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pick of choice, not hers (she doesn''t know) and i was wondering if perhaps i should propose with a very inexpensive band and then have her see my planned one, or let her chose by herself? Is a proposal ever done with a diamond? Thanks in advance, my questions always get answered :-)[/u]
 
I would mount the diamond in the cheapest white gold setting you can find....I'd propose with the diamond...I would not purchase a setting without her opinion unless she is easy going, not like all of us nuts!
 
mmm, so you would mount it in white gold and propose and get it remounted, or propose with the diamond? she is extremely easygoing, and i'm very sure she would like what i have chosen, i just want to be 100% sure it's what she wanted as well.
 
I would propose with the diamond mounted in a very cheap setting (so she can wear it and show it off immediately)...the best part (almost best part!) of getting engaged!!!
 
If you feel like she'll like what you've picked out then I say go ahead and mount the stone in the setting you've picked. I'm a hopeless romantic and it would be a sweet sentiment for me to see what my future husband picked for me to wear as his wife. I think the impact of the perfectly finished ring glittering in a fantastic setting would awesome and very romantic when you pop the question. When DH and I got married, we were both young and poor. We went together to pick out the ring and for his budget I opted for a plain 6 prong setting to have more money go towards the diamond. When we upgraded the setting a few years ago it was very important to me for him to really provide some imput. He chose as his favorite a different setting than I did. I went with his choice. It meant a lot to me to wear what he picked.
 
$3k is a lot for a setting that she may or may not like. Has she hinted at what she likes or will this be a total surprise?

I think what MMM is saying is to have the diamond set in an inexpensive setting and then let her see if she likes the one you picked after you're engaged.
 
I say knock it off for less .... NO, JUST KIDDING




I've learned from experience that settings are very personal an dthat our tastes sometimes differ. I always ask. Even though she would not say anything, I prefer to give something she really wants.




I would go for the $80 gold temporary.
 
I don't see the point in buying a throwaway setting. If I'm going to show off my engagement ring to my friends and relatives, then I want them to see the completed ring, not the diamond in a temporary setting. If you're going to let her pick out her own setting, then propose, show her the diamond and then go setting shopping together. I still think that if you're confident enough that you know her taste and think she'll like the setting then go for it. Just for curiosity, what kind of center stone did you buy and what kind of setting did you choose for 3K?
 
The only thing is, is that it can take a LONG time to get the custom setting done...oh wait...is it a stock setting questionsrus? I just wouldn't want to get engaged and then for the next three months not be able to wear my diamond...you can get a cheapie cheap white gold setting for 100 bucks and sell it from 25 bucks scrap!
 
YES!!!! Pearcrazy- that is the question!!!!!
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...what diamond did you get????? Details please
 
Hi! As a recently engaged person who got the white gold throw away and a choice of ANYTHIG I WANT, I SAY YES YES YES! Do it! It was so lovely to be totaly suprised, yet still get to pick my own setting! I am having so much fun onthese boards trying to pick one - it a GREAT - a suprise proposal with out having to obviosly fish for ideas!!
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Temporary. That way she can wear your rock while she's deciding on what she wants.
 
Congrats on the acquisition of your diamond! I would opt for the diamond set in a temp first. One, because I’m vain, and would like to show it of immediately!
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And two, because I would be so excited that I would want to wear our engagement ring right away. Personally, I don’t think presenting the diamond itself is a good idea. Because whether the diamond is set or not, it is a completely different experience. Good luck and let us know what you decide.
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The practical side of me agrees with the others in theory about the temporary setting and letting her choose. That's the surest way to make sure she gets exactly what she wants even if I do cringe when I think of wasting 80-100 bucks on a disposable setting. The romantic side of me envisions him on bended knee with open ring box and the sparklie ring that he's chosen just for her waiting for her delighted tearful reply. Sigh..... (sounds like a novel that would feature of picture of Fabio on the cover, I know
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I never got that kind of proposal, mine went as follows- "so what do you wanna do today, do you wanna go look at rings?" I would have been thrilled for my DH to have made a fuss out of his proposal and surprised me with a ring of his choosing, but I'm pretty laid back about all of that stuff. It means more to me to wear what he's chosen for me (and hopefully it wouldn't be the "Princess Lea" setting from the other post
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) I know I'm terribly in the minority here on this one.
 
I can think of nothing that I would like better than for my FI to have said: Here's your ring. It's a temporary setting so that you can have a choice in the ring you will wear everyday for the rest of our lives. BTW, I set aside $3000 so that you can really have a variety of choices. Who knows, maybe she has had an idea of what she wants her rings to look like her whole life. I think this is the one way guaranteed to make sure she is happy with the finished product. That whole surprise ring thing is way overrated IMO. A lovely suprise diamond and she gets to pick the setting guarantees she'll be happy in the end. (Cause if Mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy)LOL Good luck whatever you decide to do.

Shay
 
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another reason i was thinking about proposing with the diamond (no longer, you guys convinced me not to) was because I want to be absolutely sure i get the right ring size, as the tension setting can't be resized Thanks for all your input, where can i get a cheap setting if i decide not to immediately get the tension setting? and where can i get it mounted, a local jeweler?[/u]
 
Hi. I just looked at the diamond on Supercert's website. It looks nice. As for the setting, maybe you could ask Barry if they have a cheap setting you could use.
 
I still would love to have people's opinions!
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I think the temporary setting is a great idea, (it's what I would want), and the simplest way to do it is to work with Barry rather than ship the stone around. keepin it simple is the key.....
 
Hey Questions, have you thought about taking some of that setting $$$ and put it into a bigger stone? Just throwing more beans into the pot.
 
sevens - yeah i have thought about it. if she decides she doesn't like that setting i will most likely take advantage of barry's trade in deal and get a bigger one
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i wish i could up the color of the diamond, to an f or g, but unless she decides that setting isn't for her, it's out of my buget :-).
everyone on here has convinced me to get a temp. one from barry. i dunno what it'll look like, but i'm going to get a 14k yellow gold band with 14k white gold prongs (is that the right term?) for $85, so that's good.
 
I agree with Nan on that...I think a nice setting is really important, but that is a very expensive setting compared to the stone...especially when the setting can never ever be resized.
 
why white gold prongs?
 
I don't know why the prongs are white gold. Perhaps because people like plat. prongs because it's supposed to be stronger, and this is supposed to look like that. It doesn't really matter to me, I just wanted the cheapest one he had :-) do you think it's silly of me to be putting my chosen diamond in that band? and who is nan?
 
I think the YG band w/WG prongs is fine. PT prongs is just supposed to be stronger and the WG prongs is to just avoid the yellowing look of the colourless diamond. It's not a silly idea at all. Nan is also Sevens One.
 
But it's not colorless chrono and I think the yellow/yellow will look best...just my 2 cents
 
And no!.... I certainly don't think it's silly of you to put the stone in the chosen band...not something I would do but you ain't buying it for me...
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maybe not a great move before letting her see it b/c I think people either love or hate a tension setting...I just have a real big problem with spending ALL that $ on something that can never be resized....makes me nervous...but again, I'm not giving or getting...bummer
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i didn't take offense mmm, i just wanted your opinion, don't worry
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. what do you think is not a great move before letting her see it?
 
dude- I'm tellin ya...let her see it...But let me ask- has she expressed interest in a setting like that? If yes, then why not go for it...BUT...you sure you have the right ring size???
 
I'm pretty sure i have the ring size, at least within .25 on each side of .5. she has seen a kretchmer ring that was almost exactly like the kretchmer i posted about, and commented on it, but i think discounted it because it was in a magazine and looked too expensive. that or she didn't like it. i had another setting i was "going to get" before i found the tension setting one. someone mentioned the ring being wider because of the width of the metal, and even if she loves the ring, what if it's uncomfortable? these are the questions i have going through my head :-)
 
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