Registering for a honeymoon?

[ilovethiswebsite]

Hi - has anyone registered for their honeymoon? Is so - which website did you use? Also, what were the pros and cons?

 

[elrohwen]

I haven''t done it yet, but I will definitely be doing it as the date gets closer. I think it''s a great idea for people (like us) who don''t really need any more home-goods and kitchen ware. I hope you get some responses with which websites worked out the best becaues there do seem to be a few to choose from.

 

[mintve]

We are registered for our honeymoon. We used the one listed at Couples Resorts, www.HoneymoonWishes.com

 

[ilovethiswebsite]

We are in the same position, we have already been living together and don''t need anything except for maybe a new vacuum cleaner. At first we were anti-registry bcs we wanted cash instead (to pay off our honeymoon) but I know you can''t just not have a registry... Some people are uncomfortable giving cash so we need a 2nd option. So I was looking into this honeymoon registry thing but some sites (e.g. thebigday.com) just take people''s money then charge you 7% and turn around and write you a check... Seems weird to me that someone else is going to be holding my guest''s cash and charging me interest for it... Me dunno. I was also wondering if people might be more inclined to give less as a gift (e.g. a 50$ tour on a day of travel) vs. say 150$ to cover their plate at our wedding. Any thoughts?

 

[elrohwen]

Date: 12/18/2008 11:32:27 AM
Author: ilovethiswebsite
We are in the same position, we have already been living together and don''t need anything except for maybe a new vacuum cleaner. At first we were anti-registry bcs we wanted cash instead (to pay off our honeymoon) but I know you can''t just not have a registry... Some people are uncomfortable giving cash so we need a 2nd option. So I was looking into this honeymoon registry thing but some sites (e.g. thebigday.com) just take people''s money then charge you 7% and turn around and write you a check... Seems weird to me that someone else is going to be holding my guest''s cash and charging me interest for it... Me dunno. I was also wondering if people might be more inclined to give less as a gift (e.g. a 50$ tour on a day of travel) vs. say 150$ to cover their plate at our wedding. Any thoughts?

I think I''ve been getting registry type gifts as Christmas and birthday presents for the past 4 years. There''s absolutely nothing we don''t have. Haha.

I didn''t know that some sites charge interest! That''s crazy. I will definitely look out for that.

And I can''t say I''ve ever considered how much they would give. I know when I buy a wedding present, I usually set a limit in my head and then look for a gift or gifts that fits that amount. If I wanted to spend $50 I wouldn''t get a $150 sauce pan just because it''s on the registry. Plus, for honeymoons you can put hotel stays on the list and those will probably be at least $100 a night (probably more), so I wouldn''t worry about people not having enough variety to choose from.

I completely agree though that you have to have some sort of registry. I don''t think people even want to give you just cash, but if you have a registry where they can feel like they''re really getting you that boat tour or that night at the Hilton, then they''ll feel better about it. Plus, you can come up with fun things! FI wants to do silly things like "Goat ride for 2 through the Alps" and "B''s beer money for good German beer" because we''ll have a lot of young people there who will get a kick out of it. It''s just more personal than cash.

 

[ilovethiswebsite]

Date: 12/18/2008 12:00:11 PM
Author: elrohwen

Date: 12/18/2008 11:32:27 AM
Author: ilovethiswebsite
We are in the same position, we have already been living together and don''t need anything except for maybe a new vacuum cleaner. At first we were anti-registry bcs we wanted cash instead (to pay off our honeymoon) but I know you can''t just not have a registry... Some people are uncomfortable giving cash so we need a 2nd option. So I was looking into this honeymoon registry thing but some sites (e.g. thebigday.com) just take people''s money then charge you 7% and turn around and write you a check... Seems weird to me that someone else is going to be holding my guest''s cash and charging me interest for it... Me dunno. I was also wondering if people might be more inclined to give less as a gift (e.g. a 50$ tour on a day of travel) vs. say 150$ to cover their plate at our wedding. Any thoughts?

I think I''ve been getting registry type gifts as Christmas and birthday presents for the past 4 years. There''s absolutely nothing we don''t have. Haha.

I didn''t know that some sites charge interest! That''s crazy. I will definitely look out for that.

And I can''t say I''ve ever considered how much they would give. I know when I buy a wedding present, I usually set a limit in my head and then look for a gift or gifts that fits that amount. If I wanted to spend $50 I wouldn''t get a $150 sauce pan just because it''s on the registry. Plus, for honeymoons you can put hotel stays on the list and those will probably be at least $100 a night (probably more), so I wouldn''t worry about people not having enough variety to choose from.

I completely agree though that you have to have some sort of registry. I don''t think people even want to give you just cash, but if you have a registry where they can feel like they''re really getting you that boat tour or that night at the Hilton, then they''ll feel better about it. Plus, you can come up with fun things! FI wants to do silly things like ''Goat ride for 2 through the Alps'' and ''B''s beer money for good German beer'' because we''ll have a lot of young people there who will get a kick out of it. It''s just more personal than cash.

hahah goat ride for two! heehhe

 

[elrohwen]

Date: 12/18/2008 12:06:17 PM
Author: ilovethiswebsite

Date: 12/18/2008 12:00:11 PM
Author: elrohwen

Date: 12/18/2008 11:32:27 AM
Author: ilovethiswebsite
We are in the same position, we have already been living together and don''t need anything except for maybe a new vacuum cleaner. At first we were anti-registry bcs we wanted cash instead (to pay off our honeymoon) but I know you can''t just not have a registry... Some people are uncomfortable giving cash so we need a 2nd option. So I was looking into this honeymoon registry thing but some sites (e.g. thebigday.com) just take people''s money then charge you 7% and turn around and write you a check... Seems weird to me that someone else is going to be holding my guest''s cash and charging me interest for it... Me dunno. I was also wondering if people might be more inclined to give less as a gift (e.g. a 50$ tour on a day of travel) vs. say 150$ to cover their plate at our wedding. Any thoughts?

I think I''ve been getting registry type gifts as Christmas and birthday presents for the past 4 years. There''s absolutely nothing we don''t have. Haha.

I didn''t know that some sites charge interest! That''s crazy. I will definitely look out for that.

And I can''t say I''ve ever considered how much they would give. I know when I buy a wedding present, I usually set a limit in my head and then look for a gift or gifts that fits that amount. If I wanted to spend $50 I wouldn''t get a $150 sauce pan just because it''s on the registry. Plus, for honeymoons you can put hotel stays on the list and those will probably be at least $100 a night (probably more), so I wouldn''t worry about people not having enough variety to choose from.

I completely agree though that you have to have some sort of registry. I don''t think people even want to give you just cash, but if you have a registry where they can feel like they''re really getting you that boat tour or that night at the Hilton, then they''ll feel better about it. Plus, you can come up with fun things! FI wants to do silly things like ''Goat ride for 2 through the Alps'' and ''B''s beer money for good German beer'' because we''ll have a lot of young people there who will get a kick out of it. It''s just more personal than cash.

hahah goat ride for two! heehhe

Hah, I can''t take credit for that, FI thought it up. He and the best man are hilarious when they get together, so I''ve told him that once we pick a location the two of them need to collaborate and come up with funny stuff (I''ll probably do the boring things like hotels and train tickets). I''m excited to see what ridiculous things they come up with.

 

[jstarfireb]

We''re using Honeyfund. It''s not run by a travel agency, and it''s completely free because the money never changes hands. Instead, you register for stuff you want, and the guests pick something to fulfill and print out a certificate from the website. Then they write a check to you or give you cash along with the certificate. So the money never goes online through a third party, but the website just keeps track of who is giving you what and allows the guests to have some say in what their gift is intended for (rather than just giving you a check or cash without the certificate).

 

[musey]

My brother and his fiance registered for their honeymoon through the disney website (they're going to disney world).

Cons: there have been a few people "offended" by it.

I get that people have preferences as to what they like to gift, but why be offended? Why not just give something else if you want?

For the record, I posted a thread awhile back about having a yuck moment over it... but it was because they sent an email saying "Hey, we set up our registry, if you want to contribute click here!" which was yucky to me.

 

[Sparkalicious]

Haven''t made use of one myself so I can''t really vouch for it but I have heard that this one is good ... http://www.honeymoonwishes.com/

 

[violet02]

I used http://www.thehoneymoon.com and so did one of my friends for their wedding.

I loved the 'canned' country/city suggestions. I used Greece so it was very easy to toss a generic list together with their suggestions. There is a small fee that's charged to guests that use it. You don't get charged. Most of our guests bought us honeymoon gifts versus off our crate and barrel registry. I think most knew that's what we were saving up for. Quite a few folks just handed us checks or cash at the wedding. A couple of friends let us know that they really liked the idea of buying something for our honeymoon vs giving us plain old cash.

And no complaints! I have another friend getting married who is going to use thehoneymoon.com as well after seeing our registry.

ETA: We got paid in two installments and the checks showed up quickly! One before the wedding and one not long after.