Date: 2/5/2009 12:48:28 AM
Author: jstarfireb
I also picked out the ring with my fiance...we picked out the stone together online, and I chose the setting I wanted. After all, I''m the one who''ll be wearing it for the rest of my life. I didn''t care one bit about the loss of surprise. The surprise was all in how and when he proposed. That said, I''m not a ''romantic'' type; we''re both very practical, and this was really the only way to do things from our standpoint.
So, what it comes down to...is your girlfriend a romantic type who loves surprises? Or is she more of a Type A who would rather pick out things herself (like me) and wouldn''t mind losing a bit of the surprise?
i like A. buy a loose diamond and propose with a temp ring.Date: 2/4/2009 11:47:44 PM
Author: Deelight
No FI and I basically picked most of it together, if your really worried I would:
A) propose with a temp ring and buy the permanent ring together
B) propose with no ring and pick one together later
C) pick one together now and propose with that
It doesn''t have to be stressful .
Date: 2/5/2009 7:33:33 AM
Author: ButterBean
What we did: He doesn''t know the first thing about diamonds, so he trusted me to commit his money wisely. I came here, did research and figured out what I would like to see on my hand every day. The hardest part was deciding on a setting, and because I am the fussy type - he was right not to surprise me, though initially he wanted to. So now the surprise will be the ''When, where and how'' of the proposal. That way, he knows for sure I will love the actual ring.
It was ordered a couple weeks ago, and still don''t know when ... though I''m hoping for Valentines. Best wishes!
Date: 2/5/2009 12:03:06 AM
Author: qnbrew88
wow, thanks NOahsmom and deelight. I didnt know couples actually went shopping for rings together cuz i thought it''d take the surprise factor away but ok. I guess that''s one way to consider.
Date: 2/5/2009 12:03:06 AM
Author: qnbrew88
wow, thanks NOahsmom and deelight. I didnt know couples actually went shopping for rings together cuz i thought it''d take the surprise factor away but ok. I guess that''s one way to consider.
I agree. If you can figure out what diamond shape she likes, great. Otherwise, go with a beautiful round cut. I''d put it in a classic solitaire setting for the proposal and then tell her that if she wants to pick her own setting later, she can. Maybe she''ll want to do that, maybe she''ll want to keep the ring as is.Date: 2/5/2009 3:18:50 AM
Author: Dancing Fire
i like A. buy a loose diamond and propose with a temp ring.Date: 2/4/2009 11:47:44 PM
Author: Deelight
No FI and I basically picked most of it together, if your really worried I would:
A) propose with a temp ring and buy the permanent ring together
B) propose with no ring and pick one together later
C) pick one together now and propose with that
It doesn''t have to be stressful .
That''s funny that you say that. In my case I''d have rather had no ring. Actually I wanted to take it back, take a deep breath and go without a ring while I decided what I wanted. He refused that. So it was a huge rush of activity. I spent HOURS on PS in the course of just a couple days to pick my WF diamond. It was crazy and I wish I would have had more time. I would have rather him said "Will you marry me? We can go pick out a ring together." Of course that would have been a good compromise so he could have surprised me and we could have chosen the ring together without all the hurt feelings.Date: 2/5/2009 11:59:59 AM
Author: denverboy
- do NOT propose with no ring... that would be such a let down
Yep, lots of people do. You have to weigh the surprise factor with the "she might hate it" factor, and see which wins out for youDate: 2/5/2009 12:03:06 AM
Author: qnbrew88
wow, thanks NOahsmom and deelight. I didnt know couples actually went shopping for rings together cuz i thought it'd take the surprise factor away but ok. I guess that's one way to consider.