Hello all,
I've been shopping for the ring for four months now after having figured out (with her) over the last YEAR exactly what she wants. I've had a few jewelers just flat out flake on me, show me absolute junk for the stone. or refuse to make the ring since I'm not buying the stone from them (I subsequently bought it separately so I could get what I wanted). Thus, my GF is, well, getting a bit impatient with what looks like feet dragging. I don't blame her at all.
The process of getting the setting made is taking WAY longer than I thought it would (or should IMO).
So, should I:
1. Buy a simple Tiffany solitaire (like on ebay for $200) that I'll just toss (or maybe resell) and have the stone mounted, then propose but THEN explain the trouble I've been having with delays in getting the setting done, while continuing to work on getting the final setting done. Upside is she'll be engaged plus she'll know I'm not lying to her with empty promises of 'someday baby, REALLY, we'll get married' and it'll buy me time and peace of mind to do the setting exactly right.
OR
2. Keep delaying all of it (proposal, wedding plans etc) until the setting is just right (at least another 8 weeks is what I'm being told) until it's all completely done.
To my GF's credit, she has assured me many times that the ring isn't anywhere near as important as the proposal/promise itself, but being a little old fashioned, I still want to propose with a bended knee and a ring.
What would you prefer if it was you?
I've been shopping for the ring for four months now after having figured out (with her) over the last YEAR exactly what she wants. I've had a few jewelers just flat out flake on me, show me absolute junk for the stone. or refuse to make the ring since I'm not buying the stone from them (I subsequently bought it separately so I could get what I wanted). Thus, my GF is, well, getting a bit impatient with what looks like feet dragging. I don't blame her at all.
The process of getting the setting made is taking WAY longer than I thought it would (or should IMO).
So, should I:
1. Buy a simple Tiffany solitaire (like on ebay for $200) that I'll just toss (or maybe resell) and have the stone mounted, then propose but THEN explain the trouble I've been having with delays in getting the setting done, while continuing to work on getting the final setting done. Upside is she'll be engaged plus she'll know I'm not lying to her with empty promises of 'someday baby, REALLY, we'll get married' and it'll buy me time and peace of mind to do the setting exactly right.
OR
2. Keep delaying all of it (proposal, wedding plans etc) until the setting is just right (at least another 8 weeks is what I'm being told) until it's all completely done.
To my GF's credit, she has assured me many times that the ring isn't anywhere near as important as the proposal/promise itself, but being a little old fashioned, I still want to propose with a bended knee and a ring.
What would you prefer if it was you?