Question about Bridemaid

[flower12]

Hi! I need an advice from everybody about be Bridesmaid.
because I am not sure about American wedding tradition rule well enough.
I got phone call from my friend( not American, she is living in the USA for 3 years) about be bridesmaid.
she was asked to be one of bridesmaid and to have Bridal shower.
little information about what kind style of wedding.
1.the wedding is more than 150 people attend very nice winery at Napa California.
( groom''s family is very rich & groom is rich and much older age than bride & they got pre-wedding gift about 100K and
money for Europian honeymoon fee from he''s father. bride is very young )

the bride will not help any money for bridesmaids.

my friend having tight financial situation which the bride knows well about it.

*my friend asked me if it''s normal situation?
well... I never had experience be bridesmaid,
so I don''t have any idea. I asked my DH about it
he says bride pay dress ( shoes ,bag everything)& some gift for them because sounds like
both groom and bride has not have any tight money situatiation at all.
but I would like to hear an american lady''s opnion .
please let me know your opnion.

 

[MelissaSue]

No.. as a rule the bridesmaids are responsible for thier own dresses and usually helping in some way with the shower and/or bachellorette party, unless the bride and groom choose to help cover the cost of dresses/shoes.. whatever.. But its certainly not required or standard.. Its more of a gift/favor if the bride pays for the bridesmaid dresses.

If your friend is having trouble financially she should explain this to the bride and tell her for that reason she cannot be a bridesmaid.

 

[Scooba]

Agreed, if you friend cannot handle at this time, the sometimes hefty financial obligations of being a bridesmaid, she should explain the situation and gracefully decline.

 

[flower12]

MelissaSue•diamonds are hot
thank you very much for let me know the rule.
I am glad that I didn''t tell her what My DH saied.
I will tell her about those rule.thanks again.