Missed Out
Rough_Rock
- Joined
- Apr 8, 2005
- Messages
- 6
Just wanted some perspective on my situation. We''re in our 30s and have been together for almost four years. Last year I lost my job and consequently lost our house. Now we''ve relocated and are living in an apartment and my credit isn''t that great.
Long story short, I would have proposed to her ages ago had life not dealt me this card. Last summer my gf approached me with an idea. Her mother, who works for a jeweler, would finance a diamond in her name through that store as long as we paid it off in the no interest 12 month time frame. I was reluctant and my gf was perplexed why I wasn''t jumping on this offer given our financial situation. She questioned whether it was because the engagement was not what I wanted. I didn''t want her to think that so I allowed the arrangement to happen.
My girlfriend picked out a modest, good quality diamond at an exceptional price - b/c it was through her mother - and had it put in a new setting. Now I kind of resent not picking out the ring myself - I don''t know if it was worth the price savings.
I''ve had this ring for quite a while now and my gf is oftentimes dropping passive hints as to if/when I’m going to propose. The thing is, I’ve been devasted over having been accomplished at such a young age (25) to have bought a house and now at almost 32, I’m living in an apartment again. I would rather concentrate on getting ‘my house’ back than to go ahead with the engagement in which an expensive wedding is certain to follow. I’m afraid if I propose now she will start planning for a wedding that will ultimately override our financial savings for a house.
Neither of us thinks the other’s perspective is logical over our own ideas of what’s right. I was just hoping, since I believe you all to give sound advice, that you could give your interpretation on what’s “right.”
Thanks
Missed Out (on picking out the ring myself)