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Rockhugger or whatever name she is using at the moment, has recently posted comments I've made on another forum **edited. please remember we do not allow discussion of other forums to keep drama at bay**
The doll for sale is one made to look like a premature baby is, to my mind, absolutely horrific. The wording in the advert says "If you look closely, you can see tiny veins and capillaries under the skin. Blue undertones and pink over tones give the baby's skin life! I also hand painted blotches and blemishes on the baby Hope, giving her the look of a just born preemie". I've suffered 8 very late miscarriages, my daughter was born prematurely and I've also had a son who was severely disabled who died shortly after birth. I do not understand (and never will) why a doll made to look like a premature baby may give anybody comfort. Clearly they do but I just don't understand it.
I also believe that this can make people feel very uncomfortable. When my son died, several of my friends just didn't know how to speak to me and avoided the subject. It's not a subject that many people know how to deal with effectively. It's one of those situations in life that people don't often deal with naturally well. Therefore having a doll made to look like a premature baby I can imagine being very stressful to some people who have gone through a very difficult period in their life and had to deal with such an event. I accept that for a minority (and I do suspect it is a minority) there is comfort in having a reminder. For me, I just can't comprehend it but that's my opinion. I deal with my loss by visiting my son's grave but I most certainly don't expect others to do so unless they want to AND it's at their request AND I hope I don't make anybody feel uncomfortable.
My first experience of Reborn dolls was when I watched a particular TV programme (a one off programme, not a series), that showcased about 4 or 5 ladies who collected the dolls. These ladies were depicted as being very odd and, for the most part, were dealing with sadness and deep underlying issues. Clearly, any TV programme (for entertainment/shock value) will look for extreme collectors and I have no doubt that there are collectors who collect who one would not consider to be "extreme". I have no other exposure to the Reborn collector community other than that one TV programme and seeing dolls for sale. However, they do not appeal to me and I struggle with the concept.
The doll for sale is one made to look like a premature baby is, to my mind, absolutely horrific. The wording in the advert says "If you look closely, you can see tiny veins and capillaries under the skin. Blue undertones and pink over tones give the baby's skin life! I also hand painted blotches and blemishes on the baby Hope, giving her the look of a just born preemie". I've suffered 8 very late miscarriages, my daughter was born prematurely and I've also had a son who was severely disabled who died shortly after birth. I do not understand (and never will) why a doll made to look like a premature baby may give anybody comfort. Clearly they do but I just don't understand it.
I also believe that this can make people feel very uncomfortable. When my son died, several of my friends just didn't know how to speak to me and avoided the subject. It's not a subject that many people know how to deal with effectively. It's one of those situations in life that people don't often deal with naturally well. Therefore having a doll made to look like a premature baby I can imagine being very stressful to some people who have gone through a very difficult period in their life and had to deal with such an event. I accept that for a minority (and I do suspect it is a minority) there is comfort in having a reminder. For me, I just can't comprehend it but that's my opinion. I deal with my loss by visiting my son's grave but I most certainly don't expect others to do so unless they want to AND it's at their request AND I hope I don't make anybody feel uncomfortable.
My first experience of Reborn dolls was when I watched a particular TV programme (a one off programme, not a series), that showcased about 4 or 5 ladies who collected the dolls. These ladies were depicted as being very odd and, for the most part, were dealing with sadness and deep underlying issues. Clearly, any TV programme (for entertainment/shock value) will look for extreme collectors and I have no doubt that there are collectors who collect who one would not consider to be "extreme". I have no other exposure to the Reborn collector community other than that one TV programme and seeing dolls for sale. However, they do not appeal to me and I struggle with the concept.