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marmar2013

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Hi All
I had my daughter 4 months ago and my wedding rings barely fit. I honestly shouldn't be trying to jam them on because I have such a hard time getting them off and they will likely get stuck sooner or later. ;(

I have two eternity bands that I wear on either size of my ering. I don't think I can have diamond eternity bands sized up, can I?
they are size 6.75 and they need to be a 7 to fit. So not much of a jump........... but I didn't know if they can be made larger?.

Has anyone experienced this before? will my fingers eventually go back to normal size? my rings were snug to begin with so im wondering if they wont. Just curious what you all think. I hate not wearing my rings but if I keep trying to wear them im afraid i'll need to get them cut off.

My ering needs to be sized up too, but that's not an eternity ring so im thinking sizing it up wouldn't be a huge issues.

Should I try and get them sized? should I wait and see if my fingers go back? if yes, how long should I wait? thank you for anything you are willing to share.
 
I hate to tell you this, but sometimes your finger size doesn't go back. :(

I was a ring size 5.5 for my first baby. After 2 weeks, I was back in my rings. With my second baby, I went from a 5.5 to a 7.5! And it's now 14 months post baby, so I assume the change is here to stay. ;(

However, since you say you only are a 1/4 size bigger, it's possible your finger will shrink in maybe one more month or so. Then again, in summer you could need a 1/2 size or more bigger. Unless your eternity ring has a sizing bar, I don't think it can be sized.
 
Is there enough metal inside the eternity rings to have your jeweller skim the eternity rings so they are a bit larger? If so, I'd do that. No children here so I have no idea if fingers go back.
 
Are you back to your pre-baby weight? If you are then I suspect your fingers might stay the size they are now. If you intend on losing any weight I would hold off on the resizing. Maybe you could pick up a plain wedding band from somewhere like ewedding bands so you have something to wear in the mean time?
 
Hi, I too don't wear my wedding rings because they are too small. My rings are a 4.5 and I now wear a 5.5. I have had 2 kids and I notice when I exercise alot, they go back to fitting. I had lost all the baby weight plus some after I had my last baby and my wedding ring was getting too big. But I have gained weight slowly after losing 2 years ago and need to get back to running. I haven't gotten them made bigger I guess because I have a goal of fitting in them again. I am sure they will fit you again too.
 
It took me about a year and a half after giving birth for my fingers to go back to normal (and they're still a titch bigger than they used to be, by maybe a quarter of a size). I breast fed for 15 months, and I'm the opposite of those women who get skinny doing it - I needed fuel to keep my energy up, and apparently, my body felt some of it should be kept in reserve (just in case). But, happily, as soon as I got within ten pounds of my pre-baby weight, I could wear my rings again. I'd say give your body a little more time to settle. If in a year they still don't fit ... a good jeweler might be able to either shave down the insides of the eternities, or even possibly add a sizing bar (depends on his or her skill with a laser). In the meantime, though, totally size your solitaire so you have some bling to enjoy - you deserve it!
 
In general, it can be difficult to size eternity bands. If true eternity (eg: stones all the way around).

In your case, I think it's still too early to know what will happen. Are you back at pre-pregnancy weight? If not and you are planning to lose weight, hold off sizing. Also, are you currently breast-feeding? If yes, I'd wait until you are done to see what happens.

In my case, I *lost* half a ring size after my first pregnancy. I was a ring size 5 before, gained and lost a lot of weight, and ended up 4.5. I gained and lost a lot again with second pregnancy and stayed a 4.5 ever since.

BTW, congrats on your new baby!

Anne
 
Thank you ALL for your responses! I am glad so many responded so far.

The eternity rings do go all the way around. I am NOT back to my prepreg weight just yet, im close but not there just yet.
I stopped breastfeeding 4 weeks ago, right before I went back to work fulltime.

I will do what you all suggested and wait until maybe this summer and then see how they fit. Maybe at that time I will have them shaved down (if the jeweler will do it) and if they are still too tight.

thank you so much for responding and sharing your experiences.

This is my first baby and its quite an experience, feeling very blessed :love:
 
Being a mother is the best thing ever!
 
agreed! now im very torn on if I should have a 2nd or not~! this probably isn't the right place to talk about this but Im soo TORN.

I am 37 and just had #1. I work fulltime and so does my DH. not sure if I can handle working fulltime, and taking care of my LO and being preg,, then taking care of TWO and working fulltime.

I worry about my DD wanting a sibling later in life, any only children reading this that don't care at all?
will she be alone once we die and get old? these are my thoughts :errrr: :confused: :confused:
 
Well I can offer this: I am an only child and growing up, I really disliked it, so that is why I decided to have at least 2. It's so cute to see them interact and play together and give each other hugs. :love:
 
WAIT!!! It's only been 4months. I'd give it at least a year before you do anything drastic to alter your rings. I got down to near prepregnancy weight after about 4months, but my fingers had not gone back to their previous size. I could wear them, but they were a little tight. I decided to treat myself to a mothers day knife edged eternity band and a cute little vintage ring with a pretty little tranny. By 6months post partum the eternity was so loose it would fly off my hand if I gestured too wildly and I had sizing beads put in the other ring. By 10 months post partum my original ering fell off my hand while unpacking groceries, something that had never happened before. Lesson I learned? No ring purchases within the first year of having a baby.
 
I had my children 14 months apart (basically where you are at right now....yup I got pregnant again. It was planned). My fingers swelled through the majority of my pregnancies plus it was difficult for me to get the weight off. I ended up wearing a alternate sapphire set for a few years on and off till I lost 90% of the weight after #2. I started out as a 6-6.25 and went up to a 7.75. I'm still about 15lbs over my pre- preggo weight, but my current ring size is back to a 6 and that is very loose. I'm probably closer to a 5.75 if I get measured. So I wouldn't start messing with your current set. I would just find an inexpensive set to wear for the time being till your fingers settle.
 
Guess I'm the only one whose finger size permanently changed. My feet grew too, and I had to get rid of all my shoes. ;(
 
I lost 20 pounds since July and fingers are getting thinner. I used to be a 6.5 and wore a 7 comfortably. Now, a 5.5 fits comfortably and a 6.25 is too loose. I plan to lose 20 more pounds by the summer ( I am doing Weight Watchers and working out) so I wonder if my fingers will keep losing weight, too!
 
I went from a 4.25 to a 4.75-5 after my daughter was born. She is now 2 and my fingers have never gone back to my pre-pregnancy size. It's more to do with my knuckle size than fingers being puffy. Having said that I can fluctuate up to a 5.25 in summer and back down half a size in winter.

My jeweller recommended waiting at least 6 months after the birth to see how your fingers settle. Some people just snap straight back, others never do. I also suffered terribly from oedema (swelling) through the last three months of my pregnancy. I normally have quite small digits - they looked like fat grabby sausages when my daughter was full term :(

My feet also got wider during pregnancy, but not longer. So infuriating!! I console myself with the thought that Louboutins aren't practical at the park anyway...
 
marmar2013|1388617453|3584477 said:
agreed! now im very torn on if I should have a 2nd or not~! this probably isn't the right place to talk about this but Im soo TORN.

I am 37 and just had #1. I work fulltime and so does my DH. not sure if I can handle working fulltime, and taking care of my LO and being preg,, then taking care of TWO and working fulltime.

I worry about my DD wanting a sibling later in life, any only children reading this that don't care at all?
will she be alone once we die and get old? these are my thoughts :errrr: :confused: :confused:
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I have one and I am TORN too. She is 2. I am 37. I had better get cracking if I want one. I have the same thoughts as you - my husband is an only child and lost both his parents within 3 months and it was the saddest thing ever.
 
Hi All
Thank you all so much for sharing your thoughts and comments.

LIke a few of you said, i should probably wait at least 9 months to 1 yr to do anything to my rings. Good advice, i'll look around and see if i can find a good "fake" set to wear in the meantime.

Very interesting on how some womens fingers never go back and ALL the other changes we go through. very interesting. LOL

Thanks for commenting on the 2 children vs only children thing as well. Such a big decision. I hate to think of her alone after DH and I are gone.......even if she is married, etc.

THANKS ALL - :wink2:
 
My fingers went back to normal within 8 weeks after my first, but something weird happened with my second. I could still wear my rings up until two weeks before I delivered, then they swelled like crazy! I went up over two sizes; it's like the joints themselves swelled. It took FOREVER for them to go back to normal, but they did! I hope yours do too!
 
I gained 70 lbs with both my pregnancies. :oops: My fingers were very puffy for the last few months. My ring size didn't change after the first but I just had my rings sized from a 7.75 to an 8. I still am a good 25 lbs from prebaby weight, but I am in no hurry to loose it and I haven't weaned the younger kiddo yet. My feet went up an entire size. Cute size 11 shoes are hard to find.
 
marmar2013|1388617453|3584477 said:
agreed! now im very torn on if I should have a 2nd or not~! this probably isn't the right place to talk about this but Im soo TORN.

I am 37 and just had #1. I work fulltime and so does my DH. not sure if I can handle working fulltime, and taking care of my LO and being preg,, then taking care of TWO and working fulltime.

I worry about my DD wanting a sibling later in life, any only children reading this that don't care at all?
will she be alone once we die and get old? these are my thoughts :errrr: :confused: :confused:
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I strongly agree with the posters who say you don't need to make this decision right now. It's only been 4 months. Until my son was one year old, I was so miserable. I dreaded the thought of having another kid, even though I knew I was going to. I HATED my first year after giving birth. I know that is quite unpopular to say, but that's the truth! I felt like a two legged cow. I could not wait to get back to work full time, but I was still nursing / pumping for a full year. When my son turned one, it's like someone flipped a switch. I wanted to get pregnant and have another baby right away. Yeah, I know it was weird... :roll:

My point is your circumstances, feelings and emotions and will change daily, and you will discover that you can and will do unbelievable things, make impossible circumstances work, for those you love. And speaking as a person who was an only child, I knew that I was going to have another child. I was CERTAIN I wanted my child to have a sibling. I was not miserable as an only child. I just think my life could have been fuller, and personally I would have developed my character and stretched myself a lot more if I had a sibling. Also, as an adult, I do definitely miss having a person who is a sibling, who is the closest person to you other than your parents.

My 2c. Just give yourself a break and don't force yourself to make that decision now. I know you're thinking about the clock, but another 8 months will not make or break it.

If you do decide to do it, you will be able to handle it. It won't be easy, two full time working parents and young children, but you and your DH will be able to make it work, provided you both make the decision together!! Good luck! (BTW, mine are now 8 and 11, and boy do I want another one! I miss those years. And I am NOT a baby person. And I worked full time (50-80 hour weeks) as well as my DH. It isn't easy. At least it wasn't for me, but it does get easier... Expect a rough time, but you'll get rewarded by what you don't expect, the new baby bringing such ridiculous joy and fullness to the lives of your family. Everyone says it, but you won't believe it until it happens to you. You'll wonder how you ever even CONSIDERED not having the little when he/she is born. That's what those little buggers do. They suck you in, and then you're done. ;)
 
I agree with the other posters that it is too soon to tell - it's only been 4 months! I went through my first pregnancy with no swelling but with my second I puffed up right before giving birth. My feet are now a 1/2 size bigger and my knuckles have stayed larger which is annoying but what can you do? I finally had my stone re-set (my ering and wedding band were eternity style and could not be sized up) but my youngest is about to turn 3! I would give it some time, and see what happens over the summer and next winter especially. My fingers change drastically from the middle of summer to the middle of winter. If you still can't get them on in a year in the middle of winter that's when I'd consider resizing.
 
marmar2013|1388617453|3584477 said:
agreed! now im very torn on if I should have a 2nd or not~! this probably isn't the right place to talk about this but Im soo TORN.

I am 37 and just had #1. I work fulltime and so does my DH. not sure if I can handle working fulltime, and taking care of my LO and being preg,, then taking care of TWO and working fulltime.

I worry about my DD wanting a sibling later in life, any only children reading this that don't care at all?
will she be alone once we die and get old? these are my thoughts :errrr: :confused: :confused:
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I had my children 7 years apart (the second at 31) and it took me about a year to get back to my pre-pregancy weight, so I'm glad you're going to wait on re-sizing your rings.

You'd be surprised at what you can handle IF you have a good support system. My daughter is older (25) and my son is the 'baby' (18). They're really close and I'm glad they'll have each other later in life. I will say that they've both said they're glad they each had time to be an 'only child'. :lol:
 
Hi Ladies
Thank you ALL for your comments and sharing your experiences. On BOTH subjects

Re: Rings. I will do like many of you advised and wait at least 1 yr to do anything crazy with them, like sizing....

Re: 2nd baby. I REALLY REALLY appreciate you sharing your experiences and thoughts. You are all right, im only 4 months out and I DONT need to make a decision now. I think my issue is that I am 37 and KNOW that I will "NEED" to make a decision in the next 2 years or so. and I am planner, so of course im thinking about it now. BAD habit of mine............

I need to just focus on my DD and enjoy her over the next year. and not worry/stress/ or think about the possibility of #2 and how i'll manage, if its the right choice, etc.

Thank you again everyone! If I did want to talk about baby stuff and having a 2nd in the future, in there an area to this site where people can go and post/get feedback about those things??? I would love to talk to other moms and hear more experiences.

TX :wavey:
 
Yes! Go to the Forum tab at the top, then Pricescope Cafe, then arrow over to Family & Home. You will find lots of fellow moms to chat with!
 
I think it's wise to wait on trying to resize your rings. I to dealt with the pregnancy ups and downs of
the rings fitting. As for the only child thing...I myself am an only child, it was lonely and I relied on my
friends to keep me company. Now that my parents are getting older I know that I will be the one that
they rely on for the future. Well I knew that I wanted a large family...I have 5 children and a step-son! :shock:
I wouldn't change a thing!
Take your time and enjoy your baby, time goes by way to quick! My oldest just bought a house, and it seems
like yesterday I was bringing him home from the hospital :(
Enjoy the journey!!!
 
I'm an only child (woman) and I loved it growing up and love it now. My husband is one of three and says he wouldn't mind being an only child-and he gets on with his family. I think we may only have one when the time comes. I'm never lonely-being an only child made me happy in my own company. The thought of having siblings doesn't appeal and never did. I promise I'm not a social outcast. I have a big group of friends and an amazing husband and am never ever lonely. My mum was and is also the same-sociable only child. It annoys me a bit when people feel sorry for me for being an only child. Like I'm missing out on something. Or worse accuse me of being spoilt. Other people's opinions is the worst thing about being an only child. Also, now my parents are older it can be a bit worrying as I'm the responsible one but again, having great friends and a husband helps.

Sorry. Rant over. Hope that helps.

Sorry about your rings.
 
I too just had a baby 4 months ago and my rings are a little tight. I can get them on but they are uncomfortable at times outside as I live in Hawaii and it's always hot and humid. I still have 10 pounds of baby weight to lose, but I'm guessing it will take a while. I hope they become a little more comfortable in a few months. Good luck, and no worries, they will fit again soon :)
 
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