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Ive been thinking about you everyday indy!! I hope things stay positive and the cubs stay in as long as possible!! :-) Hang in there!! :-
 
Thanks for the update!

Indy- hang in there. How exciting that your boys are so active, every day that you have with them is a gift. Your family is in my thoughts daily.
 
hi Indy,

still thinking of you and your family, and hoping like crazy for the best.

rainy
 
Date: 10/23/2008 2:22:59 PM
Author: HooCares
My twins were born at the end of December at 25 1/2 wks. gestation due to preeclampsia/toxemia. They are fraternal girl-boy twins and weighed 1 lb. 9 oz and and 1 lb. 4 oz. at birth. They are both doing amazingly well. Our girl is developing normally as far as anyone can tell, and our boy has very slight physical delays, but nothing that can''t be helped through PT and time. It hasn''t been an easy path (3 months in the NICU) and we aren''t out of the woods yet, but we are blessed, lucky, and hopeful. I am hopeful for you and your family too. I know you still have a ways to go to get in a safer zone, and I will pray that you will make it there. I know our situations are quite different (I used to get frustrated when the most well meaning people would say, ''Your babies will be fine. I know someone who had a baby at 26/27/28 wks. and they are fine. We know that every day those babies stay inside you is a good day that makes a big difference.), but if I can answer any questions for you, please let me know.
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Hoocares, thanks so much for sharing your story. I''m so glad that your babies are doing so well. It is really wonderful and you are so blessed. I realize that even more now that we met with the neonatologist yesterday who explained a lot of very scary things to us. So we''re a little shellshocked. I think we ''knew'' but didn''t ''know'' how serious premies this early really are, if you know what I mean.

So I feel even more strongly how blessed you are that your babes are faring well. I''ll keep them in my thoughts and prayers and hope for continued strides forward.

On the 25 vs 28 vs 30 week preemie thing, I really hear you about your furstration. While people are just trying to help and be comforting when they say things like "hey, so and so was born at 3lbs and she is fine!". They just don''t know any better (and hey, neither did we until recently) but to be honest, we''ve been mostly keeping to ourselves and being anti-social - not taking the endless calls from friends and relatives - because it can be hard to take sometimes. People try to cheer you up, but they just leave you feeling isolated, and like they don''t understand at all.

Yet another reason why knowing all of you are keeping us in your thoughts makes such a huge difference. Even if I''m feeling a little too down or anti-social to be around PS, knowing everyone is praying for our cubs, and being able to look in at that support when I feel up to it, makes a huge difference.

The lower twin''s amniotic sac is hanging down where it ought not to be, and there are other signs (stronger contractions, lost plugs) that things are moving along where they ought not to go.

One day at a time.
 
Indy, thanks so much for checking in dear. You can COUNT on that, so many of us here are praying as hard as we can for you and your cubs and you can bet many people who just read and don''t post are doing the same!
 
Indy I just saw this thread and wanted to add my support and prayers and anything else positive for your boys, you and your hubby.
 
I am happy to see that you posted again Indy. You and your husband and the boys are still in my thoughts and prayers. When you wrote that part about feeling isolated because people often don''t know the right thing to say, and therefore isolating yourselves, I really started to further appreciate what you are going through. I really do think of you often and hope the best outcome for your boys. {{{{hugs}}}}
 
Indy, I am so glad you checked in again. I''m sorry you are feeling isolated right now, it must be so hard for you but also, so hard for your friends and family to know what to say. One of my DHs cousins lost her child a year ago (complications of birth) and she said she loved how her father always knew that she didn''t want him to say anything at all, she just wanted him to give her a hug... so if you are feeling anything like her {{{{HUG}}} from your friend Dreamer.



Date: 10/25/2008 8:29:47 AM
Author: Independent Gal

The lower twin''s amniotic sac is hanging down where it ought not to be, and there are other signs (stronger contractions, lost plugs) that things are moving along where they ought not to go.
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I''m so sorry about this added news. I will send you extra energy and support over the next week and maybe it will reach you and help you through this difficult time.
 
Indy, thanks for checking in. We''re all hoping and praying that the cubs hang on. Either way, though, you and your DH are incredibly strong people, and we''re here to lean on if you ever need help putting one foot in front of the other.
 
Indy - I continue to wish you, DH, and the cubs strength and peace!

You are in my thoughts and prayers.
 
Thinking of y''all during this agonizing, uncertain time, Indy Gal. Having a hard time knowing what to say though! Everything seems wrong somehow. (But silence seemed worse.)
 
I''m glad that checking in with us is helpful, Indy. You and the cubs are in our thoughts and prayers.
 

Hi Indy,


I do know what you mean about the seriousness of the risks associated with micro preemies. And it is very scary. I chose to miss that initial meeting with the neonatologist before our twins were born (I couldn’t handle the statistics at that point), and my husband went by himself. He was also shell-shocked. Twenty-two to 26 weeks seems to be such a grey area, where no one can accurately predict outcomes; and not only is survival an issue, but also quality of life.


I think “one day at a time” is the best way to go. Also, be patient with yourself and try not to feel pressured to return messages. Mostly, people just want you to know that they are there if you need them. I know that isolated feeling. It’s really hard to relate to others who have not gone through what you are going through. It took me a long time to respond to all of my messages. And I don’t mean to say that I didn’t appreciate the support. My husband and I were overwhelmed and touched by the outpouring of support we got from our family, friends, and complete strangers. When I finally felt comfortable talking with people again, the support saved us in many ways. So just know it’s there, when you are ready.


I’ve not been where you are, but I hope you can find something from my story to relate to. You, your cubs, and your husband remain in my thoughts and prayers.
 
Indy, just wanted to send more good thoughts for the best possible outcome your way.
 
Stay strong, I''m sending a prayer up for you as I type.
 
Indy, my thoughts and prayers continue to be with you, DH and your cubs!
 
My thoughts remain with you and yours, Indy.
 
Still thinking of you every day Indy.
 
Hey Indy! I have been following everyone in the pregnant ps''ers thread... although I am not. I love babies and children and I am so interested in them.

I just wanted to tell you I hope you continue to have the strength you have been having throughout this tough time. It really seems like you are learning to cope with what comes your way, and with all of us behind you, it''s just added strength. I hope your cubs do okay!!!!
 
I think about you often, Indy, and truly admire your strength throughout this day-by-day journey. You continue to be in my prayers.
 
Oh, Indy... I haven''t been on PS for the last two months or so and didn''t see this before. I''m so sorry to hear this. My sister and I were born at 30 weeks, and I pray and pray every day that your little boys will hang on for even longer.
 
Still praying for the cubs and your family!
 
i wanted to pop in and add my support, prayers, happy dances, good vibes, positive energy, hugs, fist-bumps, whew-who''s, yipee-yi-yeah''s, lit candles, etc. you CAN do this. God can do this. we''re all with you in spirit, and i pray you feel our comfort and love surrounding you, the babies, hubby + your extended family.
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still thinking of you indy...
 
Indy, I just want you to know that even though I haven''t posted I have been sending you my most sincere thoughts and prayers every single day.
You are truly an inspiration to others and a remarkable woman.
 
Staying positive for you Indy.
 
Thinking of you Indy!!
 
prayers continue
 
Still thinking of you and your family. Buckets of dust (we know the stuff works) and continued prayers. You have an amazing strength in you, Indy. YOU CAN DO IT!
 
Thoughts, prayers, dust and good vibes going out to you, DH and your cubs!

One day at a time dear...
 
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