Kaleigh|1320531311|3054788 said:Seeing the pic of your lovely 8 year old brought a big smile. I am so very sorry for the loss of your son and for all the pain you have been through. I don't know these dolls, so won't comment...
Deb,AGBF|1320532824|3054800 said:Kaleigh|1320531311|3054788 said:Seeing the pic of your lovely 8 year old brought a big smile. I am so very sorry for the loss of your son and for all the pain you have been through. I don't know these dolls, so won't comment...
Since reading this thread I looked up the dolls and saw I was familiar with them. I had just never seen any premature baby dolls!!! It never would have occurred to me to make one! In my opinion, the other dolls are just dolls...art work. Whether one would want one and, if so, what type of doll, would depend on one's taste. When my daughter was young I had her "double" made in doll form. It was nothing like these dolls, nothing made to look realistic, but one chose an outfit from a selection of outfits; the child got the same one in her size that the doll wore; then the doll was made up with the child's hair and eye color. It may have been called, "My Twin". Designing your own baby doll might not be so different. You could make the baby doll you always dreamed of as a little girl, I guess.
Deb/AGBF
Kaleigh|1320533492|3054812 said:AGBF|1320532824|3054800 said:Kaleigh|1320531311|3054788 said:Seeing the pic of your lovely 8 year old brought a big smile. I am so very sorry for the loss of your son and for all the pain you have been through. I don't know these dolls, so won't comment...
Since reading this thread I looked up the dolls and saw I was familiar with them. I had just never seen any premature baby dolls!!! It never would have occurred to me to make one! In my opinion, the other dolls are just dolls...art work. Whether one would want one and, if so, what type of doll, would depend on one's taste. When my daughter was young I had her "double" made in doll form. It was nothing like these dolls, nothing made to look realistic, but one chose an outfit from a selection of outfits; the child got the same one in her size that the doll wore; then the doll was made up with the child's hair and eye color. It may have been called, "My Twin". Designing your own baby doll might not be so different. You could make the baby doll you always dreamed of as a little girl, I guess.
Deb/AGBF
Deb,
You missed the point. You aren't familar with these dolls...The ones made to look like preemies. Having a double made of your daughter is so far from the point the dear poster was talking about.
xo
Lisa
Cehrabehra|1320589767|3055167 said:If there is anything I've learned from losing loved ones it is that grief comes in all varieties and we cannot necessarily understand how or why someone else grieves the way they do, but that we should support the choices they make to help them get through it. Questioning how someone else gets through their day isn't any better than someone else questioning you how you get through yours. We are all so different. Life really would be easier if everyone were on the same page, but the fact remains that one person's memory comfort is another person's cruel reminder. I'm sorry you've gone through so much heartache, but I think this is one of those times you have to let others deal with their stuff on their own terms too.
LovingDiamonds|1320597738|3055239 said:Thank you everybody for your thoughts. It's good to read everybody's opinions.
I was incensed that when my post was replicated on another website comments were made that I had deep unresolved issues! It was such an assumption and thankfully I don't. Any loss takes time to get over but if you don't it can become a black all consuming cloud. I'm not sure I would have remained sane had I not been able to deal with it all. Although I'm sure my husband still doubts my sanity on occasion!
Even after reading this thread and posting it elsewhere, RH wrote some completely immature and totally off the mark comments. These things happen and fortunately the moderators of that forum acted swiftly and removed the thread for which I'm very grateful. Strangely, I do understand the desire to make something of absolute beauty but I can't see how a replica premature baby fits that bill. It seems macabre. However, if it helps people deal with what they need to, then I guess it's a good thing - not so good to share it in a way that makes others feel uncomfortable though.
Deia|1320744268|3056696 said:I find it completely wrong and insulting to make a doll that has "down syndrome" features. It's insulting to people with down syndrome and their relatives, imo.
It's no wonder these dolls are not widely known, but they seem to have a niche. IMO, the people who use the dolls for substitutes for the deceased or cherish the premature ones/"sick" looking ones for that matter, need psychological help, plain and simple.
AGBF|1320758594|3056765 said:Marian and Deia-
I know nothing about Rockhugger and nothing about how LD and she came to this pass. I completely agree with both of you that there is serious pathology involved in the use of of some of these dolls. I would like to clarify a couple of things that I think you may not be clear about, however.
These so-called "reborn" dolls are not something Rockhugger designed. They are produced by many people. One cannot report them to eBay or the Better Business Bureau because they are a worldwide phenomenon.
Many of the dolls made in the so-called "reborn" method are made to look like healthy babies, like any other dolls. I think that using the term, "reborn" for them is a great disservice. I do not know why a doll collector could not commission one to look like a beautiful and healthy baby doll (as some people do) just for the beauty of the doll and not treat the doll any differently from any other precious doll! (In other words, one wouldn't give it to a child to play with, one would keep it on a shelf, in a collector's area.)
Deb/AGBF
Pandora|1320769701|3056938 said:Deia|1320744268|3056696 said:I find it completely wrong and insulting to make a doll that has "down syndrome" features. It's insulting to people with down syndrome and their relatives, imo.
It's no wonder these dolls are not widely known, but they seem to have a niche. IMO, the people who use the dolls for substitutes for the deceased or cherish the premature ones/"sick" looking ones for that matter, need psychological help, plain and simple.
RH's daughter has Down's Syndrome IIRC.
Deia|1320859344|3057843 said:Pandora|1320769701|3056938 said:Deia|1320744268|3056696 said:I find it completely wrong and insulting to make a doll that has "down syndrome" features. It's insulting to people with down syndrome and their relatives, imo.
It's no wonder these dolls are not widely known, but they seem to have a niche. IMO, the people who use the dolls for substitutes for the deceased or cherish the premature ones/"sick" looking ones for that matter, need psychological help, plain and simple.
RH's daughter has Down's Syndrome IIRC.
I remember reading something along those lines but then I think maybe her daughter, ie the doll, is the one with down syndrome? Wouldn't surprise me.
I have a condition as well, and was blessed to only have it lightly affect me that no one usually notices I even have a problem (it only affected my motor skills on my left side), where as most others with my condition are in wheelchairs, cannot speak properly, drool, etc. I would be so incredibly saddened and appalled to see a doll made to look like those that have my condition. It would infuriate me. I am clearly on the other camp when it comes to believing these dolls are a healthy coping mechanism.
Edit - LD, your daughter is absolutely precious, so happy to know you can have a happy ending after all that you went through.