I am 33 and my boyfriend is 29. We have been dating for 2 1/2 years. We also live together (I moved from another state to be closer so that was the best for us). So here I am 2 1/2 years later wondering when we are getting engaged. His main issue has been money. He is always saying that he just does not have the money to get married and have the kind of wedding and ring that he would want to give. This will be his first marriage and my second...so I want this to be special for him. However, when do you get past the money thing? When is it just an excuse? That is what I am struggling with now. I just sent him an email telling him how I feel that we need to work together as a couple to get to where we want to be financially so that we can move on with our future.
I know that he is having financial issues (he has a young son,student loan and pays child support) also I make way more than him and i think that is an issue for him too.
I am not sure what to do. This topic is hard for both of us to discuss (he gets defensive). He has looked at rings and has told me that he wants to marry but I wonder...how long do you wait until you realize that maybe they DON''T want to get married?
it would be easier to walk if he was not my soul mate, but he is.
What to do?
I know that he is having financial issues (he has a young son,student loan and pays child support) also I make way more than him and i think that is an issue for him too.
I am not sure what to do. This topic is hard for both of us to discuss (he gets defensive). He has looked at rings and has told me that he wants to marry but I wonder...how long do you wait until you realize that maybe they DON''T want to get married?
it would be easier to walk if he was not my soul mate, but he is.
What to do?