munchee
Brilliant_Rock
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Background:
I’ve been living here for more than 7 yrs. in those 7years a neighbor right next to my house had dogs and it died. For a year or 2, I was free of this problem. But they got dog again and this year they have 2 dogs.
For the past couple years I’ve been living in this house, all the years when they have dogs, all the spring-fall time never a week went by without founding their dog poop in my front&/backyard!!!!! I know its their dogs because the other house next to mine and the next next next next to mine doesn’t have dog. And this neighbor only have my house next to theirs because the other side of their house is a wooded areas.
What happened all these years:
1. First couple years I mentioned it to them briefly.
2. Last year we started to get annoyed, coz my kids played in the yard a lot, especially with covid going on, our yard is basically our escape.
3. Last year I messaged her, I told her about it, that my kids are playing in OUR yard and we don’t want to see dog poop in our yard.
4. She said, her husband always sweep in our yard every now and then to take their dog poop from our yard.
5. She said, just message them whenever I see dog poop in our yard and they’ll clean it.
Sounds good, but in reality, why do I feel I need their “permission” when my kids want to play in our own yard? Or when my DH want to mow our own lawn?????
Why I need to message them first? I want my kids to be able to play in my own yard without afraid stepping on dog poop. Or my husband mowing the lawn without picking up dog poop or stepping on them. Both of them are working so if in the middle of the day my kids want to play in our backyard there’s no way they come to clean it up. And the whole idea of I need to message her first in order my kids can play in our own yard is just absurd.
I think I’ve been patient enough all of these years....
How to handle this situation without fighting with them because they live next door and even if I don’t talk to them, I still don’t want to have awkward relationship. Is it possible to handle this in a civil manner?
I thought I asked other Americans first or Immigrants like me that’s been in this country long enough to teach me how to handle it American way. But last resort, I don’t mind burning bridges since there’s no bridge anyway.
I’ve been living here for more than 7 yrs. in those 7years a neighbor right next to my house had dogs and it died. For a year or 2, I was free of this problem. But they got dog again and this year they have 2 dogs.
For the past couple years I’ve been living in this house, all the years when they have dogs, all the spring-fall time never a week went by without founding their dog poop in my front&/backyard!!!!! I know its their dogs because the other house next to mine and the next next next next to mine doesn’t have dog. And this neighbor only have my house next to theirs because the other side of their house is a wooded areas.
What happened all these years:
1. First couple years I mentioned it to them briefly.
2. Last year we started to get annoyed, coz my kids played in the yard a lot, especially with covid going on, our yard is basically our escape.
3. Last year I messaged her, I told her about it, that my kids are playing in OUR yard and we don’t want to see dog poop in our yard.
4. She said, her husband always sweep in our yard every now and then to take their dog poop from our yard.
5. She said, just message them whenever I see dog poop in our yard and they’ll clean it.
Sounds good, but in reality, why do I feel I need their “permission” when my kids want to play in our own yard? Or when my DH want to mow our own lawn?????
Why I need to message them first? I want my kids to be able to play in my own yard without afraid stepping on dog poop. Or my husband mowing the lawn without picking up dog poop or stepping on them. Both of them are working so if in the middle of the day my kids want to play in our backyard there’s no way they come to clean it up. And the whole idea of I need to message her first in order my kids can play in our own yard is just absurd.
I think I’ve been patient enough all of these years....
How to handle this situation without fighting with them because they live next door and even if I don’t talk to them, I still don’t want to have awkward relationship. Is it possible to handle this in a civil manner?
I thought I asked other Americans first or Immigrants like me that’s been in this country long enough to teach me how to handle it American way. But last resort, I don’t mind burning bridges since there’s no bridge anyway.
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