping during my lunch hour, and came back with my dress! I also don't expect my daughter to wear my dress because her taste may be different or styles change dramatically over time....I guess I just don't GET the whole dress thing.

PS, I think I spend $200-$300 on my dress, it was on sale.

 

[Shoopy]

Wanting a beautiful dress doesn't really make a woman a bridezilla. Bridezillas shine through even with $80 dresses

You have to take these shows with a grain of salt, I mean it is a TV show after all. The producers ask them to play up the drama a little more, it is edited, and the girls do receive a discount for being in the show. I believe one of our PSers said she received a 50% off discount and others have said it's anywhere between 15-40% off.

 

[jaysonsmom]

Wanting a beautiful dress doesn't really make a woman a bridezilla. Bridezillas shine through even with $80 dresses

You have to take these shows with a grain of salt, I mean it is a TV show after all. The producers ask them to play up the drama a little more, it is edited, and the girls do receive a discount for being in the show. I believe one of our PSers said she received a 50% off discount and others have said it's anywhere between 15-40% off.

I guess I equate bridezillas with gals who want everything "just so" and would do anything to get it (paying $$$$$) is just one of the ways.

On the actual day of my wedding, my makeup sucked (no time to re-do it), I forgot to bring my stockings, so my mom had to stop off at a 7-11 to get Leggs panytyhose, and my pastor forgot to say "you may kiss the bride" so we didn't seal the deal so to speak, but I'm married, and happy...even without THE PERFECT DRESS!

 

[RhubarbPie]

I watch this show - I think its really hilarious. Bridezilla's crack me up

There is the occasional teary-eyed moment, but I get teary-eyed over anything that merely relates to engagement, marriage, etc. these days. But I do think the show is funny, plus I like to see all the dresses!

 

[soocool]

DD and I both watch. In fact she started watching with her friends first and then the moms joined in so now we watch at a different person's house each week and make a little party out of it.

 

[jaysonsmom]

Yes....what is it about this show? Even though I wasn't into the whole dress thing for my own wedding, I'm strangely addicted to this show. I can sit and watch rerun after rerun.

 

[iheartscience]

Wanting a beautiful dress doesn't really make a woman a bridezilla. Bridezillas shine through even with $80 dresses

You have to take these shows with a grain of salt, I mean it is a TV show after all. The producers ask them to play up the drama a little more, it is edited, and the girls do receive a discount for being in the show. I believe one of our PSers said she received a 50% off discount and others have said it's anywhere between 15-40% off.

I guess I equate bridezillas with gals who want everything "just so" and would do anything to get it (paying $$$$$) is just one of the ways.

On the actual day of my wedding, my makeup sucked (no time to re-do it), I forgot to bring my stockings, so my mom had to stop off at a 7-11 to get Leggs panytyhose, and my pastor forgot to say "you may kiss the bride" so we didn't seal the deal so to speak, but I'm married, and happy...even without THE PERFECT DRESS!

What's wrong with wanting everything "just so"? I wanted everything just so for my wedding but I was far from a bridezilla.

There are definitely some demanding brides on that show, but honestly I've seen more bad behavior from the moms, mothers-in-laws, sisters, cousins, friends, etc.

 

[elrohwen]

I'm with Thing2. Most of the girl on the show seem like perfectly nice girls - far from Bridezillas. Just because they want the perfect dress doesn't make them a 'zilla. Also, the majority of the girls seem to have a budget around $3k - far less than the ones who really splurge on $10k dresses. And it is Kleinfelds - you're probably not going to bother going there if your budget is only $500.

 

[jaysonsmom]

Wanting a beautiful dress doesn't really make a woman a bridezilla. Bridezillas shine through even with $80 dresses

You have to take these shows with a grain of salt, I mean it is a TV show after all. The producers ask them to play up the drama a little more, it is edited, and the girls do receive a discount for being in the show. I believe one of our PSers said she received a 50% off discount and others have said it's anywhere between 15-40% off.

I guess I equate bridezillas with gals who want everything "just so" and would do anything to get it (paying $$$$$) is just one of the ways.

On the actual day of my wedding, my makeup sucked (no time to re-do it), I forgot to bring my stockings, so my mom had to stop off at a 7-11 to get Leggs panytyhose, and my pastor forgot to say "you may kiss the bride" so we didn't seal the deal so to speak, but I'm married, and happy...even without THE PERFECT DRESS!

What's wrong with wanting everything "just so"? I wanted everything just so for my wedding but I was far from a bridezilla.

There are definitely some demanding brides on that show, but honestly I've seen more bad behavior from the moms, mothers-in-laws, sisters, cousins, friends, etc.

There's nothing wrong with wanting things "just so", but realize that a lot of things are out of your control, and it's much easier to have a more laid-back attitude in life. The hard part starts after the wedding day...it's called marriage!

 

[jaysonsmom]

There are definitely some demanding brides on that show, but honestly I've seen more bad behavior from the moms, mothers-in-laws, sisters, cousins, friends, etc.

I saw an episode where all the relatives started running around the store picking out stuff for the bride, totally hilarious! She ended up hating the dress that the opinionated cousin picked out!

 

[Shoopy]

I've seen this as a trend on PS a lot. Whenever there is someone who had a "laid back" wedding they make comments about how brides shouldn't put that much effort into their own wedding. Almost as if it isn't worth it or something.

I understand that weddings don't make a marriage. And yes there are some people out there that are more excited over the wedding than they are the marriage. But for the most part, brides want the day to go perfect because it is one of only a handful of very special moments in their lives.

I think it's very easy to dismiss the importance of a wedding to a bride when you are far removed from it (i.e. have been married for a few years or have children). Yes, down the line you realize that there are other things more important in life than the flowers or favors but in that moment, it's very important to the bride and I wouldn't label them a bridezilla because of it.

Anyway, that's my soapbox. I still think the show is hilarious!

 

[lyra]

Yes I watch the show with my DD. She does not want a traditional wedding at all, and can't understand why women pay $5000+ on a dress, but she agrees that the one thing her minimalist wedding would have is the dress of her dreams. Keeping in mind that it would most likely be a destination wedding changes some priorities of course. The dress would be far less formal. I think she said she'd spend no more than $2000 on a dress, and I think that's a reasonable amount. What woman doesn't want to try on wedding dresses, even vicariously? That's the real fun of the show for us. I see they are having a new show about Say Yes to the Dress in the South. Looks like more fun to watch.

 

[iheartscience]

Wanting a beautiful dress doesn't really make a woman a bridezilla. Bridezillas shine through even with $80 dresses

You have to take these shows with a grain of salt, I mean it is a TV show after all. The producers ask them to play up the drama a little more, it is edited, and the girls do receive a discount for being in the show. I believe one of our PSers said she received a 50% off discount and others have said it's anywhere between 15-40% off.

I guess I equate bridezillas with gals who want everything "just so" and would do anything to get it (paying $$$$$) is just one of the ways.

On the actual day of my wedding, my makeup sucked (no time to re-do it), I forgot to bring my stockings, so my mom had to stop off at a 7-11 to get Leggs panytyhose, and my pastor forgot to say "you may kiss the bride" so we didn't seal the deal so to speak, but I'm married, and happy...even without THE PERFECT DRESS!

What's wrong with wanting everything "just so"? I wanted everything just so for my wedding but I was far from a bridezilla.

There are definitely some demanding brides on that show, but honestly I've seen more bad behavior from the moms, mothers-in-laws, sisters, cousins, friends, etc.

There's nothing wrong with wanting things "just so", but realize that a lot of things are out of your control, and it's much easier to have a more laid-back attitude in life. The hard part starts after the wedding day...it's called marriage!

I have very specific tastes, and when choosing things for my wedding I took a lot of time on the things that were important to me. (Food, music, dress.) At the same time, I was extremely laid back about almost everything else. Some might say *too* laid back-our photographer was appalled when I didn't have a schedule of how the wedding day was going to unfold a couple of weeks before the wedding.

I think the vast majority of brides realize that a marriage is more important than a wedding. But a wedding to me is a big, family celebration and definitely an important day. My family loves them-family members of all ages eat, dance, drink and have fun for hours. (And to many brides, a wedding is considered a sacrament and is important religiously as well.)

It's pretty dismissive and ridiculous to assume that any bride who cares about her wedding is so focused on one day that she's forgetting the point of a wedding.

 

[iheartscience]

I've seen this as a trend on PS a lot. Whenever there is someone who had a "laid back" wedding they make comments about how brides shouldn't put that much effort into their own wedding. Almost as if it isn't worth it or something.

I understand that weddings don't make a marriage. And yes there are some people out there that are more excited over the wedding than they are the marriage. But for the most part, brides want the day to go perfect because it is one of only a handful of very special moments in their lives.

I think it's very easy to dismiss the importance of a wedding to a bride when you are far removed from it (i.e. have been married for a few years or have children). Yes, down the line you realize that there are other things more important in life than the flowers or favors but in that moment, it's very important to the bride and I wouldn't label them a bridezilla because of it.

Anyway, that's my soapbox. I still think the show is hilarious!

Ditto this also!

 

[MissMina]

For those of you who like me don't have cable TV, SYTTD Season 4 is now available for instant viewing on Netflix.

 

[jaysonsmom]

I never "labeled" anyone or "dismissed" the importance of anything, some of you are taking this so seriously. I apologize for sounding condecending, that was not my intent.

I admitted that I just don't get the importance of of the dress, that is why the show is fun for me. On a lighter note, I'd probably a Momzilla, so far all the dresses that my daughter has liked (she's 6) are the super fitted mermaid styles with see-through lace
She literally sighs Woo oooh.....when she sees those. Off to find the russion bride pics to show her (what not to wear)!

 

[lucyandroger]

For those of you who like me don't have cable TV, SYTTD Season 4 is now available for instant viewing on Netflix.

Ooooh, thanks! I have cable but am terrible about catching shows when they're actually on. My FI is going to hate you though!

 

[Yimmers]

DH doesn't care to watch the show - I do though

Yes, sometimes, I'm like, wow, that much? Then again, I spent $4k for my dress and didn't regret it. But, I'm amazed at some of the behavior. DH said to me once, dress shopping is about the bride, so people should really respect her wishes, especially when the bride is getting pushed around by an opinionated friend/family member. Who cares if you don't like it, you're not wearing the dress!

My jaw did drop with that one young woman who spent like $15k on a custom design dress, decided she hated it (b/c she wasn't allowed to make the chest cups SHEER), bought a new $20k dress, then complained she didn't want the lace. I was like, are you kidding me!??!! My kid would be thoroughly smacked upside the head and told to just DEAL. But, not my kid so not my money.

 

[zoebartlett]

I watch it occasionally, but I don't make a point to seek it out. I know there was a PSer who was on the show a while ago. I'll admit to being surprised at how much money a bride or her family is willing to pay for her wedding dress on certain episodes, but that's their choice. It's not one I'd make but who am I to judge what others do and how they spend their money?

The thing that I don't like is when the bride's opinion gets swallowed up by the opinions of the people she chose to bring with her. I don't understand taking a bunch of people shopping with you, but that's just me. I do feel a bit sad when a bride has her heart set on a dress but feels pressured to go with another one just because the other people in the room don't like her choice. It's one thing if it's the mother of the bride (or whomever is paying for the dress), but if it's pushy bridesmaids, that rubs me the wrong way.

 

[ChloeTheGreat]

I watch the show. Most of the time I can't even tell the difference between the multiple white dresses.

I am beginning to plan my own wedding for sometime next fall. I was explaining to my mother that I found a few dresses I liked for only a couple hundred dollars. She thought that was a lot of money to spend on a dress. I said "Mom, some brides spend $10,000 on just a dress!" (referencing, of course, Say Yes to the Dress)

I'm glad I don't have expensive tastes in dresses...

 

[Asscherhalo_lover]

I love this show! I had a very small budget for my wedding and dress, my dress was only around $700 and I got it from Davids Bridal. I wasn't to picky but I can understand the girls who are. If my husband and I ever decide to renew our vows and if I ever loose enough weight to justify spending around 3k on a dress I would certainly visit them to do it!

 

[FrekeChild]

I'm with Fiery.

And if there is ONE thing that people will remember about our wedding, it is my dress. Dresses can be memorable. Just depends on the bride and the dress.

Then again they may remember the bacon fries. Yes I served fries at my wedding, and no I would not be appalled if thats what they remembered. That's probably what I remember best too. (Which is why we're planning on having them when we go back to Vegas for our anniversary!)

 

[jaysonsmom]

I'm with Fiery.

And if there is ONE thing that people will remember about our wedding, it is my dress. Dresses can be memorable. Just depends on the bride and the dress.

Then again they may remember the bacon fries. Yes I served fries at my wedding, and no I would not be appalled if thats what they remembered. That's probably what I remember best too. (Which is why we're planning on having them when we go back to Vegas for our anniversary!)

Well, you DID have quite a striking dress because of the color. Yes, I do lurk on other boards too, and have seen your striking dress! But if I were served Bacon Fries, I'd definitely remember the fries more...YUM!

 

[Guilty Pleasure]

A Bridezilla is not someone who spends a lot of time or effort or money planning her wedding. That's just someone who is capable of event planning. I can't imagine spending that much money on anything and NOT doing my best to make sure it went smoothly and everyone had a good time.

A bridezilla is someone who bosses their friends and family around, says rude or uncaring things to people who they supposedly love, and has the attitude that everyone around them somehow OWES it to them to be a slave or take abuse. A bridezilla does not necessarily have a nice or well planned wedding. She is defined by her lack of good grace, not the expense or time spent on her wedding. A bridezilla could spend $25 or $25,000 on her dress.

Money spent on luxury items is relative depending on the size of that person's bank account, so while I would be ridiculous to spend so much on a dress (14k???? wowza!), I don't bat an eye if someone richer than I chooses to spend a large amount.

I've watched Say yes to the dress before if it happens to be on TV, but only if I can fast forward through most of it on DVR. I like to see each dress, and that's it.

 

[OUpearlgirl]

I think that the reason the dress is so important to brides is that it's arguably the most important fashion choice they will ever make. I am not going to lie- I kind of judge people by their wedding dresses!! It's the ultimate way to show your style and personality.

Along with that, you will take 10 million pictures that day, probably put one up in the hallway or on the night stand, and it's a dress your daughter may not want to wear, but will probably want to see.

I can't imagine spending $5,000 on a dress because I work in a mid-priced bridal salon and I realize you can find something gorgeous for far less, but if I had the money to do it, so be it!

 

[packrat]

I love watching wedding shows-especially the dress ones. I have a huge crush on David Tutera so I love his show too.

 

[princesss]

I think that the reason the dress is so important to brides is that it's arguably the most important fashion choice they will ever make. I am not going to lie- I kind of judge people by their wedding dresses!! It's the ultimate way to show your style and personality.

Along with that, you will take 10 million pictures that day, probably put one up in the hallway or on the night stand, and it's a dress your daughter may not want to wear, but will probably want to see.

I can't imagine spending $5,000 on a dress because I work in a mid-priced bridal salon and I realize you can find something gorgeous for far less, but if I had the money to do it, so be it!

LOL! Gee, I wonder why.

 

[goldfish]

I eloped. In sweats. My only wedding cost besides the license was the officiant. $100!

So I don't really fall in to this category. I love those dresses for other girls, just not me.

 

[OUpearlgirl]

I think that the reason the dress is so important to brides is that it's arguably the most important fashion choice they will ever make. I am not going to lie- I kind of judge people by their wedding dresses!! It's the ultimate way to show your style and personality.

Along with that, you will take 10 million pictures that day, probably put one up in the hallway or on the night stand, and it's a dress your daughter may not want to wear, but will probably want to see.

I can't imagine spending $5,000 on a dress because I work in a mid-priced bridal salon and I realize you can find something gorgeous for far less, but if I had the money to do it, so be it!

LOL! Gee, I wonder why.

Haha, I can't help it!

 

[atroop711]

I do watch the show with my youngest daughter who will be 6yr soon. We live in Manhattan and the day we passed Kleinfeld's she nearly had a heart attack and wanted to go in. Thank god it was a holiday and they were closed.

I think the term bridezilla is about the nasty attitude not about cost of the gown or wedding.

I bought my dress 15yrs ago and spent a whopping $1500 plus alterations for a Jim Hjelm couture gown. My sister married 5 yrs later and her Lazaro gown (very similar to mine) was $3200 (at Kleinfelds). God only knows how much a gown will be when my 2 daughters marry.

My husband and I want to renew our vows for our 25th anniversary..so maybe I'll be visiting Kleinfelds to say YES TO THE DRESS