Posting photos of your engagement ring on Facebook... Tacky or just show-and-tell?

[Gleam]

Just curious what you think, as I have not posted my ring on Facebook, but many friends have.

 

[MagsyMay]

That''s what PS is for!

 

[Steel]

Sorry I have no clue.

I feel that facebook as a concept is very obvious so I can''t imagine it would be frowned on.

Why do you ask?

 

[Gleam]

Date: 10/22/2009 2:43:55 PM
Author: Steel

I feel that facebook as a concept is very obvious so I can't imagine it would be frowned on.


Why do you ask?

I personally haven't noticed Facebook as a place to post material items like a diamond ring...or for example, I would never post my new Chanel handbag on Facebook. I would post photos of my vacation, however. Know what I mean?

I ask because one of my closest friends said, "You're not going to post your engagement ring on Facebook are you? It's soooo tacky." Of course, this is also my friend who is the most jealous of her engaged friends. It never occurred to me to think of it has tacky or not tacky, either. Just curious what you gals think.

I did not end up posting my e-ring on Facebook because she said that, but I don't necessarily think it's "tacky" per se, if you do post your ring. I always enjoy seeing people's rings.

MY feeling is that if you have a bigger diamond, people will interpret it as "tacky" while if you have a smaller diamond, you're just "show-and-telling."

 

[cammy85]

I don''t know. I personally had an album called "Engagement Photos" from the day we got engaged. We went to brunch, had an outing afterwards and one of those pictures happened to be of my ring. I think if it has ''context'' I don''t find it as tacky as someone who makes it their profile picture, yanno?

 

[princesss]

Maybe it depends on your circle? My friends are spread out across the country/world so sometimes the only chance we have to see each other''s rings is via FB (or at least the only way to see it right away). I don''t think there''s anything wrong with having ONE picture, just not an album, KWIM?

 

[Gleam]

Date: 10/22/2009 2:49:59 PM
Author: cammy85
I don't know. I personally had an album called 'Engagement Photos' from the day we got engaged. We went to brunch, had an outing afterwards and one of those pictures happened to be of my ring. I think if it has 'context' I don't find it as tacky as someone who makes it their profile picture, yanno?

Yeah, a lot of my friends have the "engagement day" type album and I've always really enjoyed them. I personally love sharing people's experiences like that, so it would never occur to me to think of it as "tacky!" I agree with you about context.

My friends are also spread out. I ended up just emailing them a photo of my ring instead of posting on FB because my friend made that comment.

Literally all of my friends have posted their rings except one -- so for me the idea doesn't seem too weird.

 

[cammy85]

Date: 10/22/2009 2:52:53 PM
Author: Gleam

Yeah, a lot of my friends have the ''engagement day'' type album and I''ve always really enjoyed them. I personally love sharing people''s experiences like that, so it would never occur to me to think of it as ''tacky!'' I agree with you about context.

My friends are also spread out. I ended up just emailing them a photo of my ring instead of posting on FB because my friend made that comment.

Literally all of my friends have posted their rings except one -- so for me the idea doesn''t seem too weird.

It''s funny because in the whole album, there are two pictures with the most comments - the one of my now DH actually proposing and the close up of the ring. And let me tell you, not one person used the word ''tacky.'' I''m sorry your friend made you second-guess posting something that makes you so happy. Do what makes you happy and don''t listen to one person who says it''s tacky. Everything is tacky to someone.

 

[MagsyMay]

Date: 10/22/2009 2:52:53 PM
Author: Gleam

Date: 10/22/2009 2:49:59 PM

Author: cammy85

I don''t know. I personally had an album called ''Engagement Photos'' from the day we got engaged. We went to brunch, had an outing afterwards and one of those pictures happened to be of my ring. I think if it has ''context'' I don''t find it as tacky as someone who makes it their profile picture, yanno?

Yeah, a lot of my friends have the ''engagement day'' type album and I''ve always really enjoyed them. I personally love sharing people''s experiences like that, so it would never occur to me to think of it as ''tacky!'' I agree with you about context.


My friends are also spread out. I ended up just emailing them a photo of my ring instead of posting on FB because my friend made that comment.


Literally all of my friends have posted their rings except one -- so for me the idea doesn''t seem too weird.

I have quite a few acquaintances that have posted rings, and I do notice that only the ones with larger rings tend to do so. I have no problem with a engagement day photo album, and even those with the girl holding up her hand smiling, etc., but I guess that is different to me than the ultra close-up shot. Most of my close friends aren''t too concerned with rings but some did ask to see a picture so I sent a cell phone picture to those who asked. I did not post pictures on FB of my ring or engagement (we didn''t have any pictures of us from the evening).

I think what is more tacky than posting a ring pic on FB is when people make comments that if the girl doesn''t post a picture that the diamond must be small (not to the newly engaged couple of course, but in passing to mutual friends, etc.). I''ve heard this before and think it is incredibly gossipy and rude. I''d venture to guess that some people have said this about me, but no sense worrying about it.

 

[Gleam]

Date: 10/22/2009 3:01:47 PM
Author: MagsyMay



I think what is more tacky than posting a ring pic on FB is when people make comments that if the girl doesn''t post a picture that the diamond must be small (not to the newly engaged couple of course, but in passing to mutual friends, etc.). I''ve heard this before and think it is incredibly gossipy and rude. I''d venture to guess that some people have said this about me, but no sense worrying about it.

It really goes to show you that people will talk to matter what. I would also venture to guess that some people have said I haven''t posted mine because it must be small, too. Cammy is right, someone will always think something is tacky, and people who gossip will always find something nasty to say no matter what you do!

 

[cammy85]

MagsyMay, I can see what you''re saying - that people would post a close up just to brag about it, especially if it''s large. For me at least, mine was not the largest nor the smallest in my group of friends, I just thought it was pretty, and was so excited to share it with all my friends who aren''t nearby. I do think I''d spend a little more time thinking about doing so if I would do it over again, simply because I now see how many people think it''s inappropriate to post a shot like that but I was so overjoyed that I did it and am gonna leave it up

 

[MagsyMay]

Date: 10/22/2009 3:06:35 PM
Author: cammy85
MagsyMay, I can see what you''re saying - that people would post a close up just to brag about it, especially if it''s large. For me at least, mine was not the largest nor the smallest in my group of friends, I just thought it was pretty, and was so excited to share it with all my friends who aren''t nearby. I do think I''d spend a little more time thinking about doing so if I would do it over again, simply because I now see how many people think it''s inappropriate to post a shot like that but I was so overjoyed that I did it and am gonna leave it up

And you should leave it up! I hope I didn''t offend you! I think it largely depends on the personality of that person, and clearly you were just overjoyed and weren''t trying to brag or anything of the sort. I think maybe my opinions are biased because most of the girls that posted macro-up close pictures of their very large diamonds were somewhat snooty to begin with so I probably read into it more than I would had it been a close friend or really nice girl KWIM?

 

[MagsyMay]

Date: 10/22/2009 3:05:32 PM
Author: Gleam


It really goes to show you that people will talk to matter what. I would also venture to guess that some people have said I haven''t posted mine because it must be small, too. Cammy is right, someone will always think something is tacky, and people who gossip will always find something nasty to say no matter what you do!

BIG DITTO!

 

[Lauren8211]

Hmm..

Well a lot of my PS friends are my FB friends, and I know they didn''t mind seeing it twice!

I posted a picture of mine, because everyone always says "OHHH! I want to see the ring!" and a lot of those people won''t end up ever seeing me in person.

I don''t think it''s tacky. Maybe posting the price along side with it would be?

 

[cammy85]

MagsyMay - no offense taken at all! I think you hit the nail on the head. I think the actual person posting the picture (versus just the picture itself) also may also created a biased reaction. if the person is a showy braggart posting a huge photo of their rock, you already pretty much know they are trying to show it off. With the exception of a few of my friends, no one is like this that i know. When I see a picture of their ring, I am genuinely happy for that person, and how excited they must be to have such a wonderful new piece of bling!

Granted... PS has gotten my overload of closeups that Facebook hasn''t

 

[FrekeChild]

Date: 10/22/2009 2:50:09 PM
Author: princesss
Maybe it depends on your circle? My friends are spread out across the country/world so sometimes the only chance we have to see each other''s rings is via FB (or at least the only way to see it right away). I don''t think there''s anything wrong with having ONE picture, just not an album, KWIM?

I posted a whole album. I don''t think it''s bragging, but I mostly posted it because I don''t see my friends a lot, and many of them live across the country, so it was the easiest way to show them. So ditto Princesss

 

[LabRatPhD]

Date: 10/22/2009 3:01:47 PM
Author: MagsyMay
I think what is more tacky than posting a ring pic on FB is when people make comments that if the girl doesn''t post a picture that the diamond must be small (not to the newly engaged couple of course, but in passing to mutual friends, etc.). I''ve heard this before and think it is incredibly gossipy and rude. I''d venture to guess that some people have said this about me, but no sense worrying about it.

Wow! People actually make such comments?! That IS tacky!

I do not think posting pics of your e-ring on Facebook is tacky. I, too, have acquaintances that are my "Facebook friends" who posted pics of their engagements and rings. I love seeing them even if I am not close to the people! I do have some "friends" (actually female co-workers) who are incredibly catty and would use any opportunity they could to say something rude about me or my fiance. One of these "friends" posted pics on Facebook of a lab happy hour we had downtown. There was a candid side shot of my fiance, me, and my Chanel reissue. She tagged the photos as E (my fiance), LabRat, and "LabRat''s 3K purse"!

When I told her that I would like her to remove the purse tag, she said, "Oh I was just trying to be funny! Who spends so much on a purse?!" Needless to say, I am not sure I will be posting any pics on Facebook and any of my close friends who wanted to see pics have already been sent pics via email.

 

[cleokizzy]

it depends... i have friends overseas so they''d appreciate seeing my ring in FB. if it were 1-3 photos, i think it''s fine. but a whole album about it would definitely be in the tacky category.

 

[Lauren8211]

Date: 10/22/2009 4:05:26 PM
Author: cleokizzy
it depends... i have friends overseas so they''d appreciate seeing my ring in FB. if it were 1-3 photos, i think it''s fine. but a whole album about it would definitely be in the tacky category.

Really? I don''t find that tacky at all. I find that people really enjoy looking at other people''s engagement rings. It''s not just "another piece of jewelry" IMO.

Whenever my friends post their e-rings on FB, I ALWAYS ask for more pics!

Stating how huge/expensive your ring is would be tacky, but pictures? I just don''t see it.

 

[princesss]

Date: 10/22/2009 3:40:53 PM
Author: FrekeChild

Date: 10/22/2009 2:50:09 PM
Author: princesss
Maybe it depends on your circle? My friends are spread out across the country/world so sometimes the only chance we have to see each other''s rings is via FB (or at least the only way to see it right away). I don''t think there''s anything wrong with having ONE picture, just not an album, KWIM?

I posted a whole album. I don''t think it''s bragging, but I mostly posted it because I don''t see my friends a lot, and many of them live across the country, so it was the easiest way to show them. So ditto Princesss

I do know one girl who made an album and then put a whopping 2 pictures in it. I was really wanting more, but I''m a bling addict...I obviously like albums dedicated to jewelry, but I know most people get bored.

 

[musey]

Date: 10/22/2009 2:50:09 PM
Author: princesss
My friends are spread out across the country/world so sometimes the only chance we have to see each other''s rings is via FB (or at least the only way to see it right away).

Yep, this.

I don''t remember for sure, but I think I used to have a picture or two of my ring up. I took them down after a month or so, because I figured anyone who wanted to see it would have by then. I had our wedding rings as my profile pic for a couple of days right after we got them, and that''s still up.

I''m a lot more interested to see my friends'' engagement/wedding rings than to see those posted by strangers on PS. I want to see what they picked, because engagement rings are such a personal thing. I''m always so glad to see a clear picture of friends'' rings!

 

[sunnyd]

Date: 10/22/2009 4:10:27 PM
Author: elledizzy5

Date: 10/22/2009 4:05:26 PM
Author: cleokizzy
it depends... i have friends overseas so they''d appreciate seeing my ring in FB. if it were 1-3 photos, i think it''s fine. but a whole album about it would definitely be in the tacky category.

Really? I don''t find that tacky at all. I find that people really enjoy looking at other people''s engagement rings. It''s not just ''another piece of jewelry'' IMO.

Whenever my friends post their e-rings on FB, I ALWAYS ask for more pics!

Stating how huge/expensive your ring is would be tacky, but pictures? I just don''t see it.

Ditto. I also wouldn''t post any stats on FB, because only PSers would understand and not think I''m a weirdo.

 

[FrekeChild]

Date: 10/22/2009 4:17:54 PM
Author: princesss

Date: 10/22/2009 3:40:53 PM
Author: FrekeChild

Date: 10/22/2009 2:50:09 PM
Author: princesss
Maybe it depends on your circle? My friends are spread out across the country/world so sometimes the only chance we have to see each other's rings is via FB (or at least the only way to see it right away). I don't think there's anything wrong with having ONE picture, just not an album, KWIM?

I posted a whole album. I don't think it's bragging, but I mostly posted it because I don't see my friends a lot, and many of them live across the country, so it was the easiest way to show them. So ditto Princesss

I do know one girl who made an album and then put a whopping 2 pictures in it. I was really wanting more, but I'm a bling addict...I obviously like albums dedicated to jewelry, but I know most people get bored.

BTW, anyone who knows me well (on PS) knows I have more than 5 erings, and I want to make clear that I have two rings posted to FB--my original ering and Big Blue because it's a gift from my dad.

HOWEVER, as some of you know, I do have an album of some of my shoes. And that is there, not to brag but so if my computer crashes and I lose all of the pictures on it, I have them elsewhere.

 

[lulu66]

i voted "not tacky" but...
i think i have a double standard on posting engagement ring pics to fb. i have never looked at someone else''s e-ring pic on fb and thought "well, that''s just tacky!" & have actually encouraged others to go ahead and put pics up! but, personally, i didn''t feel comfortable posting a pic of my ring. i was super excited when i got engaged but wanted to make sure all the important people heard from me personally, so i tried to keep it a little hush-hush on the internet world. i emailed some pics i took for ps to my sisters but that''s about it; i felt like posting them on fb could be perceived as "braggy" & no one requested pics of the ring on fb, so...

 

[trillionaire]

I didn''t post a picture of my ring on FB for this very reason. First, it would have made FI uncomfortable, and second, I can definitely see how it could come off as tacky. I posted engagement photos, like FI proposing, and us celebrating afterwards, but no ring photos. Only 2 or 3 people asked to see pictures of the ring, and I happily obliged via email, but my ring is a personal gift and I didn''t feel comfortable with the idea of adding it to my engagement album.

honestly, none of my lady friends have ever posted pictures of their rings, but often times, their FI''s will post albums that include a picture of the ring, or a hand shot. I think it''s cute when guys do it, because they seem excited and proud, not braggy. I LOVE looking at beautiful bling, but I prefer to post and look at it on PS where it is the proper context with no worries about photo etiquette. That being said, I don''t recall ever looking at someone''s ring and thinking it was tacky that they posted it, but I couldn''t shake the feeling myself that it would probably be tacky to post mine. *shrugs*

 

[Amanda.Rx]

IMO- everyone asks to see your ring in person, so what''s wrong with posting A picture? I wouldn''t devote an entire album to it, but one or two photos is fine.

If people don''t want to see pictures of your engagement or ring, then they don''t have to look. I would think those that care about you would be excited.

 

[tlh]

I like it... everyone wants to see the ring anyway... (look at how popular SMTR is!) so why not show it! I''d make those photos private though, so only my friends - could see it - if you can do that...

 

[Clairitek]

Well, up until a few minutes ago, I had 6-7 different photos of my ring up on facebook along with the pictures my father took right after he proposed. Just reading this thread made me second guess my actions! I personally don''t think it is tacky and I definitely watch out for friend''s engagement albums with ring pics but since some of you perceive it to be tacky I figure there is at least one of my friends on FB who thinks that it is tacky as well. Now all that is left in our engagement album are two good macro shots and one hand shot along with the pics of us.

 

[that_someone_special]

OK, see, I don''t think it''s tacky. I only have really close friends on my facebook, and it''s private. Now, if I had employers, and co-workers on there, I don''t think it would be a good idea and might seem flashy.... and might give off the wrong impression of who you are. *shrug*

 

[Kelli]

LOL I posted two pics of mine on myspace. I didn''t think about whether or not it was tacky. Maybe it was, but oh well. I don''t have them posted on facebook though, and I hardly ever use my myspace.