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Rough_Rock
- Joined
- Apr 12, 2012
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Hi! So first a little back story...I, like many women, first came upon PS when I was looking for an engagement ring. Unfortunately (or fortunately
) that relationship ended. I have since fallen in love with diamonds and jewelry, particularly antique jewelry. I purchased my first PS educated diamond around Christmas time this past year and it brings me joy every day I wear it. I get asked about it a lot because it's an old cut, in rose Gold and lower in color S-T. It's truly unique. While it's not big per PS standards, among my circle of friends it's about an average size engagement ring. I wear it on my left hand middle finger and it suits me perfectly and I love it!
Now, on to why I'm writing this thread. I'm 33, single, like really really single
, and relatively successful. I have no children, except my bulldog, and I live in a very modest home with a roommate, just cause I like the company. I have accumulated a nice bling budget due to bonuses at work and my roommates rent every month and a general low cost of living. I have recently decided that I wanted a nice diamond right hand ring. I'm looking at center stones around 6.5-7mm, old cut and lower in color. Yes, I've found my niche.
So the other day I was discussing this with a close friend who isn't a fellow jewel lover and her response got me to thinking. She basically said, well I know you can afford it and it sounds beautiful and you should do what makes you happy. BUT "shouldn't a diamond ring that size be your engagement ring?" Now, this is someone who married her college sweetheart and is on her third baby as are 99% of my female friends. I love her but we're living in different worlds at this point.
So I know the answer is to wear what I love and do what makes me happy but maybe she has a point? I don't think she does but maybe I'm wrong. Why should I wait around for prince charming to have pretty things when frankly I'm not sure he exists!
I guess my question is, was your first "large" diamond your engagement ring? If not and you've gotten engaged/married, did your SO feel like they had to "top" the ring you had already purchased for yourself?
I know this is kind of ridiculous to ask but there's really nowhere else but my PS community who could understand or relate.
Now, on to why I'm writing this thread. I'm 33, single, like really really single
So the other day I was discussing this with a close friend who isn't a fellow jewel lover and her response got me to thinking. She basically said, well I know you can afford it and it sounds beautiful and you should do what makes you happy. BUT "shouldn't a diamond ring that size be your engagement ring?" Now, this is someone who married her college sweetheart and is on her third baby as are 99% of my female friends. I love her but we're living in different worlds at this point.
So I know the answer is to wear what I love and do what makes me happy but maybe she has a point? I don't think she does but maybe I'm wrong. Why should I wait around for prince charming to have pretty things when frankly I'm not sure he exists!
I guess my question is, was your first "large" diamond your engagement ring? If not and you've gotten engaged/married, did your SO feel like they had to "top" the ring you had already purchased for yourself?
I know this is kind of ridiculous to ask but there's really nowhere else but my PS community who could understand or relate.