I can understand why this design got so loved,
& still would tamper with the white box!
Make your husband watch "The Money Pit" (Tom Hanks, Shelley Long, 1986) with you. You'll both get a good laugh and perhaps it will grease the wheels to have a lighter-hearted conversation about all of this. It's available on Amazon Prime video.
Mrs. Jam - I just wanted to say your dogs and the cat are so cute. Their expressions are perfect -- like enough of this remodel. Keep the faith. Sorry.
I think the garage break in is an excellent open up for your conversation with your husband. Yes, there was a death in the family, but life can't just stop for that. He said that your home will be a priority, it's obviously not, and now because of his inaction, a theft occurred.
If it were me, I would give him two options.
1) Get back here and finish your fireplace or
2) I am changing the design of the fireplace to complete the reno without you so he can focus his energy elsewhere.
It is not fair to you or your animals that he and his mother have decided to F off and do some random project and leave you in the dust (literally probably!).
I strongly disagree with this sentiment - one cannot control a third parties' actions, and the OP and her husband have not laid their belongings out on the front lawn with a big sign saying 'Take me!!'.
People should not be committing crime - to lay blame and responsibility for criminal activity at the victims' door is not the correct course of action.
To do so implies that burglary is acceptable because you shouldn't have nice stuff that might be seen through a window or seen by a visitor to the door / a tradesperson, or because you didn't fit big enough locks / a burglar alarm / board up your windows when you are away.
And to extend the logic... it implies that rape is acceptable if the victim was 'looking pretty' on a night out or had enjoyed a glass or two of wine.
Your slippery slope argument is invalid. There is absolutely no similarity to a cement mixer being stolen and a rape. One is a thing. One is a person. YOU are the person that is making that analogy, and it is completely and irrevocably incorrect, and I'd caution you to never compare a human being to an inanimate object again.
The OP even stated she was worried about this being a possibility with the extended delay. I'm glad that the OP and her husband worked it out
That looks bigger than my old apartment! (and probably a lot of inner city apartments!) lol
There is the school of thought that says 'everything happens for a reason' If the cost of moving forward with minimal hassle is the price of a cement mixer, that's probably a pretty good deal!I feel terrible writing this, but the garage break-in has turned out to be a positive thing, in my eyes. Well, other than having to buy a new cement mixer to get the freaking fireplace done! It’s cheaper than having to rent one every time he works on the fireplace. It was a real eye-opener for my husband, and it prompted him to start the conversation on his own, which helped a lot of my anger and resentment to fade away. Hopefully, this feeling can last (at least) another 2 months
Thank you so much for taking the time to write this. This is all wonde%ful advice. Thankfully, we do have an area of the yard that we fenced in to make a dog run where the dogs can go potty while the workers are here. I could not have survived this otherwise. For a few days while they were putting on the new roof, I had to leash everyone up to take them to the park across the street every time they needed to go potty, and I thought I would lose my mind!
I burn candles to add come coziness to our living quarters upstairs, and that really helps. We don’t have enough room for a full-size Christmas tree since we’re also surrounded by storage boxes, but I’ve got little Christmas vignettes set up on the TV console. Our upstairs has a lot of windows, and that helps a lot. It would be claustrophobic otherwise.
Cooking is not an issue as I have no kitchen!! We’ve got a fridge, washer, dryer, and microwave set up in an area downstairs that is separated from the rest of the house. I’m actually dreaming of the day I can make homemade meals in the new kitchen.
Another thing that helps is I have an amazing bathtub upstairs. The other night I took a long soak with a bag of Doritos, and I felt relatively human again
When people lose family members, a strong need arises for the rest of the family to be near to one another. Your MIL probably needs her son right now. Her husband just died. Your husband’s father just died. Is there any way you can give them some time to breathe and to reflect on what’s happened?
I realize your husband is doing a plumbing project for MIL but the fact that she can afford to hire someone and is choosing to have her son do it instead tells me she wants him around.
Oh, they are so DONE. I think a large part of what is really wearing on my soul is that the simple acts of potty and play breaks are such a tedious process due to the stairs. The Great Dane is very slow and cautious going down the stairs, and I make sure I walk in front of him in case he stumbles. Waiting on him is like waiting on a slow bus. The German Pointer still thinks he’s in his prime and would try to fly down the stairs if I let him. I have to hold his harness while we go down the stairs to keep him in check. One small dog can go up and down the stairs by herself with no problems, but I have to carry the other one down. Going back up is another process. I have to do a push/lift combo to get the Dane started, all the while hanging on to the pointer’s harness to keep him from bum rushing the Dane. If I send the pointer up first, he’ll try to fly back down while I’m giving the Dane a boost. The two little dogs can both thankfully navigate going up the stairs independently. It’s my own special circle of hell that I get to experience about a dozen times a day.