paging Square Cut ER''s??

[meresal]

and anyone with an ornate setting...

I get the same reaction, from other girls with Round Cut ER's. Silence and then a congenial, "It's pretty". My ring is very original, and very my taste. I don't expect everyone to like, and I honestly don't really care.

This post is strictly a sociological experiment, if you will.

Do you get odd reactions? If you do, why do you think it is? Maybe some people, not PS'ers of course, don't understand why some of us just don't like round cut diamonds, and getting the biggest diamond you can for your money?

 

[neatfreak]

If I had to hedge a bet it's probably more to do with the ornate setting than the cut of the stone, most people these days have seen square cut diamonds.

ETA: Just went back to look at your ring and I don't think it's anything really out there as far as the setting or the stone goes...maybe these girls are just jealous?

 

[emeraldlover1]

I''m not sure why you are getting these reactions. I have two close friends with radiants and one actually got one cause she liked the others. Not all tastes are the same and you know that...who knows what these girls are thinking. They could be just jealous.

 

[Clairitek]

I can relate to being sensitive to luke warm reactions to an e-ring. I sent a bunch of pictures (per a request) to one of my closest friends. She is a die-hard princess cut fan and has stated her dislike for RBs and cushions to me prior to me getting engaged. She didn''t say ONE thing about my ring, not even a "thats pretty." I just decided to ignore it and in the end I really don''t care if she or anyone else besides me or FI love it.

Your ring is gorgeous Meresal and whats most important is that YOU and your FI love it. It is unique and I think thats awesome! Try not to let the responses you''re getting bother you.

 

[Lanie]

Hi Meresal!

I would suspect it''s jealousy. Your ring is beautiful, and unique, yes, but not outrageous unique. One friend said my ring looked "dainty". My first thought was that she meant that it was small, but she explained more and it made sense. She likes big rings, I however don''t. So I''m glad she made the explanation.

I hate catty girls. To be honest though, I''m on the other side of the coin which is not necessarily good. If I see a ring that I don''t like, I still say it''s nice. I''ll say SOMETHING. Or i''ll ask if they designed it themselves. But I would sound a lot more excited about it, especially if it''s my friend. Everyone has their preference...they went with theirs, I went with mine.

Your ring is beautiful. I know you aren''t deep down worrying about it, but I know what you mean.

 

[Lanie]

Oh, and I get different reactions from girls who are married/engaged as opposed to girls who are single. Girls who are single are very excited about it and will say it''s pretty. Girls who are married aren''t mean, aren''t gushing, just average. That''s my own personal experience at least.

 

[violet3]

Date: 12/13/2008 11:57:23 AM
Author:meresal
and anyone with an ornate setting...

I get the same reaction, from other girls with Round Cut ER''s. Silence and then a congenial, ''It''s pretty''. My ring is very original, and very my taste. I don''t expect everyone to like, and I honestly don''t really care.

This post is strictly a sociological experiment, if you will.

Do you get odd reactions? If you do, why do you think it is? Maybe some people, not PS''ers of course, don''t understand why some of us just don''t like round cut diamonds, and getting the biggest diamond you can for your money?

This is strange to me. I just looked back at your show me the ring thread, and your ring is gorgeous - and while it''s not a solitaire, it''s certainly not over the top ornate either. It''s tasteful and lovely.

I personally have a love for (nearly) all diamonds - square, round, three stone, solitaire, halo - whatever! i have helped pick out three engagement rings that weren''t mine and each time, my choices were completely different based on the woman - one was an emerald cut with baguettes, one was a RB, and one actually was a marquis heirloom stone that we paired with sapphire sidestones. They completely fit each woman''s personality.

Having said that, women can be catty -- and there will probably always be women who think that an Ering should be a RB solitaire (or a RB something). While that could be one explanation, you do have a delightfully sized center diamond (1.6 or so, yes?) that wouldn''t be an option for somewhen picking out an e-ring Like many others said, it could be jealousy, in which case i wouldn''t give it another thought!

Your ring is absolutely beautiful!

 

[kittybean]

Meresal, I can''t think why your ring might be getting anything less than a warm reception! It is so pretty, and the radiant looks perfect in your setting.

I have a rectangular stone, and I haven''t noticed any negativity or ambivalence about it. In fact, most people have given me very positive feedback, and many inquire specifically about the shape. I think a lot of people just haven''t seen a well-cut, sparkly EC before; I''m sure that holds true for radiants as well. I''ve even gotten a couple comments from married girls who said they wished they knew stones like mine existed when they got their e-rings.

My point: don''t worry. Their icky attitudes are totally unwarranted, and they may very well be rooted in jealousy. Enjoy your beautiful ring!

 

[meresal]

You all have appeased my thoughts, thanks!! Every girl I know, has a RB diamond (with exception of one friend that has a Princess). Only one of my friends was over the top about how sparkly it was. I guess I just don''t see my ring as being that big, and don''t expect anyone to be jealous. Maybe they just don''t like it and that''s fine or maybe some is from jealousy, but they have very gorgeous rings of their own.

Thanks for all your help. I just wanted to hear if anyone else was getting the same feedback.

Like you all said, the only thing that matters is that FI and I are proud of it, and love it. And we do!!

 

[mimzy]

i go to school with thirty girls, 9 of which who have gotten engaged since the beginning of our program, so i''ve heard a LOT of reactions to rings 7 out of 9 have gotten engaged with a round or princess solitaire, the other with a RB in a very pretty pave setting, and then i have an EC in a halo (just to demonstrate the difference of taste

). two of the girls with RB solitaire rings hesitated and then said "that''s cute" and another two said it was "interesting". i didn''t take it personally, i just sort of giggled to myself because it seemed like they were just a bit taken aback by it and were caught off guard. it likely just wasn''t there taste they didn''t know what to say when they realized their automatic OMG ITS SO PRETTY response wasn''t kicking in

but YES the only thing that matters is that you and your FI love it, and the other girls have nothing to do with that

 

[doodle]

this may be a bit of a stretch, but i think of engagement rings kind of like how i think of ugg boots--some people love them and think they''re fabulous while others think they look like someone skinned a yeti and attached it to a shoe. everyone''s tastes are different, and any time you show your ring to someone whose taste differs from yours, they''re likely not to gush over it because it''s just not their thing, and sometimes they even remain completely silent for fear of "well, it''s not really my taste but i''m glad you like it" offending you. maybe it has something to do with the way women build up THE RING in their minds (same with THE DRESS)...anything that''s different from that picture you have in your head of what the perfect ring or the perfect dress looks like is just difficult to process.

 

[meresal]

Date: 12/13/2008 10:16:49 PM
Author: mimzy
i go to school with thirty girls, 9 of which who have gotten engaged since the beginning of our program, so i''ve heard a LOT of reactions to rings 7 out of 9 have gotten engaged with a round or princess solitaire, the other with a RB in a very pretty pave setting, and then i have an EC in a halo (just to demonstrate the difference of taste

). two of the girls with RB solitaire rings hesitated and then said ''that''s cute'' and another two said it was ''interesting''. i didn''t take it personally, i just sort of giggled to myself because it seemed like they were just a bit taken aback by it and were caught off guard. it likely just wasn''t there taste they didn''t know what to say when they realized their automatic OMG ITS SO PRETTY response wasn''t kicking in

but YES the only thing that matters is that you and your FI love it, and the other girls have nothing to do with that

Mimzy, this is exactly what I''m talking about. Maybe it''s a certain age group? You don''t realize that no matter the ring you should still be excited, because you know that it is the nice thing to do for your friends. I think if the girls I''m referring to, were classmates, I honestly would laugh it off and walk away. However, some of these girls have been my friends for years. I laughed it off at the beginning, but then when I kept getting the same reaction (from RB solitaires and /rb with pave setting), it just wasn''t as easy after a while.

Whoever posted earlier about getting deffering reactions from married/engaged girls as opposed to single girls.... it IS like night and day!!! LOL!!!

 

[meresal]

Date: 12/14/2008 2:32:23 AM
Author: doodle
this may be a bit of a stretch, but i think of engagement rings kind of like how i think of ugg boots--some people love them and think they're fabulous while others think they look like someone skinned a yeti and attached it to a shoe. everyone's tastes are different, and any time you show your ring to someone whose taste differs from yours, they're likely not to gush over it because it's just not their thing, and sometimes they even remain completely silent for fear of 'well, it's not really my taste but i'm glad you like it' offending you. maybe it has something to do with the way women build up THE RING in their minds (same with THE DRESS)...anything that's different from that picture you have in your head of what the perfect ring or the perfect dress looks like is just difficult to process.

doodle- I totally agree, that it is personal taste, and mine isn't their taste, obviously. But, I make a point to gush over anyones ring because I know it's what they want. Though their ring isn't MY taste, I know it is still beautiful to them, and I should react as if I think just the same. I guess I just don't think it should be something you have to process. Like a new car... it's not yours, so just be excited for the person who got it. Ya know?
(I forget who posted about taking hundreds of pictures for all of her friend's weddings, and then when her wedding rolled around, she couldn't get any pictures from those same girls. It kind of feels like that.)

Also, I have to say, since I referenced age in the previous post. I work with many women older than me (40-60's) that loved my ring. 4 out of 5 had RB diamonds. Only one person at work gave me the odd "silence", and she was in her 20's.

I personally know of guys that strictly got a RB ER because you can get the most for your money. Hence, in my crowd, non RB rings are VERY rare, since I'm bordering on the younger end of mid 20's. I just wonder why I get so much push back from this age group?

FYI- These are all girls that are NOT BM's, but are definitely being invited to the wedding. I know for a fact that one of my BM's doesn't like anything but RB's for her (that's what she has), but she gushed over my ring. I appreciated that she could put my emotions before something that she personally doesn't like, and was geniune about it.

I really hope this doesn't sound vain. It's not what I'm trying to portray.

 

[Dreamgirl]

Date: 12/13/2008 4:00:57 PM
Author: kittybean
and they may very well be rooted in jealousy.

That is what I was going to say!

 

[katamari]

I do not have social or occupational circles that appreciate jewelry, so I don''t get any reaction. Most reaction I have gotten is from strangers, and the most common reaction among them to my asscher is "Is that a princess? That is not a princess".

I''m okay with it, though, because I have PS. If the people here love your ring (and we do!), it says way more than if some person you know likes it because PSers know and appreciate jewelry. And, we recognize great rings when we see them.

 

[musey]

Date: 12/13/2008 11:57:23 AM
Author:meresal
Do you get odd reactions? If you do, why do you think it is? Maybe some people, not PS''ers of course, don''t understand why some of us just don''t like round cut diamonds, and getting the biggest diamond you can for your money?

Well... hmm. The only thing that''s been "odd" about reactions to my ring is that I''ve gotten both "Oh, your stone is so.... cute." (ie very small) and "Holy crap, that is a ROCK!" So I think it''s odd/funny that the exact same stone can elicit both reactions--just goes to show how different people have different tastes/expectations/etc. surrounding jewelry.

Most people that comment at all only react to the ring as a whole or the setting specifically, not the center stone as a specific entity (those comments are very few and far between). So I''d bet if people are giving reaction to your ring, it''s more about the entire ring or the setting as opposed to the shape of the center stone.

Moral of the story being, it''s your stone and your ring, so your opinion of it is what matters.

 

[cbs102]

Mer-
I thought that i was the only one that this happened to!!! i have my grandmothers .83 round brilliant as my center stone but in a ornate-different setting. i love my setting and i love my heirloom diamond but the most feedback that i hear is that it is cute or sweet...i always thought that it was because my center was less than 1 ct.

i do agree that most unmarried or unengaged women go crazy over my setting..while the married ones all have a snide thing to say.

 

[D2B]

Ok, I just scrolled back through lots of old posts to find your ring, and I am more of a less is best kind of girl, and I love love your ring. stunning Of course people have different tastes, but overall I would say people are jelouse, it is a fantastic ring.

d2b

 

[fieryred33143]

Before PS everything for me was either round, square, or weird.

And the only setting I knew of was solitaire.

When we were searching for a diamond I was looking into radiant and asschers. My coworkers all looked at me like I was from another planet. I don''t think the comments made are necessarily out of jealousy. I think its lack of "education" and realizing that not all diamonds are round and come from Zales.

 

[cbs102]

Date: 12/15/2008 2:38:15 PM
Author: fieryred33143
Before PS everything for me was either round, square, or weird.

And the only setting I knew of was solitaire.

When we were searching for a diamond I was looking into radiant and asschers. My coworkers all looked at me like I was from another planet. I don''t think the comments made are necessarily out of jealousy. I think its lack of ''education'' and realizing that not all diamonds are round and come from Zales.

thank god!

 

[supergirl10]

Hi Mer

Im sorry that you are having such a negative reaction about your ring, that is really sad to hear. I remember you from LIW and we got engaged around the same time, but I''m having trouble remembering your ring!

When I got engaged my three closest friends reactions really disapointed me, my bff was kind of like oh well thats nice, its bigger than my mums, one was semi excited and the other just wanted to know how many carrots. Very disapointment in fact the girl at the sports store the other day was the most excited out of everyone, which is really reallly sad.

Maybe it is the same for you, I think my three friends were expecting me to get engaged and kind of just knew that it was going to happen soon.

Probably the worst is that I''ve even had people ask me if my ring is silver ... wtf?

Oh and for people like me who have tried and clearly cannot use the search engine can you please post a pic of your ring again lol?

TIA

 

[meresal]

Thanks musey, I''m getting really good and reminding myself of that!!

Cbs: I''m sorry you''re getting the same luke warm responses. I love you ring. As much as you tell yourself not to care, it''s hard to ignore when it''s coming from certain people.

Fiery: Thanks for the input. I would never jump to the conclusion that they are jealous. I''m more hurt by the inability to see past thier own opinions and to my excitement. Zales and Jared, I would assume...

supergirl: I''m sorry to hear about the reactions you received. I''m sure, liek me, it''s somthing you never would have though was going to happen. I guess I just figured even if everyone doesn''t love it, they''ll see how much I love it. One thing that I loved, was that my entire family loves it. We all go to get our rings cleaned together at holiday get togethers!! FI calls it my "fix".

Here''s a photo:

 

[kittybean]

Date: 12/15/2008 1:42:56 PM
Author: cbs102

i do agree that most unmarried or unengaged women go crazy over my setting..while the married ones all have a snide thing to say.

I actually found the opposite. No one has been particularly snide, but I''ve found that married women have often gushed more about my ring than my single friends. I was honestly a little surprise that some of the unmarried friends weren''t as excited, but I think it was because diamonds really weren''t on their radar. As Fiery so aptly put, before PS, diamonds were "round, square, or weird," so I figured mine just fell into the latter category for them, which was fine with me ''cause I loved it so much.