vindicator2002
Rough_Rock
- Joined
- Jan 5, 2007
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Hey ladies -- stop screaming and throwing things at me now, it''s not like I just walked into your locker room!
Seriously, I have a question. I will be proposing to the love of my life soon. She knows it''s coming (although she doesn''t know much more than that.) There is only one small problem: she has the worst case of engagement fever. (Think Marisa Tomei''s wedding fever in My Cousin Vinny.) She keeps asking me about when I am finally going to propose; sometimes under the pretext of "oh, everyone keeps pestering me about this", sometimes without any pretext at all. We are both 26 and have been dating for three and a half years, and the time frame for my proposal is literally within the next month or two. (Got the setting, still picking out the stone, and have a proposal idea that I am still developing.) But lately, she has been asking me this almost every day, and I am getting a little frustrated. My frustration is not with her (I more than understand where she is coming from, especially since she soon has to decide where in the country she is going to go for her residency program), but rather with the situation. The last thing I would want is for either of us to feel that I am proposing because I''ve been nagged or pressured into doing it. I jokingly say that every time she asks, I have to push it back by a month (had I meant it, we''d be on track for a 2097 wedding.) But seriously, any ideas on how I can reassure her enough for her to stop, without letting the cat entirely out of the bag? I think it would be a better experience for her if she later doesn''t have any reason to start thinking that she nagged me into proposing (and a better experience for me, for obvious reasons!)
Any thoughts?
Seriously, I have a question. I will be proposing to the love of my life soon. She knows it''s coming (although she doesn''t know much more than that.) There is only one small problem: she has the worst case of engagement fever. (Think Marisa Tomei''s wedding fever in My Cousin Vinny.) She keeps asking me about when I am finally going to propose; sometimes under the pretext of "oh, everyone keeps pestering me about this", sometimes without any pretext at all. We are both 26 and have been dating for three and a half years, and the time frame for my proposal is literally within the next month or two. (Got the setting, still picking out the stone, and have a proposal idea that I am still developing.) But lately, she has been asking me this almost every day, and I am getting a little frustrated. My frustration is not with her (I more than understand where she is coming from, especially since she soon has to decide where in the country she is going to go for her residency program), but rather with the situation. The last thing I would want is for either of us to feel that I am proposing because I''ve been nagged or pressured into doing it. I jokingly say that every time she asks, I have to push it back by a month (had I meant it, we''d be on track for a 2097 wedding.) But seriously, any ideas on how I can reassure her enough for her to stop, without letting the cat entirely out of the bag? I think it would be a better experience for her if she later doesn''t have any reason to start thinking that she nagged me into proposing (and a better experience for me, for obvious reasons!)
Any thoughts?