Now That We’re in a Pandemic, Do You Have Any Regrets?

[House Cat]

Now that I need pristine lungs, I regret chain smoking in my younger years. Although, I could sure use a smoke right about now...

What about you? Are you thinking about any regrets?

 

[missy]

I know this is going to sound cliche but I don't have any regrets. I just do the best I can with the info I have at the time and keep moving forward striving to do my best.

I mean would I have done things differently? Some things yes. One comes to mind immediately.

I would have made my DH remove the 2 big kidney stones the surgeons were unable to remove in December after his last kidney stone surgery. They were able to remove some stones and break up others but he has 2 big stones left (12mm and 8mm IIRC) that are starting to cause an issue now.

We would have gotten them removed in January before his TKR. We thought we had time and were planning on doing it in March/April to keep it away from the knee replacement. Now of course we don't know when he is going to be able to get the kidney stones out and more worrisome is if it becomes an emergency situation we have no choice but to go to the ER. As his urologist directed. So that is concerning.

But like the Frank Sinatra song "Regrets, I have a few, but then again, too few to mention..."

 

[Demon]

Only that I didn't get my hair cut when it was due.I smoke weed (a vaporizer which is surprisingly clean) usually 4 times a week. Only one hit. Never smoked cigarettes.

 

[YadaYadaYada]

Well I regret gaining a lot of weight over the past few years because now I am higher risk for complications. Now it's going to be a PIA to lose it because I can't run anymore and I've developed hip problems. I am trying though to eat better in hopes it will help.

Should have been better about saving and keeping up with the house because thinking about all the maintence we are facing now is overwhelming.

There are a select few people that I would love to make amends with in case one of us dies but it's not up to me to extend the olive branch, not getting into why, also who needs more possible mental anguish now.

So going forward once this is over I hope to be healthier, better at money management and more cognizant of how I interact with others.

 

[Begonia]

I regret not taking bone health more seriously. I've always been active but being white, thin and early menopause (along with an a below average doctor) has landed me squarely in osteoporosis.

I regret not saying no to an unsafe work environment leading to a hip and back injury. Couple that with osteoporosis, and it makes it hard to try to strengthen those bones. Also in pain a lot.

I can't do many of the things that sustained me in life: hiking, gardening and anything requiring bending over, lifting or sitting/standing/walking for more than 45 mins.

Then I remember all that I do have and try to focus on those, but with the weeds up everywhere, people jogging and me in pain, I just wanna cry sometimes.

 

[missy]

I regret not taking bone health more seriously. I've always been active but being white, thin and early menopause (along with an a below average doctor) has landed me squarely in osteoporosis.

I regret not saying no to an unsafe work environment leading to a hip and back injury. Couple that with osteoporosis, and it makes it hard to try to strengthen those bones. Also in pain a lot.

I can't do many of the things that sustained me in life: hiking, gardening and anything requiring bending over, lifting or sitting/standing/walking for more than 45 mins.

Then I remember all that I do have and try to focus on those, but with the weeds up everywhere, people jogging and me in pain, I just wanna cry sometimes.

((((Hugs)))) Begonia. I’m so sorry you’re in pain. Please don’t beat yourself up. None of us are perfect. Moving forward we do the best we can.

I’ll keep you posted re the OP meds. I think I’ve made a decision but need to wait til NYU reopens to appointments.

Keeping good thoughts for everyone.

 

[telephone89]

Not specific to this, but I definitely wish I kept up a healthier body weight. But that's just in general LOL.

 

[lyra]

No Ragrets. None. Seriously though, I'm more focused on just adapting to the new norm and not thinking too much about the future. What's done is done.

 

[jaysonsmom]

I regret not developing any house-cleaning skills, and passing it on to my kids. We had to learn quickly after we asked our cleaning ladies to stop coming temporarily. I also regret not developing and teaching the family neater/cleaner habits! I didn't know we were such slobs!

My husband had to dig out all of the cleaning supplies from the garage (only the cleaning ladies and he himself knew where they were kept) and show us how to clean the bathrooms, kitchen appliances, vacuum the carpets/upholstery and mop the floors.

 

[Queenie60]

No regrets, I try to stay as healthy as possible and maintain a good weight. I've always taken my health seriously, especially after breast cancer 20 years ago.

 

[chrono]

No Ragrets. None. Seriously though, I'm more focused on just adapting to the new norm and not thinking too much about the future. What's done is done.

Same philosophy here.

 

[Begonia]

((((Hugs)))) Begonia. I’m so sorry you’re in pain. Please don’t beat yourself up. None of us are perfect. Moving forward we do the best we can.

I’ll keep you posted re the OP meds. I think I’ve made a decision but need to wait til NYU reopens to appointments.

Keeping good thoughts for everyone.

Thanks missy!!! Hug right back

I tried Fosamax and it didn't go well, had to quit after 2 weeks as the side effects were not tolerable. Really tried but I was on the lounger in pain and unwell for 2 days after taking the weekly pill. Plenty of other nasty side effects too. I need to call my doctor and reevaluate, but he's a real turd of a guy, and not looking forward to it.

I'll look forward to hearing what you've decided and what route you're taking.

Thanks for the support ((()))

 

[NewEnglandLady]

I regret not moving money out of my 401K I seriously considered moving it to bonds back in January, but keep hearing about how saturated the bond market is. And I felt silly moving it all to a money market. I decided to stay the course and it's been painful. My husband did move his. He's in much better shape now...

 

[AuntKiki]

I regret not buying a freezer and stocking it back before anyone was paying attention to China. I talked about it, and then I felt like I was being alarmist. My husband and son laughed when I said everything is going to shut down. It sounded absurd even as I said it. Now there's no freezers to be found.

 

[Trekkie]

I don’t drink and I’ve never really smoked. But I do struggle with my weight. I lost quite a bit two years ago and was very close to my goal but lost focus while doing my masters and it all crept back. Now I’m home all day cooking and baking with the kids, so I’m in even worse shape

Should’ve kept the weight off! That’s my only real regret. Everything else I’m ok with.

 

[Asscherhalo_lover]

No, I'm generally well prepared/stocked up on most things so we've been fine.

 

[1ofakind]

Pandemic related....Not anything I can do anything about. I’ve never smoked at all....ever, not even once....it’s disgusting and repulsive to me. I do regret that one or both of my parents smoked heavily all my life at home with them. As I get older I seem to be having more respiratory illness/sensitivity. But even this has been over the last few years and not just now. Maybe it would have happened anyway and it doesn’t even make a difference to bring it up to my dad so I don’t.
We have what we need and enough to share so I have no regrets about preparation. I guess that could change if things get really really bad because I don’t have a fully stocked underground bunker but for now we are doing OK.

Otherwise I try to live daily in such a way that I won’t have regrets. I don’t always succeed but I move on from the past and try to make a change and do better instead of letting regrets get me down. I find it more peaceful and productive to count my blessings rather than regrets.

 

[tyty333]

I regret not traveling more before I had kids or in the last few years before coronavirus hit. I still have to get to Europe and I have no idea
how long that's going to take with corona around!

 

[cmd2014]

I'll say it: Some days I'm not thrilled with who I'm quarantined with. I'd rather be with one of my girlfriends as this would be kindof fun - like an extended pajama party - rather than my DH who doesn't cope with stress well at the best of times and is having some struggles of his own right now.

I'm sure that eventually the stock market will recover, but part of me regrets not switching my money into a safe GIC or something where I wouldn't have taken the hit that I have. I regret not closing my practice (which is essentially closed after next week anyway) so that I could weather out the quarantine with my parents (who are in another province). Or with my sister and her family (also in another province). It's been incredibly lonely here with just me and DH, as he hasn't been able to be much of a partner these days. I have lovely friends, but I hear about people having zoom parties and I realize that I don't have anyone to do this with (as my friends are quite diverse and don't mingle into a cohesive group at all well) and that makes me sad. I regret not traveling more when I had the chance, because who knows how long it will be now to be able to do that again. Otherwise, I think I prepped as well as I could. We are well stocked with food and supplies. We haven't had to touch the supplies we put away in case of a complete lock down (we are still able to get groceries, so that is good). I also think financially we are ok, stock market and all. I'm glad I didn't pull the trigger on any large purchases though, as that would freak me out right now.

 

[Dancing Fire]

Only that I didn't get my hair cut when it was due.I smoke weed (a vaporizer which is surprisingly clean) usually 4 times a week. Only one hit. Never smoked cigarettes.

Ain't nobody gonna believe that!

 

[yssie]

I'll say it: Some days I'm not thrilled with who I'm quarantined with. I'd rather be with one of my girlfriends as this would be kindof fun - like an extended pajama party - rather than my DH who doesn't cope with stress well at the best of times and is having some struggles of his own right now.

I'm sure that eventually the stock market will recover, but part of me regrets not switching my money into a safe GIC or something where I wouldn't have taken the hit that I have. I regret not closing my practice (which is essentially closed after next week anyway) so that I could weather out the quarantine with my parents (who are in another province). Or with my sister and her family (also in another province). It's been incredibly lonely here with just me and DH, as he hasn't been able to be much of a partner these days. I have lovely friends, but I hear about people having zoom parties and I realize that I don't have anyone to do this with (as my friends are quite diverse and don't mingle into a cohesive group at all well) and that makes me sad. I regret not traveling more when I had the chance, because who knows how long it will be now to be able to do that again. Otherwise, I think I prepped as well as I could. We are well stocked with food and supplies. We haven't had to touch the supplies we put away in case of a complete lock down (we are still able to get groceries, so that is good). I also think financially we are ok, stock market and all. I'm glad I didn't pull the trigger on any large purchases though, as that would freak me out right now.

::HUGS:: honey.

When DH and I took our vows we promised to work together and believe in each other through good times and bad times, health and illness.

We did not promise that we would be each others’ only company. And we didn’t promise that we could be content with only each others’ company. Neither of us could have made that promise in good faith even if we’d wanted to.

We’re lucky - we’re both still working, albeit mostly remotely (he’s essential service and occasionally has to go in)... So we both have daily interactions with people outside the context of “us”. And we both really need those alternate contexts and outside interactions.

I hope the knots untangle themselves soon @cmd2014.

 

[MakingTheGrade]

I regret not trying harder to reschedule my dental cleaning. I now have nightmares about all my teeth falling out! Nobody is doing routine care yet.

I also wished I had done a bit more traveling and not put off some of the hiking I had wanted to do over the winter. Oh well.

All small things and all said I’m pretty content.

 

[GliderPoss]

Hmm no regrets here as I guess I have faith it will pass eventually.

Current issues which I'm trying to improve are stop eating everything in sight and start exercising more!

 

[facetgirl]

Not buying clorox and purell (both the physical items and the stock). And not letting go of toxic people sooner (all the years wasted... something I've been thinking of now that I've had time to well, think).

 

[Demon]

Ain't nobody gonna believe that!

Truth. I'm a one hit wonder. One good hit, but one only. I like getting high, but if I get too high I get a little anxious. I have it down to a science, for me.

 

[qubitasaurus]

Really should have gone on a holiday, we've been trying to take one for 1.5 years. And now I cant see it happening any time in the intermediate future (like at least a year). Also we didnt really live life as much as we could have over this period either-- often working 7 days a week, or working 6 days and spending one day looking after a baby (and for at least a year I mostly spent that one day killing time, while she fussed continuously. I'd come home and collapse into bed at the end of it with almost no memories. Then I'd get back up and work another 6 days straight. Most of the time my husband worked 7 days straight continuously.). Not sure why we did that. I feel like there was probably a better way.


I guess we should have sold more stocks in February. But that's ok, they'll probably recover eventually anyway.

 

[canuk-gal]

HI:

Regrets is too large a concept for me. Disappointments in some of my personal decisions, ya. But I've been disappointed before and here I am.

cheers--Sharon

 

[Polabowla]

Yep, not getting my glasses fixed right away & no place to do them now.

 

[kenny]

Since I'm so old, I regret living long enough to go through this garbage.

I could have been feeding the maggots last year and still have had a long & wonderful life.

 

[Ally T]

I actually cannot think of a single regret? I have travelled, lived abroad, been to lots of events, had many boyfriends, (some who were delicious & some not so much), married the guy of my dreams, have 2 beautiful healthy children, a comfortable home in a village I adore & a healthy large family who are all doing great in isolation.

I find all of the above quite eye opening actually, as I can always usually find something to complain about

Ok, I DO have a regret. I wish I had sold little worn jewellery & my pear cut, to consolidate money & buy my dream Tiffany classic solitaire. I may work on that going forward.....