New Diamond Ring - Terrible Mistake

[cmd2014]

I suspect the shop owner thinks you're being a little crazy and unreasonable. It's not her fault that you and your husband weren't on the same page about this purchase and you're now plagued with guilt and bad feelings about something that you initially liked well enough to buy. Her return policy isn't unusual or unreasonable (you just failed to ask about it - which is more on you I'm afraid than on her). And refusing to take the ring is just silly. She's honestly just going to shrug, make a note that you declined to take the merchandise, resell the ring, and probably hope that you shop elsewhere in the future. And your husband is likely not going to be happy that you've thrown away 2K because you're not acting mature enough to own your choices and make the best of them. Really, he can still gift it to you if you love the ring. It's as easy as him going down, picking it up, and saying how much he wants you to have it. It was after all paid for with joint money. Or you can sell it to recoup part of the cost. And maybe you guys need to sit down and have a few heart to hearts to get better at being on the same page with each other. The problem seems to be more of a communication issue between you two than one of US consumer law.

 

[Kbell]

I've no idea your age but the answer isn't just run away from the situation - which is exactly what you're doing by not picking up the merchandise and dealing with it. The responsible mature thing to do is one of you go pick up the ring, otherwise you literally are throwing away $2000.00. Either resell it or at the bare minimum give it away to charity and get a receipt for a tax write off while doing something good! And who knows, maybe once your husband sees the ring you loved enough to purchase on your own he'll come around.

 

[rockysalamander]

So...you just rewarded a shop for not giving you what you want...they get $2k and the ring? I'm so confused. How does this resolve any of your concerns? The seller will not fell bad or 'learn a lesson'. You let your DH's emotions control yours.

If you really intend to not get the ring and sell if for yourself, how about selling it to donate money to a charity. Women's and family shelter's always need funds. Why donate the money to a retailer you are unhappy with?

 

[doberman]

Not sure where the IF diamonds comment came from, but I guess I'm missing something. Don't be ridiculous; go pick up the ring. I'm sure you'll be able to sell it, but you may take a hit on the price. It sounds like you can afford it. Live and learn. But I have to say that your husband's actions are over the top. It's just a ring after all.

 

[mrs-b]

I think both you and your husband have lost perspective on this. But that's ok - life has its own way of teaching perspective. Wait till one of your kids-to-be flushes your 2ct internally flawless, D/E colored engagement ring down the toilet. As Max says in the movie 'Armageddon' - that'll put hair on yer arse!

Seriously tho - you seem to have a well-to-do lifestyle. If that's the case, save the ring for your daughter-to-be. Or your daughter-in-law to be. Or your mother. Or your sister. Or sell it. One thing's for sure tho - if your husband is getting this tizzied up over his wife buying a piece of jewelry, marriage is gonna be a steep learning curve for him! So my vote is....

Go back and buy the matching earrings! (ie live a little, girl!)

 

[MissGotRocks]

Yes, I have to agree with the others. I would go back and get the ring and if nothing else, sell it on ebay. At least recoup some of the money. Being stubborn about it doesn't help a thing - least of all you. Because jewelry is expensive and can be problematic, better to always sleep on something for a bit so that you don't make a choice on impulse. I am sorry that this turned out so poorly for you but I wouldn't let them keep the money and the ring. That is just pointless.

 

[Polished]

Perhaps re-use the diamonds into a ring that you and your husband design together. You're an artist - create something new into this situation.