Reassurance needed (White Gold for a Yellow Gold Girl)

[V-Dude]

Ahhhhh, well I finally did the deed. I thought that I was going to buy in the next week and I did it tonight.

I went with the white gold, and saphire setting from Blue Nile.
After all the reading and everything I got from this board I went ahead and chose a diamond that seemed to be the overall best with the money left in my budget and the knoweldge/input I received here. The only thing that I was uneasy about after reading the board was buying a pear without seeing it first. I read that over and over, and it is the only thing I didn''t do, but I think I will be happy. Before I post the specs I want to wait and see it, so that I can be happy with it first.

God! I took so much into consideration, I anaylized everything like crazy and read, and read, and read some more. I do know that what I bought is something better than I would have gotten before finding this board, so I know I will be happy.

All of you are soooo soooo into this and I understand why. It is very interesting. I have enjoyed this. You seem to know the importance of things that I never knew exsited, so here is what I need some reassurance on...

My girlfriend has some basic jewlery, it is all yellow gold. When I was in Venezuela the last time visiting her, her sister said: "I like silver, she likes gold". (meaning yellow) I wasn''t looking for a ring at the time, but now I remember her sister saying that.

I went with the sapphires because I know that she loves blue. I finally chose the setting that I did because I think it would be beautiful on her finger; I could not fight that setting for the life of me, however it is white gold.

Is it that big of a deal for you yellow gold people when you get white gold? (or when you white gold/platinum people get yellow?)

I''m just curious. I am feeling good about what I did, but girls have a different way of seeing things that I have no clue about.

Thanks a million!
V-Dude

 

[sunkist]

First of all congratulations on finding the love of your life and buying the ring! Now about the ring, I''m sure you are going to fall in love with it. It sounds beautiful. I love saphires with diamonds! If she likes blue shaphires I''m sure she''ll adore the ring. Personally I think saphires look better in white metals. But then agian, I am a white metal girl, so maybe I''m the wrong one to be saying this? Like I said, I''m a white metal girl and if I got a yellow gold ring... I might ask for something else. I don''t know, I haven''t tried on yellow gold rings in a long time. Let''s see what some yellow gold people think! But personally I think she''ll love it because you picked it out

 

[JulieN]

Hey, V-Dude. I wear both yellow and white. While white looks ok on me, yellow really brings something out in my complexion. I rarely wear blue, but wear pink, yellow, green, and coral.

Diamonds look best in white. This is widely agreed upon.

I look best in yellow.

Oy, maybe we'll never get along perfectly!

Perhaps you could ask Blue Nile to do it in yellow gold, and do the head that holds the center stone in white gold.

In some cultures, its one metal or the other. Obviously, she has been exposed to both and picked yellow.

Difficult!

 

[JulieN]

actually, the best thing to do would be to have the shared prong part+ head, so all the diamonds and sapphires are set in white, and then have that soldered on to a yellow gold band. if she wants this, you could easily do this later (I think)

 

[atroop711]

Congrats! I am a sapphire lover and I think they they look much better set in white gold (rather than yellow).

Can you call her sister and ask? Or does she have a best friend to ask?

Good luck!

 

[windowshopper]

welcome and congratulations:

I think you did the right thing and I have a few comments about it. Historically (last 100 years or so) it has been considered THE way to set diamonds --in a white metal. That way the yellow gold didnt tint the diamond --even Tiffany & co sets all diamonds in platinuim prongs even if the shank is yellow gold. SO its must classier and more in keeping to go with white metal. Most european cultures follow this tradtion.....asian cultures that typically used yellow gold..........

I think mopst people would concur that the white metal signifies a special ring where more everyday rings might be yellow gold

furthermore sapphires are much better set in white metal so thats probably why the setting was only available that way

 

[diamondseeker2006]

I am one who is changing from YG to platinum or WG in all my jewelry. But it took years for my mind to change to love all white metal. Now I don''t like to wear any of my YG jewelry. But that said, I think the only thing that matters is what the girl loves, and if she prefers YG, then the band should be YG and the prongs WG. That is something that many people have strong preferences about.

The other thought that occurs to me is that WG bands generally have to be rhodium plated every so often, and I wonder how much access she has to that where she is...unless she is moving here when you marry, of course.

If we could just post one thing here for the guys looking for an e-ring, it would be to ask your GF about her preferences for metal color and stone shape at minimum and setting styles preferably before buying the ring!

 

[diamondlil]

First off, contratulations, V-Dude!!!!

White vs. yellow is such a personal decision. I got engaged/married when yellow goldwas in fashion (80s), but even at that, the area where my main diamond and side diamonds were set was white gold -- basically a 2-tone ring. Today, white metal is the favorite among most women, but it really is such a personal choice. If your girlfriend wears all yellow gold, she might prefer it. I like the idea of a yellow gold shank with the mounting area in white. The diamond and sapphires will look best in white IMO. Kind of the best of both worlds really. I don''t know if that is possible with BN, but it''s worth a call.

 

[FireGoddess]

I would prefer the white, but it''s not my ring. I did used to own almost exclusively yellow gold jewelry, and have transitioned mostly to white. What is BN''s return policy? Can you return settings? If so, you could propose within the return window, ask if she would have preferred yellow gold, and take it from there.

 

[Jelly]

How old is your GF?

 

[tifftia]

First of all, Congratulations!!! I am like most here who thinks the Sapphire looks better in white gold than yellow. But the main thing your girlfriend will know is that, it is from you. That should count a great deal toward in your favor. If she stilll prefers yellow gold, then that can be accomplished at a later time. Good Luck

 

[V-Dude]

Thanks for the input!

It seems this can go either way, but the majority agrees.

I am going to bite the bullet and stick with my choice. White gold it is! I think the white gold with saphire''s is a good choice. I compared it with the matching wedding band and it looks like a nice set up. I think it is Hot! (I just know that girls have some sort of logic that I do not understand, so that is why I asked)

If she wants to go with yellow, that is cool too, I did my best, was genuine, and I feel confident. So, hey!

I am just going to wait for her reaction. She will be here on the 19-21 and again from the 26th-June 4th. Her birthday is the 29th and mine the 31st. Because of this, we have special birthday plans and that is when I will pop the question.

Because of this, I will be killing about 4 birds with one stone. (no pun intended. haha)

V-Dude