AudreyGirl
Rough_Rock
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- Oct 31, 2007
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Hello everyone. I have a situation I was hopeing you all could help me with. My bf and I have been dating for almost 4 years now and 2 years ago he told my grandmother we would be married and pregnant within the following year...that did not happen. He is such a great guy (I could not find one better!) and I am so much in love with him, but he is always saying "it''s going to happen" over and over but I have been waiting two years. We just bought a house together and I was finally "over" wanting to be married to him untill my grandfather called me and asked if he had proposed yet. I said "no" and he said that my bf had asked for his blessing a week prior. I wish he had not called me...
My bf has never purchased jewelry for me that was my style. I cant stand yellow gold and that is all he has bought me- even after telling him I dont like yellow gold. The last peice he purchased I (very polietly and without hurting his feelings) asked if I could return it for the same thing in white gold or silver. He had no problem with that.
Now, after the phone call, I have seen a picture of the ring he has for me (No- I was not snooping, I was looking for pics on the computer and came across it). I asked my best friend about it and after much pleading she confirmed it was the one. I am really torn about what to do. It is his grandmother''s or great-grandmother''s ring and it looks like a right hand ring. It is gaudy and just completly not "me." There are three very small stones in the center (a diamond flanked by two sapphires) and two "swirls" kindof trying to encircle the three stones. It is white gold, though. Sorry- the pic has been moved or I would post it.
I dont want to hurt his feelings because it is a family ring, but I dont like it, nor do I like the idea of wearing someone else''s ring (this totally creeps me out). I feel like I should just be happy he is even taking this next step- but I cant help feeling how I feel about having to wear this ring the rest of my life. I am not the confrontational type and I dont want to tell him I have seen it.
Please help me figure out what I should do!!
My bf has never purchased jewelry for me that was my style. I cant stand yellow gold and that is all he has bought me- even after telling him I dont like yellow gold. The last peice he purchased I (very polietly and without hurting his feelings) asked if I could return it for the same thing in white gold or silver. He had no problem with that.
Now, after the phone call, I have seen a picture of the ring he has for me (No- I was not snooping, I was looking for pics on the computer and came across it). I asked my best friend about it and after much pleading she confirmed it was the one. I am really torn about what to do. It is his grandmother''s or great-grandmother''s ring and it looks like a right hand ring. It is gaudy and just completly not "me." There are three very small stones in the center (a diamond flanked by two sapphires) and two "swirls" kindof trying to encircle the three stones. It is white gold, though. Sorry- the pic has been moved or I would post it.
I dont want to hurt his feelings because it is a family ring, but I dont like it, nor do I like the idea of wearing someone else''s ring (this totally creeps me out). I feel like I should just be happy he is even taking this next step- but I cant help feeling how I feel about having to wear this ring the rest of my life. I am not the confrontational type and I dont want to tell him I have seen it.
Please help me figure out what I should do!!