Random compliments and friend requests on social media

[dk168]

Shall I block right away, or string them along to expose them?

I was on certain websites for a while not that long ago, and can smell a rat miles away!

Luckily, I am not vulnerable, lonely or have a maternal clock ticking inside me etc. etc... However, I can appreciate why some women would fall for such flattery and hand over vast sums of their money to such cads!

I blocked right away BTW.

DK

 

[Austina]

I’m always astonished that people fall for these scams. When a random weirdo contacts me to say he’s seen my photo and is in love with me, I know it’s a con, my FB profile picture is Dottie.

There was a series on recently, and one lady met a guy online, who’s in SWAT the TV series (yeah, really) and of course he was madly in love with her, but sadly, when he got to Turkey to film, all the recording equipment was stolen, so he needed money to replace it. She cashed out her pension and sold her home and gave him the money. Needless to say the whole thing was a scam and she was left penniless.

 

[maryjane04]

Lol oh I used to play words with friends and it happens all the time. Usually they're single dads, widowed, in the military on deployment somewhere in the middle east. It's the same old story every time I can see right through them now. I just don't have the energy to entertain that junk anymore

 

[Spring Day]

My friend’s mother in law has had a “boyfriend” she met on Facebook for years. He’s supposedly younger like in his 30’s (she’s in her 60’s) and she’s been sending money to him for as long as as I can remember. I always check in to see if she’s still with him. They have never video chatted, only text and every time they’re going to meet up, something happens and it never works out. And even though all her friends and family have begged her to stop, she says he loves her and continues to send gifts and money. She is living paycheck to paycheck now with all the money she’s spending on him. I feel like at this point, it’s on her. How can she not see what is happening? Is she that lonely? It’s just really sad.

 

[tyty333]

Same thing as you @Spring Day

I overheard a friend's Mom talking about her on-line boyfriend and how she was always having to send him money. I was shocked. I was very
curious but decided not to ask any questions. I'm sure my friend has tried to put a stop to it but parents/people dont always listen. What can
you do? They want to believe the fairytale or need to be needed? It is very sad. I felt bad for my friend. You could tell she was embarrassed
when her Mom brought it up.

 

[missy]

I just ignore and delete requests from people I do not know. I make no contact, no communication with them at all. Delete request. Easy peasy.

 

[dk168]

I dabbled on a site where one would swipe right for likes about 3 years ago, and was targeted by 3 scammers one after another.

The third one quickly realised I was already in the know that he was a scammer, and asked me to block him!!!

The first one was the most manipulative, it was like on a emotional roller-coaster, and made me feel really bad for doubting and not trusting him, even made me cry which I seldom do. However, I eventually realised what he was trying to do when he asked me to help him financially the second time, I blocked and moved on.

I had been scammed in my 20s and 40s, only for a very small amount of money. However, the experiences left me very jaded and I became very vary about anyone asking me for money.

I am no longer interested in internet dating since 2017, as I have no desire to waste my time weeding out the scammers, or waste money joining "proper" dating sites with detailed profile matches only for dreary exchanges in return!

A gentleman friend may be nice to have, to share life with. However, it is not worth the hassle. I can still enjoy life to the full on my own, and am happily doing so.

DK

 

[missy]

I dabbled on a site where one would swipe right for likes about 3 years ago, and was targeted by 3 scammers one after another.

The third one quickly realised I was already in the know that he was a scammer, and asked me to block him!!!

The first one was the most manipulative, it was like on a emotional roller-coaster, and made me feel really bad for doubting and not trusting him, even made me cry which I seldom do. However, I eventually realised what he was trying to do when he asked me to help him financially the second time, I blocked and moved on.

I had been scammed in my 20s and 40s, only for a very small amount of money. However, the experiences left me very jaded and I became very vary about anyone asking me for money.

I am no longer interested in internet dating since 2017, as I have no desire to waste my time weeding out the scammers, or waste money joining "proper" dating sites with detailed profile matches only for dreary exchanges in return!

A gentleman friend may be nice to have, to share life with. However, it is not worth the hassle. I can still enjoy life to the full on my own, and am happily doing so.

DK

When you are least expecting it love might find you. You are doing what is best for you and you are enjoying your life now as it is. That is the best recipe for finding love. When you are completely content and harmonious with your life. One day you might be surprised and right now you are living and loving your life.

 

[chemgirl]

I have an account for my pico brewery and it gets this type of message daily.

My favourites are the “Are you looking for a sugar daddy?” types. Like ew I’m not sending some random person nudes. I’m not even sure how they escalate that. Maybe they use them as blackmail later?

 

[dk168]

When you are least expecting it love might find you. You are doing what is best for you and you are enjoying your life now as it is. That is the best recipe for finding love. When you are completely content and harmonious with your life. One day you might be surprised and right now you are living and loving your life.

I am not going to never ever, and hope I am still alive when a Cupid's arrow hit me between the eyes.

DK

 

[dk168]

I have an account for my pico brewery and it gets this type of message daily.

My favourites are the “Are you looking for a sugar daddy?” types. Like ew I’m not sending some random person nudes. I’m not even sure how they escalate that. Maybe they use them as blackmail later?

Don't show one's face or any identifiable features that could link the photos to oneself, that's the advice I read somewhere, honest!

Something to do with the infamous "headless gent" photo in the divorce case of a British aristocrat a long time ago!

DK

 

[chemgirl]

Don't show one's face or any identifiable features that could link the photos to oneself, that's the advice I read somewhere, honest!

Something to do with the infamous "headless gent" photo in the divorce case of a British aristocrat a long time ago!

DK

HAHAHA!!!

Head or no, I’m not going to send them.

Adding: An alert came through while I was writing the above and it’s another wannabe sugar daddy. This one claims to be a surgeon.

I’m still baffled about this scam. How does it work? My photos aren’t at all suggestive.

 

[MeowMeow]

I have an account for my pico brewery and it gets this type of message daily.

My favourites are the “Are you looking for a sugar daddy?” types. Like ew I’m not sending some random person nudes. I’m not even sure how they escalate that. Maybe they use them as blackmail later?

Oof i have a family member who fell for something like it. They absolutely do try to use them for blackmail. The person was emailed with a list of family members which included my name and my husbands and pictures were threatened to be leaked to everyone on the list. Nobody should ever answer those types of mails! Not that you would. I'm just even more against that type of stuff than I was prior after that experience.

 

[chemgirl]

Oof i have a family member who fell for something like it. They absolutely do try to use them for blackmail. The person was emailed with a list of family members which included my name and my husbands and pictures were threatened to be leaked to everyone on the list. Nobody should ever answer those types of mails! Not that you would. I'm just even more against that type of stuff than I was prior after that experience.

I find it confusing, since presumably someone who is receptive to being a sugar baby doesn’t have money right?

Maybe that’s just my perception, but someone who is independently wealthy probably wouldn’t send pictures to a stranger for money.

Moral of the story: stranger danger applies to the internet too.

 

[MeowMeow]

I find it confusing, since presumably someone who is receptive to being a sugar baby doesn’t have money right?

Maybe that’s just my perception, but someone who is independently wealthy probably wouldn’t send pictures to a stranger for money.

Moral of the story: stranger danger applies to the internet too.

Well their case was slightly different. It was closer to a dating app scam thing. And this family member is disabled and unable to work. I don't have a lot of info on how they fell for the con. I just know it happened because I got a whole call telling me not to open strange emails because they were being blackmailed. And the other family confirmed it and reported it all to the police. The victim of whatever scam would be the one to potentially pay up to the blackmailer.

For example. If i were on a dating site I might have men messaging me right? Say I talk to one i like and he asks for nudes right. Someone who is really really lonely might actually do it because they think they care about them. Once the victim sends them the scammer can then say send me x amount of money or your friends and family will see these. Which is what happened to my family member.

I couldn't say that this is exactly how the sugar baby thing would work because sugar babying was never something I did. but it makes sense to me that the scammer or daddy or whatever could tell the victim to send the nudes and then demand money from them to keep them from coming out just like in the dating scam. I can see how some women would pay up since many women wouldn't want their mom or dad seeing that. But that's how it would seem to me anyway.

 

[chemgirl]

Well their case was slightly different. It was closer to a dating app scam thing. And this family member is disabled and unable to work. I don't have a lot of info on how they fell for the con. I just know it happened because I got a whole call telling me not to open strange emails because they were being blackmailed. And the other family confirmed it and reported it all to the police. The victim of whatever scam would be the one to potentially pay up to the blackmailer.

For example. If i were on a dating site I might have men messaging me right? Say I talk to one i like and he asks for nudes right. Someone who is really really lonely might actually do it because they think they care about them. Once the victim sends them the scammer can then say send me x amount of money or your friends and family will see these. Which is what happened to my family member.

I couldn't say that this is exactly how the sugar baby thing would work because sugar babying was never something I did. but it makes sense to me that the scammer or daddy or whatever could tell the victim to send the nudes and then demand money from them to keep them from coming out just like in the dating scam. I can see how some women would pay up since many women wouldn't want their mom or dad seeing that. But that's how it would seem to me anyway.

That totally makes sense! I see the risk on a dating site for sure.

The messages I get are men who offer me $1000 plus per month to enter a sugar daddy situation with them. I click on the profile and it is usually private, but there is a description talking about a high paying job. Clearly it’s a scam. I just don’t get how it can be that lucrative since someone willing to send nudes for money probably doesn’t have access to a huge amount of cash (I have some friends on Only Fans so no judgement if that is something someone does).

I also don’t know why that’s the scam I get! Never marriage scams.

 

[jaysonsmom]

I get a lot of friend requests on FB from all kinds of single eligible men, all seem to be age appropriate and very good looking “widows” or divorcees with similar ethnic background too. I never accept, but have looked through their profiles. Once I scroll through their Info, friends, or posts they always end up being completely fake profiles....for eg, a single Korean widower living in Dubai all of sudden has posts only posted in Arabic once you scroll through historical posts. I have never accepted a friend request from someone I don’t know.

When I play words with friends, I also get a lot of chatty single males wanting to get to know me better. I usually don’t respond or if they persist, I turn off chat function. A lot of them quit the game once I turn off chat.

 

[Austina]

I don’t know if any of you have ever watched 90 day Fiancée? There was one woman from Las Vegas, she’d been widowed and had grown up children. She started ’chatting’ with someone she thought was English on IG. He asked her for money so he could visit, so she decided to visit him, and spoke to him about coming to England, and asked him which airport she needed to book. He told her London, despite supposedly living in Manchester. By this time, her daughter had got involved, and told her it was a scam. Fortunately, her daughter told her not to book the flights. She carried on messaging him and got no reply. Eventually she admitted that she had sent him nude photos, then the next thing she got an email demanding money or they’d be put on the internet. He kids were horrified, and told her no way was she sending money. She persisted in thinking that someone had hacked his email and he had nothing to do with it. Her son did a reverse image search, and all the photos that she had of him turned out to be stock images of ‘hunky young guy’, and she still didn’t believe she’d been scammed. She genuinely thought it had all just been a mix up and he was in love with her.

 

[dk168]

Such scammer stories are too common, yet women and sometimes men are still falling for them!

DK

 

[jaysonsmom]

I just got another friend request today, thought I’d share his profile if any of you ladies want a hunky widower from some obscure country, who is always a doctor of some sort, but looks like a model/actor.

 

[seaurchin]

And he's a doctor of medinice, no less!

 

[dk168]

I only allow friend requests from friends of friends, and don't always accept them unless I know well myself.

DK

 

[GreenPapaya]

Oh wow. Some of the stories are so sad.

I'm rarely on Facebook and don't have any other social media. I don't get any of those friends request. But i haven't logged on FB in a while, maybe some hunky man is waiting for my reply!

What I do get are lots of robocalls in Mandarin asking for I don't know what since I don't understand any of it.

 

[chemgirl]

Mine are less hunky, but the latest one has a similar description.

“Orthopaedic surgeon Dr By profession”

 

[seaurchin]

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This one also has obvious typos. "I'm an orthopedic surgeon Dr By profession."

I've heard scammers do that on purpose. They want to weed out the people who catch the easier clues that they're scammers, leaving the more gullible ones to target.

 

[jaysonsmom]

I just got another friend request today, thought I’d share his profile if any of you ladies want a hunky widower from some obscure country, who is always a doctor of some sort, but looks like a model/actor.

Check out his name...Ibukan, but you can call him FRED!

 

[chemgirl]

This one also has obvious typos. "I'm an orthopedic surgeon Dr By profession."

I've heard scammers do that on purpose. They want to weed out the people who catch the easier clues that they're scammers, leaving the more gullible ones to target.

Exactly! I always think the scam accounts are so obvious, but then I watch 90 Day Fiancé and there are people who fall for it. They know their audience

 

[seaurchin]

I've known one man and one woman who I can think of right now, who fell for romance scams. Both were older and alone and their scammers (from their profiles anyway) were far younger and more conventionally attractive, no one who would likely be interested in them in real life. Both would go from one scammer to the next. They wouldn't listen and didn't learn. They seemed like addicts with it, on delusion highs about their alleged love interests.

 

[dk168]

Of the three scammers I encountered via T-site, the first was a jet-setting medic working for some international agency for humanitarian causes.

The second one again, another jet-setter who works in finance specialising in virtual currencies, and his latest project was a massive multi-million construction in some Middle Eastern country.

Can't remember the third one as I sussed him out as a scammer very quickly. I remembered him saying he travelled a lot.

They all looked good on photos.

If anyone is reading this, and is considering joining T-site, DO NOT, and I mean DO NOT, move away from its own IM facility to use the likes of Whatapps or Skype. The reason for this is that, once you have moved away from T-site's IM facility, you will not be able to report the profile as a scammer as you will be blocked and would not be able to find it again to report it - a lesson I learnt the hard way!!!

DK

 

[Rons Wolfe]

The status on my facebook profile says married, I couldn't even bring myself to change that. But if I ever did set it to widowed, I think I'd change it so it's not visible to public anymore.