mimzy
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I am having some uncertainty about something and i would appreciate your input.
FI and i are planning on getting married december 08. at that time, he'll have been at his job for two years, and i'll be starting my final internship semester of my masters. we'll be living in the same town as we are now, where he grew up, about five minutes from his parents house and about an hour from mine. we are both close with our families and really enjoy the area of southeast michigan that we live in, but we always talked about moving away for a couple of years.
we're pretty set on wisconsin (don't ask), but now a lot of other questions are coming up and i'm getting nervous that it might not be a smart move. We want to have kids young, but want to do this before we have kids, so we would pretty much move as soon as i finished with my internship, (summer 09) OR right after we got married and i would do my internship there. I think it would be really good for us to be out on our own and get in some really good quality bonding time before it was babytime and we might want to move back to be closer to our families.
The problem is that as of right now FI loves his job here and although he says that he wouldn't have a problem moving, i would hate to see him give it up for a job he doesn't like as much. also, i'm nervous that if i loved my internship and i was offered a position there (which happens pretty frequently) that i also wouldn't want to leave. we also want to buy a house, but would probably just rent for the two years we were gone, because that would be sort of wasteful.
I want to leave, but i don't want to leave. see what i'm saying? and i'm scared that if we don't do it right now, then we never will.
does anyone have any experience with this? was moving for the sake of moving ever worth it? on one hand i think it would be a good little adventure for the two of us, but on the other it might set us back in terms of our other goals (a house, kids, careers, etc).
FI and i are planning on getting married december 08. at that time, he'll have been at his job for two years, and i'll be starting my final internship semester of my masters. we'll be living in the same town as we are now, where he grew up, about five minutes from his parents house and about an hour from mine. we are both close with our families and really enjoy the area of southeast michigan that we live in, but we always talked about moving away for a couple of years.
we're pretty set on wisconsin (don't ask), but now a lot of other questions are coming up and i'm getting nervous that it might not be a smart move. We want to have kids young, but want to do this before we have kids, so we would pretty much move as soon as i finished with my internship, (summer 09) OR right after we got married and i would do my internship there. I think it would be really good for us to be out on our own and get in some really good quality bonding time before it was babytime and we might want to move back to be closer to our families.
The problem is that as of right now FI loves his job here and although he says that he wouldn't have a problem moving, i would hate to see him give it up for a job he doesn't like as much. also, i'm nervous that if i loved my internship and i was offered a position there (which happens pretty frequently) that i also wouldn't want to leave. we also want to buy a house, but would probably just rent for the two years we were gone, because that would be sort of wasteful.
I want to leave, but i don't want to leave. see what i'm saying? and i'm scared that if we don't do it right now, then we never will.
does anyone have any experience with this? was moving for the sake of moving ever worth it? on one hand i think it would be a good little adventure for the two of us, but on the other it might set us back in terms of our other goals (a house, kids, careers, etc).