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If you were a woman getting married for the first time, would you opt for a gemstone engagement ring? Or diamond? Especially if you don’t want a million questions about your engagement.
 
waffle said:
If you were a woman getting married for the first time, would you opt for a gemstone engagement ring? Or diamond? Especially if you don’t want a million questions about your engagement.
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What kind of questions?

It is nobody's business but mine?!

DK :confused:
 
To me, it’s more a lifestyle question. How active are you? I love my colored stones, but they cannot take the licking a diamond can.
 
If I were to get married again, the ring will be an Edwardian-inspired cluster with an air gap/line halo with a pink Sapphire centre stone.

Since it is highly unlikely for me to walk down the aisle again, I am having this ring made myself instead.

The pink Sapphire had been sourced by Jeff White during his 2020 Tucson trip before the pandemic, and had recut it for me.

DK :))
 
Something MASSIVE that people can see from across the room. If I'm going to wear the engagement ring everyday, I'll pick a sapphire in my favorite colour for toughness with lots of fru fru diamond melee.

If I'm giving the answer from my own personal taste, it would be a huge, glowy emerald! But they make terrible engagement rings because they're fragile.
 
Coming from the opposite end. I got engaged with a pale blue sapphire ring which I loved but a lot of my Asian friends and family didn't consider that an engagement ring. If I had my chance over I'll just get an old cut diamond right off the bat.

The funny thing is nobody really compliments my diamonds but people always notice my sapphire.
 
Age does not matter IMO. I do what makes me happy and wear what makes me happy. And for me diamond is the way to go for an ER. But there is no one right way. You do you and do not worry about what others think. Life is a lot better when you have this mindset IMO
 
Whatever you like! That is the answer.
 
There is only one correct answer. Pick the ring that makes your heart sing!

Age is irrelevant. You should pick the one that makes you gasp in wonder every time you look down at it. If you’re lucky enough to find that in a significant other and a ring, you are already the luckiest person in the world.
 
Mrsz1ppy said:
To me, it’s more a lifestyle question. How active are you? I love my colored stones, but they cannot take the licking a diamond can.
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This. Unless one is so mature that durability is not an issue :cool2:

I loved spouse's sapphire RHR and -- for about a decade -- wished that we had gotten a sapphire e-ring way back when. But that ring got pretty much "used up" whereas her 30-year-old diamond (in a high, exposed solitaire mounting, no less) is completely pristine despite near-daily wear.*

EDIT: *...and I know this is true because she just snagged it on a chain-link fence last week and for the first time ever (!) asked me to loupe it and make sure the prongs were OK -- and I was amazed that there was not a chip to be found anywhere after all these years.
 
+1 to whatever you like. but if you don't want a million questions, a lot of people will assume a colored stone (gemstone, colored diamond etc.) is not an engagement ring.
 
YES. I wear one.
Wear what you like and damn the torpedoes.
There are a lot of CS engagement rings worn throughout history, in fact it was much more common until a hundred years and DeBeers ago. Any ring on that finger will be assumed as such. I've worn a few CS rings as engagement rings over my marriage and wear one now. I personally prefer them.
No one ever questioned it.
 
in an ideal world
i have always been in love with Queen Camila's ER
it belonged to the Queen mum and was inherited by the King
it never photographes well but the Queen mum would only have had the best !

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however as i have prevously said in the cold harsh reality of day id be happy with a bit of beach glass or anything really
i mean you know id take this if it were offered ...
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but id rather have something i dont need to loupe to see
and something with a wider band
 
I think if I wanted to avoid questions I would choose a ring that could pass as a fashion ring. Such as a gypsy style ring with diamonds and gemstones. I hope you find the perfect ring.
 
I can't help remembering Anne's House of Dreams, the book where Anne Shirley (of Green Gables fame) gets married. Her engagement ring is a "dear little hoop of pearls." Probably not as spectacular as @yssie 's, but you should get what you like best and - you should pardon the expression - rock it.
 
waffle said:
If you were a woman getting married for the first time, would you opt for a gemstone engagement ring? Or diamond? Especially if you don’t want a million questions about your engagement.
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I would get whatever I love and to hell with what other people think. For me that’s a diamond. I appreciate so much about them, and love that they’re so tough and durable.

However, that may not be right for you. Really examine your heart and see what you want.

One other option—a blingy diamond eternity band. Large bands are gorgeous and you could pair with a wedding band when you’re married. OR, a graduated five stone.
 
Tonks said:
I would get whatever I love and to hell with what other people think. For me that’s a diamond. I appreciate so much about them, and love that they’re so tough and durable.

However, that may not be right for you. Really examine your heart and see what you want.

One other option—a blingy diamond eternity band. Large bands are gorgeous and you could pair with a wedding band when you’re married. OR, a graduated five stone.
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Thank you! I love that idea!!!!!!!
 
The queen Mum had a Kashmir sapphire engagement ring…just saying.
 
I think any ring on your ring finger is going to be noticed, and the larger and more colorful it is (including fashion-style), the more people will offer remarks. This is PS here, but it's also 2023 - if you are uncomfortable wearing a ring, don't do it! A couple's bond does not exist by virtue of their material possessions.
 
In my ideal world I would have both! That's because I do rotate between a diamond and a blue-green sapphire;)2. If hubby was sentimental about my ring and I could only have one I would want a pad. That's still on my wish list.
 
If I was getting married and wanted a ring i loved and that i hoped most people people wouldn’t notice I would get a low set rose cut diamond with a vs clarity
 
dvj said:
If I was getting married and wanted a ring i loved and that i hoped most people people wouldn’t notice I would get a low set rose cut diamond with a vs clarity
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Something like a rose cut but with a little more sparkle
 
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