Ques. for Glasses Wearers

[AmberWaves]

Hi guys! Happy All Saints Day! (honestly, no idea what that is), but whatev.

Annnyway, I have the unfortunate luck of having to wear glasses ALL the time. Bi-focals, because I had cataract surgery a few years back, and they gave me one near-sighted artificial lens, and one far-sighted artificial lens. Because of that surgery, I can''t wear contacts.

The question is: Should I do all the wedding stuff (pictures, walk up the aisle, etc.) w/o the glasses, and then put them on post ceremony and formal pics? I can see, things are just blurred. I could look into getting new ones, more "bridey"? Those of you with glasses, what are YOU going to do? I haven''t seen any pics with glasses and it makes me sad.

 

[robbie3982]

I personally won't be wearing my glasses, but that's because I can wear my contacts. It sounds like your vision isn't quite as bad as mine w/o glasses, but I wouldn't want to have the whole first part of the day be blurry. I had a friend who wore her glasses to her wedding. She wore her glasses all the time and her glasses were just a part of her look. They definitely weren't "bridey" though. I think it's all about what you're comfortable with, but I definitely want to see my whole wedding clearly

 

[AmberWaves]

Thanks, Robbie! Yeah, maybe I''ll find some other ones that are a little less noticable than the ones I have now. My vision is blurry, more so after I take my glasses off. I may try out how bad it really is this weekend, maybe.

Your friend was cute, too! Totally happy looking, and I LOVE his bout.!

 

[sumbride]

I think you should look like yourself, only better, on your wedding day, so if you always wear glasses, and always will, I think you should wear them in your pictures! You want to recognize yourself in the pictures, and it would be nice to see what was going on! I get headaches when I don''t wear my contacts, does that happen to you without your glasses?

I would say that you should DEFINITELY get frames that you love and that will look good in the photos! Don''t they make a special anti-glare lens that works better for pictures? Now is the time to find just the right pair that make you happy so it won''t seem like you''re torturing yourself by wearing them.

 

[robbie3982]

I have the anti-glare lenses and they really work!

 

[AmberWaves]

Sum, you''re right, I should wear them in them, since I totally haven''t been without for years! And yeah, I do get a little headache, so it would be better all around for that. I will try to get some that aren''t the tortoise-shell ones I have now!

Thanks!

I think I''ll do like Robbie and get the anti-glare ones.

One more thing: FI has glasses but mostly wears contacts, but I LOVE him in glasses. I know it''s wrong, but I WANT him to wear them for the pics! I shouldn''t even ask, right? Since he wears contacts all the time, and that''s how people see him?

 

[sumbride]

Hmm.... well, I''m like your FI. I have glasses but usually wear my contacts. I feel like I see better with my contacts. But my FI loves me in glasses. Always has. I don''t think I''d like him to ask me to wear them on my wedding day. For one thing, he doesn''t get to pick what I wear, and for another, I don''t feel like me in them.

Whether your FI would feel the same way depends on him. Guys don''t usually care quite as much as we do. Why doesn''t he wear them very often? Does he feel comfortable in them?

 

[AmberWaves]

Well, he''s a coach and p.e. teacher, so he''s all about running around and throwing things and getting hit. So he doesn''t wear them during the day because it''s easier to wear sunglasses and to not have a lens break in his eye.

Maybe I''ll take some pics WITHOUT the glasses (me) and maybe one or two of him WITH the glasses. Mix it up. Does that make sense? I wouldn''t ask him to wear them the whole time, though. It WOULD be very bridezilla.

 

[robbie3982]

At my parents wedding my mom made my dad not wear his glasses at first so that they could take pictures before the ceremony (he can barely see anything w/o them) and then he wore them during and after the ceremony so he could see. I always wondered why my dad had his glasses on in some pics and off in others. Now I know it''s because my mom didn''t want him to see her before the wedding. I only found this out within the last month or so.

 

[sumbride]

Being a PE teacher, it makes sense that he wouldn''t wear them a lot. But he doesn''t sound opposed to them. Maybe run the idea by him and see what he says. He may be totally for it.

 

[sunkist]

Definitely get anti-glare. And you could also go with rimless frames! I think I would totally do that if i couldn''t wear my contacts. It would just be a soft look of your glasses and not a more bold every day statement.

 

[AmberWaves]

Thanks you guys! Robbie, that is soo funny how your mom worked it!! Unfortunately, our wedding is at 10am, so I won''t even be coherent as early as I''d need to get up for the pics to be done before the wedding! Dang it!

Sum, I think I will run that by him, I jokingly said that before we got engaged "You''re WEARING THOSE IN THE WEDDING PICTURES, BUDDY." But now that it''s an option...

Sunkist, I think you''re thinking along the right lines, it may be a perfect solution.

 

[lilmissjaja]

maybe you could get a new glasses.

rimless glasses with silver / gold frames. And with an anti-glare + high index lenses, it will be so thin and comfy !!

Like this one..

or this one

 

[gailrmv]

You can always take off your glasses for the pics even if you wear them the rest of the day! I''d want to see my wedding, but look my best in my pics....So, it''s really a matter of whether you feel that you look your best with or without the glasses!

 

[AmberWaves]

Thanks lilmissjaja, I kind of like the idea of shopping for another wedding accessory!! I agree with you Gail, I could always just take them off!

 

[reader]

This would be a great time to pick up something elegant and delicate....having an ''evening'' pair of glasses would be fun...
FH also wears glasses, and I never even thought about him taking them off...they are such a feature of his face that he often falls asleep (or into the ocean) with them on...

 

[sumbride]

I was just glancing through the "newlywed forum" on Craigslist and a girl posted pics from her wedding and she''s wearing GLASSES! She looks lovely! They aren''t my pics to post here, so I''ll just direct you to it. CL post

 

[AmberWaves]

Thanks, Sum!! Those were the kinds I was thinking of getting, too. I mean, not the exact ones, but like them.

 

[kcoursolle]

Hi Amber, I would suggest buying a more petite pair to wear that still shows your eyes off. Something that is thin and perhaps rimless, then they would barely be visible and people could still see your eyes.

 

[AmberWaves]

K, that''s a very good point. It''s fun to shop for something for the wedding I can use AFTER the wedding! Thanks!