therighttime
Shiny_Rock
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- Feb 20, 2006
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Hi
I''ve been lurking here for a while and reading your stories and finally decided to take the plunge and officially join you ladies. I would like some opinions from those of you in similar situations either now or previously.
My bf and I have been dating for over 2 years. It''s really hard to say exactly how long because we went from friends to really good friends to dating and the lines are kinda blurry as to when each step progressed. But it''s safe to say we have been seriously dating at least a little over 2 years. I love and respect him more than I could write in this post. I''m confident he is committed to me and loves me too. Marriage has been brought up, mostly by him, quite often. He says "when we get married.." like it''s a given that we will. But he also quite often tells me that it''s "not the right time." He says he can''t explain why it''s not the right time (although truthfully I have not pressed the issue much) but that he just knows it''s not time. He has also asked me how he will know when the right time is. It seems to me like he is waiting for some magical sign to drop from the sky with specific instructions.
I do want him to be ready 100% sure before proposing. I just worry that he is waiting for a sign that may not come. I don''t think there is one particular perfect time to get married or a specific incident to tell you that it''s the right time to propose. I have mentioned that to him, but he says he just doesn''t know how or when to go about making it happen. Does this sound familiar to anyone? Should I just be patient and let him figure things out? Are there any ways to help him with his struggle with timing? Should I buy him a watch with an inscription "it''s the right time~!"
I''m not going to issue an ultimatum and truly am not in a HUGE hurry... as I said, I just can''t help but think his preoccupation with the right time is not common and will have me waiting forever for his magical sign.
Nice to join you all.... may we all have our dreams come true soon....
I''ve been lurking here for a while and reading your stories and finally decided to take the plunge and officially join you ladies. I would like some opinions from those of you in similar situations either now or previously.
My bf and I have been dating for over 2 years. It''s really hard to say exactly how long because we went from friends to really good friends to dating and the lines are kinda blurry as to when each step progressed. But it''s safe to say we have been seriously dating at least a little over 2 years. I love and respect him more than I could write in this post. I''m confident he is committed to me and loves me too. Marriage has been brought up, mostly by him, quite often. He says "when we get married.." like it''s a given that we will. But he also quite often tells me that it''s "not the right time." He says he can''t explain why it''s not the right time (although truthfully I have not pressed the issue much) but that he just knows it''s not time. He has also asked me how he will know when the right time is. It seems to me like he is waiting for some magical sign to drop from the sky with specific instructions.
I do want him to be ready 100% sure before proposing. I just worry that he is waiting for a sign that may not come. I don''t think there is one particular perfect time to get married or a specific incident to tell you that it''s the right time to propose. I have mentioned that to him, but he says he just doesn''t know how or when to go about making it happen. Does this sound familiar to anyone? Should I just be patient and let him figure things out? Are there any ways to help him with his struggle with timing? Should I buy him a watch with an inscription "it''s the right time~!"
I''m not going to issue an ultimatum and truly am not in a HUGE hurry... as I said, I just can''t help but think his preoccupation with the right time is not common and will have me waiting forever for his magical sign.
Nice to join you all.... may we all have our dreams come true soon....