1st post here, looking for some guidance, advice, help, and polishing of ideas.
SO here's my situation:
- My g/f moved into my my house in August and is renting out her own condo. One of the conditions of moving in was that I had a 1-year count down. If we are not engaged after 1 year of living together, time to move on to greener pastures...totally understandable.
- So I went home w/ my girl to her family for Thanksgiving. Her parents are divorced, so spent some days with mom, some days with dad.
- Before heading home after the weekend, her mother ended up giving us her old, unused wedding ring and engagement ring. It is a family heirloom from some grandma on her (divorced) dad's side..WHOA, big pressure now. (PS, we aren't superstitious, so no need to worry about a 'used' ring)
- The ring is an older style, too small. It needs to be resized and we both would want to put it in a different setting.
- Both of our parents and family (including grandmas) are coming out to Phoenix for the Xmas season.
- My girl and I have talked about this a lot and we are totally both on the same page as far as marriage and building a future together.
OK, phew, a lot of backstory. So here's where I'm torn. I'd like to propose after getting the ring reset and sized, at some point in the future. We both know about the ring and we both know about what kind of ring she wants. However, I've got the ring now, we are both on the same page, and all our families are coming together for the holiday. I am thinking it would be quite odd to say that we have a ring and are getting it customized but I have not officially proposed yet. Also, I am thinking that since our families will both be here, we should just stop dragging our feet and announce to everyone our future plans.
So what do yall think? Wait until after the holidays and after I can get the ring reset and customized? Or do it now(ish), use a ring that doesn't fit, but the symbolism and intention is there? Is it cheesy to do it around family time? What about greeting both our families w/ this announcement vs waiting until later in time when I can plan a really cool proposal?
I'll follow up w/ a later post on ideas I've got for here in Phoenix.
SO here's my situation:
- My g/f moved into my my house in August and is renting out her own condo. One of the conditions of moving in was that I had a 1-year count down. If we are not engaged after 1 year of living together, time to move on to greener pastures...totally understandable.
- So I went home w/ my girl to her family for Thanksgiving. Her parents are divorced, so spent some days with mom, some days with dad.
- Before heading home after the weekend, her mother ended up giving us her old, unused wedding ring and engagement ring. It is a family heirloom from some grandma on her (divorced) dad's side..WHOA, big pressure now. (PS, we aren't superstitious, so no need to worry about a 'used' ring)
- The ring is an older style, too small. It needs to be resized and we both would want to put it in a different setting.
- Both of our parents and family (including grandmas) are coming out to Phoenix for the Xmas season.
- My girl and I have talked about this a lot and we are totally both on the same page as far as marriage and building a future together.
OK, phew, a lot of backstory. So here's where I'm torn. I'd like to propose after getting the ring reset and sized, at some point in the future. We both know about the ring and we both know about what kind of ring she wants. However, I've got the ring now, we are both on the same page, and all our families are coming together for the holiday. I am thinking it would be quite odd to say that we have a ring and are getting it customized but I have not officially proposed yet. Also, I am thinking that since our families will both be here, we should just stop dragging our feet and announce to everyone our future plans.
So what do yall think? Wait until after the holidays and after I can get the ring reset and customized? Or do it now(ish), use a ring that doesn't fit, but the symbolism and intention is there? Is it cheesy to do it around family time? What about greeting both our families w/ this announcement vs waiting until later in time when I can plan a really cool proposal?
I'll follow up w/ a later post on ideas I've got for here in Phoenix.