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MaddyRock

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My friend is getting a divorce after 10 years of marriage... She has mentioned several times that her ring finger feels so empty right now and it's a constant reminder that the marriage is over and she would like to get a ring to replace the empty feeling. Right now, her money is tied up in the divorce proceedings so I would like to send her a little something until everything works out.

The problem is that I would only like to spend around $200 max - I'm sure this ring will be somewhat temporary until everything gets worked out. Her daughter's birthstone is amethyst and her son is diamond. Do you think a stacking ring with these stones would be a good idea? Or should I try to get something a little larger? Her e-ring was a 2ct. round on a very thick platinum band, and wedding band was a pretty sizable eternity ring. So I'm not sure if a stacker will feel right anyway.

Any suggestions are appreciated!
 
That is so sweet of you!! What a great friend you are!

Check out the preloved forum here. Www.loupetroop.com and www.diamondbistro.com will be fun to look thru. Some of the etsy vendors are very reasonably priced. Also, Go to the Coloured stone forum and check out the pinned thread w approved CS vendors. Great links there.

Good luck!
 
MaddyRock|1376255103|3500947 said:
My friend is getting a divorce after 10 years of marriage... She has mentioned several times that her ring finger feels so empty right now and it's a constant reminder that the marriage is over and she would like to get a ring to replace the empty feeling. Right now, her money is tied up in the divorce proceedings so I would like to send her a little something until everything works out.

The problem is that I would only like to spend around $200 max - I'm sure this ring will be somewhat temporary until everything gets worked out. Her daughter's birthstone is amethyst and her son is diamond. Do you think a stacking ring with these stones would be a good idea? Or should I try to get something a little larger? Her e-ring was a 2ct. round on a very thick platinum band, and wedding band was a pretty sizable eternity ring. So I'm not sure if a stacker will feel right anyway.

Any suggestions are appreciated!

I'd check with ID jewelry and see if you can get a stacking ring with amethyst and diamond in it. This is the one I love....I know it says a higher price, but you could drop down to 14kt white gold? I know someone from here had gotten one with sapphires or topaz for $295...

http://idjewelryonline.com/product_info.php?cPath=53_137&products_id=64257

or look for something similar and cheaper in silver?
 
Thanks, I'm having a hard time finding Amethysts. I'm know the board is not a fan of mall stores (I am not either), but I think something like one of these may be right up her alley - she is in to chunkier rings:

http://www.zales.com/product/index.jsp?productId=18437786

Or, maybe I should go with a halo?

http://www.zales.com/product/index.jsp?productId=23009206

Or, maybe I should just ask her! I feel like if I ask her she will tell me not to buy something for her though, even though I know she wants something.
 
MaddyRock|1376256189|3500961 said:
Thanks, I'm having a hard time finding Amethysts. I'm know the board is not a fan of mall stores (I am not either), but I think something like one of these may be right up her alley - she is in to chunkier rings:

http://www.zales.com/product/index.jsp?productId=18437786

Or, maybe I should go with a halo?

http://www.zales.com/product/index.jsp?productId=23009206

Or, maybe I should just ask her! I feel like if I ask her she will tell me not to buy something for her though, even though I know she wants something.

If she liked her e-ring one of those might be perfect. I get a lot of costume jewelry from overstock. com. Try there too!!!
 
I LOVE that ID Jewelry stacking ring.

I will check overstock as well, since this is just a temporary ring to get her through an emotional time. Or I may ask a few friends to chip in to get her something of higher quality.

This setting is almost identical to her e-ring (her diamond is real though, just referencing this for the setting):
http://www.ebay.com/bhp/solitaire-diamond-ring-wide-band
 
Perhaps not this one. But since she's used to size (and maybe a stacking type ring might remind her of a wedding band) I wondered if something "yurman"-ish might work for your idea. Maybe asking other friends to help chip in for a real one could be the way to go.

Style-wise, what do you think of something in this direction?

http://www.ebay.com/itm/14K-Gold-Sterling-silver-Amethyst-Ring-St-14K-925-Sz-8-Hand-Made-Beauty-/380696058950?pt=US_Fine_Rings&hash=item58a340dc46

This actual Yurman's going to end in a bit.
http://www.ebay.com/itm/David-Yurman-Albion-amethyst-ice-diamond-ring-11mm-size-7-1-2-/151095681342?pt=US_Fine_Rings&hash=item232e01213e
 
How about this? A little over budget but it's a while that they have it maybe he's willing to go down in price or you can ask some friends to pull together.

http://www.billleboeufjewellers.com/category/estate_pieces/rings-under-1000-estate_pieces/


February 4, 2013

Amethyst & Diamond Ring $350.00

If you birthday is in February or you just like the colour purple this is a pretty ring that is well made and well priced. With the price of gold around $1650.00 per ounce not many modest size birthstone rings come in 14 karat gold any more. This ring weighs in at 4.9 grams and comes with 2 good quality round brilliant cut diamonds weighing 0.015 carats each on each side of the medium purple 7.0mm x 5.0mm oval amethyst. The ring measures a size 6.5 and is estate priced at $350.00.

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After my divorce (7 years), I took my ering - about a one carat MRB and had it reset. I put it in a bezel because I was going to wear it on my pinky finger. The setting is a bit unusual - the bezel is white gold and there are two horizontal yellow gold ridges flanking the bezel and the shank is a fairly heavy comfort fit in white gold. Your friend may not be ready to reset her ring, but I found that wearing it and calling it my divorce ring was liberating! Just a thought - and it may be too soon for your friend.

It's so nice of you to want to make her feel better!
 
I think you are so very sweet to think of this for your friend! But I am going to say if it were me, I would so much rather pick out something myself! If I were used to wearing a 2 ct diamond on a substantial platinum band, I don't think a small ring or stacking band would really be what I would be after. I sincerely think supporting her by listening when she needs it, taking her out to lunch or dinner, etc. is going to be the most meaningful thing you can do for her. And when she is ready, she will enjoy either resetting the old diamond or selling it and buying something new, which can be symbolic for her of a fresh start.
 
MaximusCruiser|1376325645|3501429 said:

She is getting divorced and already has a 2 ct diamond engagement ring. I am thinking she probably doesn't want to appear engaged when she is getting divorced, ya know?
 
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