Opinion on selling 1st ERing to parents

[Kawfee]

I'm not sure if this is the right forum to post this, so please bear with a new PS user.

I just want opinions regarding the following question:

Is it or would it be weird if your parents wanted to buy my 1st Ering from a broken engagement? (My mom was looking for a 40th anniversary gift)

If I sold the Ering to any buyer, I would still take a loss in the value of the ring. However, wouldn't it be odd that my mom would wear it or isn't there like a bag stigma wearing another persons Ering?

Thanks,

Kawfee

 

[TC1987]

If she doesn't think it odd, then who cares. Nobody needs to know the complete history of it. There are lots of people who buy estate rings or antique rings or secondhand rings and love them. I usually don't care much about the history except to avoid stolen merchandise, lol. I don't think objects absorb bad karma or unluckiness or anything. I'm not superstitious, and I am pragmatic.

eta: Parents sometimes want to overpay, though, to "help out" or something. I sold something to my parents once, and had to fight with them to NOT overpay me more than the market rate. I won, though.

 

[ecf8503]

If she doesn't think it odd, then who cares. Nobody needs to know the complete history of it. There are lots of people who buy estate rings or antique rings or secondhand rings and love them. I usually don't care much about the history except to avoid stolen merchandise, lol. I don't think objects absorb bad karma or unluckiness or anything. I'm not superstitious, and I am pragmatic.

eta: Parents sometimes want to overpay, though, to "help out" or something. I sold something to my parents once, and had to fight with them to NOT overpay me more than the market rate. I won, though.

2nd - I don't think it's weird at all. If she likes it and she's ok wearing it then I wouldn't attach any more "juju" to it.

 

[Kawfee]

Thank you for your opinion. And both of you are right that many people do buy estate jewelry or at auctions.

 

[Polished]

Some people like the idea of giving a ring a happy second chance.

 

[orbaya]

I agree with others....as long as your parents know the history of the ring and they are okay with it, then why not?

With that said, how would YOU feel looking at that stone on your mothers hand? Would you be okay with seeing it on her? Would it always remind you of your broken engagement? Would you tell your future wife the history of the diamond that your mother wears? I ask this because the history of the ring could potentially be brought up at some point, whether accidental or not. I don't want to sound negative, but I see these being important questions for YOUR future...

 

[AprilBaby]

If mom loves it why waste a beautiful diamond? Get it blessed,reset it, anything to get rid of "bad karma". (Which I don't believe in).

 

[KaeKae]

Years and years ago, my grandmother bought the diamond ring from my uncle's first marriage. There is a story to this, that I don't know myself, but eventually that solitaire became two smaller stones set into pendants (I assume my mom and aunt traded the larger stone for the smaller ones) and I now have and wear one of those pendants. My cousin even wore that pendant as her 'something borrowed' for her wedding.

I think the idea of giving that ring a second chance or new life, as Polished said, is a lovely way of looking at it. For my own little pendant, I don't usually think that it came from my former aunt so much as from my Nana, to Mom, to me. At some point, one of my daughters will have it. (Your mom may decide to reset the main stone, giving it a new home, as well.)

 

[bgray]

a diamond is really just an innocuous cluster of carbon.........we search for things to serve as symbols of love; gifts of beauty and so on. the real feelings are in your heart and head. i have only ever purchased old or preowned stones. it is the ultimate circle and cycle of life to re-use and appreciate tangible things that dont degrade

 

[LibbyLA]

Kawfee,

Your parents may be willing to pay a little more than you'd be able to get from a stranger off the street but still pay far less than they'd pay for the same ring new. That's a "win" for all of you.

liz

 

[Kawfee]

Thank you everyone for your input.

I think I was just over thinking it as this was all a first for me.

I don't think it bothers me as this all happened over a year ago. My current gf knows about the history of the ring, and that my parents presented the idea of purchasing the ring off of me. To tell you the truth, I'd rather just give it to my parents but I don't think they'd accept. It's a beautiful ring, but for me to keep or to reuse it just doesn't seem right. I'd rather have someone else make better use of it and if my mom loves the ring, then it was meant to be with her.

Now on to searching for the last ERing...decisions decisions decisions