Opinion on mismatched side stones

[heather625]

Hi,

My ring is not new (27 yo) and was just purchased at a mall store. We were 21 and 22 when engaged and had no idea that we could have done more research.

Regardless, I still love the design of my ring. I recently had it reset to a trellis so that I could wear a straight band with it.

I have always noticed that the 2 trillions do not match each other. When I had it reset I suggested replacing one for a better match.

The jeweler said he could, but wanted me to see the resest without it. He agreed they are mismatched, but feels others will not notice.

What would you do? I partly do not want to change it for sentimental reasons.

Do you think someone just looking at my ring would even notice?

Thank you for your expertise!

 

[Bron357]

The reset was done very nicely. The size difference is not immediately noticable.
And it doesn’t matter one bit what others think or feel, it’s how you feel. If the slight size difference is really bugging you, I’d say replace one of the trillions BUT keep it. Have it set into a necklace. That way later on you have something extra for a son or daughter to inherit.

 

[nala]

The ring is for you. Keep it as is because of your sentimental reasons. It’s hard to tell by looking at the pic what it is that doesn’t match Bc to my eyes I first notice the difference in color. But it could be the lighting.

 

[SallyB]

I never would have noticed if you hadn’t pointed it out. I had to super enlarge the photo on my screen to be able to see any difference at all.

I would keep it as it is - it’s a beautiful ring!

 

[heather625]

Thank you all. I appreciate it!

 

[bludiva]

agree with your jeweler, no one else but you would notice and if it's sentimental then that's a powerful reason not to change it. pretty ring

 

[Inked]

I am not sentimental at all, and I wouldnt change it for others, but I would change it in a second if *I* wanted to. I dont need an excuse to change it, i would change it if it bothered me. If it didn't bother me, I would never change it just for others. I could not care less what anyone else thinks of my franken-jewelry. LOL

If you want to change it and you're sentimental about it, you could turn the 2 trillions into a pair of earrings, that way you're keeping the pair together, and you'll never notice earrings don't match, and then buy a pair of matching trillions together for your 28th anniversary.

Congratulations your marriage and staying together through your 20s and growing together!

 

[iluvshinythings]

It's a gorgeous ring. I had to expand the pic and look closely to notice any difference.

I'd keep it as it is unless it bothers you. I don't think anyone else will notice.

 

[MissGotRocks]

I don’t think others look at our jewelry the way we do. They see it in a glance and don’t notice minute differences in size, crooked prongs, whatever. I would only change it if it bothered you and I am assuming it has been fine for you for all these years. If the reset has made the difference more pronounced for you or if it really bothers you then you might want to change it up. I don’t know how difficult it would be to find a matching trillion but if it really doesn’t bother you, leave it as is and continue enjoying it.

 

[Rockdiamond]

I love the advice given so far...it's not very noticeable.
Furthermore...matching trill is a difficult task- rarely to they match "perfectly".
Also factor in the work that would need to be done to the ring- that in itself is not without risk.....

 

[heather625]

Thanks!

 

[Lvoeshinythings]

I think it depends. For me, because you asked, I notice and would try and find better matched stones if possible. Then, I’d keep the “extra” stone and turn it into something else to wear on me, always.

 

[Niel]

My three stone side stones aren’t the same ctw either.

there’s not a single person here who wouldn’t love to have it, anyways

Id it bothers you do something, if it doesn’t I don’t think it’s a problem.

 

[Daisys and Diamonds]

its a lovelly ring
and congratulations on the longevity of your union
i wouldn't change it after so long and i would never have noticed if you hadn't said
if it starts to bother you i would set it into a darling little pinky ring (especially if you have 2 daughters) so the stones will never be far away from each other

i think your jewler gave good advice

 

[headlight]

It’s a pretty ring and has great meaning for you. Honestly, a diamond changes it’s appearance as you move your hand and especially in a 3 Stone they aren’t going to all face up the same all the time. Also you have a different shape in the center so that distracts the eye from any differences. What I do think is commendable is that your jeweler didn’t outright try to sell you anything. As to your comment about being young when it was purchased, I think you guys did a very nice job!!! Keep it as is and love it and especially the great meaning behind it.

 

[heather625]

Thank you all for the kind words! I am keeping it as is. I would hate to spend the money just to have a similar issue or worse. I can use the funds for a different piece of jewelry

 

[motownmama]

I agree with others!
You mentioned you changed the setting for your band to sit flush against it. May we see a pic of both together?

 

[heather625]

Of course! I have a lot of different ones, but here are some that I happen to have pictures of.