Once you're broken up, what do you do with the FB pics?

[Brown.Eyed.Girl]

Of you and the ex-SO as a couple, that is. Do you leave them up, untag them, delete entire albums, or what?

 

[Autumnovember]

Of you and the ex-SO as a couple, that is. Do you leave them up, untag them, delete entire albums, or what?

I would untag and then probably just make them private so that I'm the only one who can see the albums.

 

[davi_el_mejor]

depends on the break up... and how good you look in the picture or how bad they look

honestly, I'd just delete 'em all or do some fancy photoshopping and put in your favorite celeb

 

[slg47]

I think I have left all of mine...wonder if the ex has untagged? I think he unfriended me!

 

[Brown.Eyed.Girl]

Well I'd hate to pull the albums or make them private to me only - I have some awesome vacation pics from New Zealand and Costa Rica that the ex is in. Unfortunately, there are quite a few pictures of him and me. I also got an e-mail from him a while back for not being online and cutting off contact with him. He felt hurt. I'm sure he'll feel more hurt if and when he notices the pics are gone.

 

[sillyberry]

Well I'd hate to pull the albums or make them private to me only - I have some awesome vacation pics from New Zealand and Costa Rica that the ex is in. Unfortunately, there are quite a few pictures of him and me. I also got an e-mail from him a while back for not being online and cutting off contact with him. He felt hurt. I'm sure he'll feel more hurt if and when he notices the pics are gone.

Sorry, that wasn't nice.

Anyway. You do have some amazing pictures (I'm totally jealous of your photography skills). Deleting only the ones with him would look kind of petty, so I probably would just leave them be. I suppose you might delete any individual pictures that make you cringe at the level of affection, since that wouldn't be really noticeable. Untagging overall might not be a bad idea, though, if only so that they don't show up when someone clicks on photos of BEG.

And then time will pass and you'll move on and have new photos and then you can figure out if you want to keep up the old ones or delete the whole albums or whatever. Because at that point it won't matter what you do because there won't be emotion attached (whether real or perceived).

It's amazing the things we have to think about in the facebook age...

 

[Brown.Eyed.Girl]

Well I'd hate to pull the albums or make them private to me only - I have some awesome vacation pics from New Zealand and Costa Rica that the ex is in. Unfortunately, there are quite a few pictures of him and me. I also got an e-mail from him a while back for not being online and cutting off contact with him. He felt hurt. I'm sure he'll feel more hurt if and when he notices the pics are gone.

Sorry, that wasn't nice.

Anyway. You do have some amazing pictures (I'm totally jealous of your photography skills). Deleting only the ones with him would look kind of petty, so I probably would just leave them be. I suppose you might delete any individual pictures that make you cringe at the level of affection, since that wouldn't be really noticeable. Untagging overall might not be a bad idea, though, if only so that they don't show up when someone clicks on photos of BEG.

And then time will pass and you'll move on and have new photos and then you can figure out if you want to keep up the old ones or delete the whole albums or whatever. Because at that point it won't matter what you do because there won't be emotion attached (whether real or perceived).

It's amazing the things we have to think about in the facebook age...

Lol. I do have to wonder what you make of all this, since you know both me and the ex personally, but we weren't part of the same friend group I'm actually really curious!

And I give all credit to my cameras And yes, definitely don't want to look petty (oh it's also awkward because guess who I'm FB friends with .... like half his family!). But of course, I do want to look ahead to the future (i.e. when a new guy might be perusing my pics....)

 

[slg47]

Well I'd hate to pull the albums or make them private to me only - I have some awesome vacation pics from New Zealand and Costa Rica that the ex is in. Unfortunately, there are quite a few pictures of him and me. I also got an e-mail from him a while back for not being online and cutting off contact with him. He felt hurt. I'm sure he'll feel more hurt if and when he notices the pics are gone.

Sorry, that wasn't nice.

Anyway. You do have some amazing pictures (I'm totally jealous of your photography skills). Deleting only the ones with him would look kind of petty, so I probably would just leave them be. I suppose you might delete any individual pictures that make you cringe at the level of affection, since that wouldn't be really noticeable. Untagging overall might not be a bad idea, though, if only so that they don't show up when someone clicks on photos of BEG.

And then time will pass and you'll move on and have new photos and then you can figure out if you want to keep up the old ones or delete the whole albums or whatever. Because at that point it won't matter what you do because there won't be emotion attached (whether real or perceived).

It's amazing the things we have to think about in the facebook age...

Lol. I do have to wonder what you make of all this, since you know both me and the ex personally, but we weren't part of the same friend group I'm actually really curious!

And I give all credit to my cameras And yes, definitely don't want to look petty (oh it's also awkward because guess who I'm FB friends with .... like half his family!). But of course, I do want to look ahead to the future (i.e. when a new guy might be perusing my pics....)

perhaps a cute vet? (have been following other thread )

 

[Brown.Eyed.Girl]

Well I'd hate to pull the albums or make them private to me only - I have some awesome vacation pics from New Zealand and Costa Rica that the ex is in. Unfortunately, there are quite a few pictures of him and me. I also got an e-mail from him a while back for not being online and cutting off contact with him. He felt hurt. I'm sure he'll feel more hurt if and when he notices the pics are gone.

Sorry, that wasn't nice.

Anyway. You do have some amazing pictures (I'm totally jealous of your photography skills). Deleting only the ones with him would look kind of petty, so I probably would just leave them be. I suppose you might delete any individual pictures that make you cringe at the level of affection, since that wouldn't be really noticeable. Untagging overall might not be a bad idea, though, if only so that they don't show up when someone clicks on photos of BEG.

And then time will pass and you'll move on and have new photos and then you can figure out if you want to keep up the old ones or delete the whole albums or whatever. Because at that point it won't matter what you do because there won't be emotion attached (whether real or perceived).

It's amazing the things we have to think about in the facebook age...

Lol. I do have to wonder what you make of all this, since you know both me and the ex personally, but we weren't part of the same friend group I'm actually really curious!

And I give all credit to my cameras And yes, definitely don't want to look petty (oh it's also awkward because guess who I'm FB friends with .... like half his family!). But of course, I do want to look ahead to the future (i.e. when a new guy might be perusing my pics....)

perhaps a cute vet? (have been following other thread )

 

[Cehrabehra]

Oh this is super easy

If YOU feel comfortable with them, leave them! If there are *any* that make YOU uncomfortable, remove them individually. If the thought of him makes you ill, remove all of them. It doesn't matter what he thinks, it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. You could go back and renote them as "me and the ex". It seems you guys are at least amicable so no harm no foul

 

[Imdanny]

Oh this is super easy

If YOU feel comfortable with them, leave them! If there are *any* that make YOU uncomfortable, remove them individually. If the thought of him makes you ill, remove all of them. It doesn't matter what he thinks, it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. You could go back and renote them as "me and the ex". It seems you guys are at least amicable so no harm no foul

Obviously the right answer. Do what feels right to you.

 

[AGBF]

I had a lot of trouble figuring out what an FB picture was! I was running through possible abbreviations for a significant other, a family member, or a piece of jewelry when I suddenly got it from the context of the thread!

Deb/AGBF

 

[MissMina]

Draw mustaches on them.
If he already has a mustache draw a beard
If he already has a beard draw some funny hair
If he already has funny hair cover it with a funny hat

 

[oranges]

I would just delete them, in my book an ex is an ex and I prefer to forget about them

 

[Maisie]

Draw mustaches on them.
If he already has a mustache draw a beard
If he already has a beard draw some funny hair
If he already has funny hair cover it with a funny hat

I love this!!!

 

[Indylady]

B.E.G.- Are you doing ok? It sounds like you are, but if you never need anything, please don't hesitate to let me know. Break-ups are hard, and it sounds like you are handling this one with grace and a lot of positivity. Major kudos to you.

I've seen people crop their ex's out of their FB entirely, and others leave them in even after they've moved on and become engaged to others. Personally--I'd probably take down most. I would feel like I was starting a new chapter in my life, and I'd want my FB to represent that, you know? Its a pretty legitimate idea in my opinion, and one that I think others would be able to understand (ie. the ex, his family, your friends, etc.).

Side note: I've always wanted to see a "Single Ladies" thread on PS as there are so many outlets/boards dedicated to those in relationships here but not so many for those who are single or dating.

 

[princesss]

Honestly, I just left mine up. I'm sure if the break up had been rougher on me, I would have untagged or something, but I feel like he was a big part of my life at the time, so why try to go back and re-write that?

 

[LadyBlue]

I delited all of them, I mean I'm married now. I don't think is respecful to your partner to have pics of an ex in facebbok. I don't know how I would feel if I was single.

 

[MsP]

...this is tough. I got out of a nearly 3 year relationship this summer. We, of course, had lots of photos together. If I untagged all of them it would be like ignoring those past three years. Seemed silly. Fact is, we happened, parted, and have now moved on. I untagged/deleted anything overly affectionate but didn't get rid of only because he was in them. HE on the other hand still has some really affectionate photos up and I untagged myself.

I'd leave em. Everyone has a past. They were good memories at the time--and if you can think of them as good memories rather than the end result, I'd keep it.

 

[labellavita81]

Make them private so now one could see - and untag.

 

[chemgirl]

...this is tough. I got out of a nearly 3 year relationship this summer. We, of course, had lots of photos together. If I untagged all of them it would be like ignoring those past three years. Seemed silly. Fact is, we happened, parted, and have now moved on. I untagged/deleted anything overly affectionate but didn't get rid of only because he was in them. HE on the other hand still has some really affectionate photos up and I untagged myself.

I'd leave em. Everyone has a past. They were good memories at the time--and if you can think of them as good memories rather than the end result, I'd keep it.

Exactly what I've done with exes in FB pics. Funny thing is that FI did the same. Apparently we're weird and our friends have commented to us individually. We consider the previous relationships to be a part of our lives and we can't just delete the past. It happened and we need to deal with it.

Most of my friends are guys and I think they all have pictures of exes in their albums...they just never thought to delete them.

Now we both definitely got rid of any framed pictures and have no evidence of the exes in our house. That seems different for some reason.

Do whatever you're comfortable with. You don't automatically have to delete everything because he's now your ex.

 

[labellavita81]

I delited all of them, I mean I'm married now. I don't think is respecful to your partner to have pics of an ex in facebbok. I don't know how I would feel if I was single.

I agree with this 100%!

 

[chemgirl]

I take back my previous post. I looked at his old albums to see if it actually bothered me and now I'm breathing fire, lol. I say delete them when you get serious about somebody else.

Our situation isn't the norm though, she's done things during our relationship that make my blood boil.

 

[OUpearlgirl]

After my big ole bust up I deleted/detagged some of the more couple-ey pictures. Especially the ones I didn't look so good in. I didn't delete all of them because I felt silly pretending like it never happened.

Fast forward two years, and I've deleted and detagged about 90% of all the pictures with my exes. I'm now with the person I'll spend the rest of my life with and I didn't really think he, his mother, or his best friend would feel comfortable clicking through pictures of me on the beach with my ex.

Do what you feel comfortable with.

 

[sillyberry]

Lol. I do have to wonder what you make of all this, since you know both me and the ex personally, but we weren't part of the same friend group I'm actually really curious!

And I give all credit to my cameras And yes, definitely don't want to look petty (oh it's also awkward because guess who I'm FB friends with .... like half his family!). But of course, I do want to look ahead to the future (i.e. when a new guy might be perusing my pics....)

Oh, I don't have much to make of anything - all I know is what is on PS, really. What you've said on here about being on different paths in life doesn't surprise me, though, given my vague knowledge of you two as people.

I just think when exes get pouty it is totally ridiculous. WE BROKE UP, PEOPLE. Of course I'm less communicative with you when I was in the past. Don't try to make me feel guilty about it. Sheesh.

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I think OUpeargirl may have said what I was trying to say best - moderation at the moment, then when you're further down the line, make a permanent decision about what to keep and what to get rid of. Especially since you don't seem to have strong feelings one way or the other.

Perhaps I'm lucky, in that I don't have any pictures with exes on my FB page - it wasn't around during my last serious relationship that created a lot of pictures! They can stay in a box in my closet.

 

[Autumnovember]

Well I'd hate to pull the albums or make them private to me only - I have some awesome vacation pics from New Zealand and Costa Rica that the ex is in. Unfortunately, there are quite a few pictures of him and me. I also got an e-mail from him a while back for not being online and cutting off contact with him. He felt hurt. I'm sure he'll feel more hurt if and when he notices the pics are gone.

Ah, then my answer changes.

Keep them.

The only time I can see this becoming a problem in the future is if either one of you start dating. My good friend who is getting married in April has been having some issues with her Fiances ex girlfriend who has kept albums of the two of them up on her FB. She feels really uncomfortable about it since she kept herself tagged for everyone to see the pictures. She just thinks it is disrespectful and rude especially since they (the couple getting married) have a child together too. Her Fiance isn't happy about it either. So really, it makes everyone uncomfortable I think.

 

[redfaerythinker]

I would do whatever you feel comfortable with, but I wouldn't necessarily delete or untag them all. Because your past, and he, will always be a part of who you are and to pretend otherwise doesn't help anyone. And anyone that you date will understand as they have undoubtably been there before. JMHO I don't mind that FI has picks of himself with a previous ex. I mean... he picked me, not her, so what do I have to get excited about kwim?

 

[Tacori E-ring]

*personally* I would delete them.

 

[TooPatient]

*personally* I would delete them.

Ditto x 1,000,000,000,000,000,000,000

Maybe keep the pictures without him in them.

Since you're looking to the future (and your future will include someone who isn't your ex!), you should consider how comfortable a potential new relationship (and their family!) will be with you having pictures of your ex around.

 

[fieryred33143]

This is a good question!

When my FI and I got together, I don't think FB was even around or if so, it wasn't used as it is today

I suppose if I were in that position, I would delete them unless they're group shots.

My FI's cousin recently broke up with a girl he was dating for 1.5 years. I really liked her and I loved her for him. Three weeks after he broke up with her, he was already "in love" with someone else and announcing it all over FB He still has pics of him and the previous girl up but also has pics of the new girl. I can't speak for her but it just feels disrespectful to her (and I suppose to the new girl as well).

I had pics of FI's best friend and a girl he dated on my FB. When he got back together with his long term girlfriend (who he will now marry), I deleted the photos. She has become a friend of mine and is also a friend on FB. It didn't feel right to have pics of him and the ex when I don't talk to his ex anymore (not because he asked or anything...we just stopped talking one day).