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Super_Ideal_Rock
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Ok...bear with me. This is goingto read like the biggest brain fart.
My boss is really quite offcolor. In fact, he''s a dick. A big racist and sexist jerk. I mistakingly let this precedent continue and his behavior is sickeningly unacceptably unprofessional.
He did something really ignorant to me last week that really caused my repressed anger to come out... when I was included on a meeting that I probably didn''t NEED to be at, but the girl who set up the meeting (T) had no real idea who to invite, she felt I should be there. He consistently threw out that I was only there for the free lunch that came with it, and every time Id make a comment or suggestion regarding the work to be done for this client, he would sternly say "shut up, no one asked you, you shouldn''t even be here. Eat your free lunch". I cannot believe I did not just get up and leave. I can write copy well and often do because he won''t hire someone who is really good at it, he often belittles my copy, even thought he cannot come up with any and always needs help. The topic of hiring someone for this job came up, my other coworker(JV) mentioned that he thinks I should do it and I said "ok, Ill bill you and do it on the side" in a joking fashion, and my boss blurts out "you aren''t THAT good. Not worth paying for, Im talking abotu a real copy writer". Every time he would snap back at me, T and the salesperson present(J) who''s client this was for our company would sit there completely stunned and very uncomfortable. My boss could tell he went too far and tried to play it off like a joke, which is pretty much the modus opporandi when he messes up. He just nagged at me the whole way back to the office, and I tried to not go off on him. I regret not confronting him then because I stewed ALL DAY. The next day I wouldn''t speak to him, he seemed to know that and tried to bribe me with candy. I was still so mad. I tried to let it go through the week...I simply couldnt.
Knowing how this guy is when confronted, he just cannot handle confrontation, and it''s NEVER his fault, I chose to not go to him, maybe a bad choice, but I just felt uncomfortable. I went straight to HR. This woman was just knocked over with all that I told her. She wanted to discuss with the other partner, who came back from vacation today before she pursued anything more and asked me to wait as well. Well T and J both knew I went to HR and both tried to mention to the boss that he pissed me off badly maybe we need to talk. Both thinking that maybe it would help. Really it didn''t. Didn''t necessarily hurt matters though either.
Well he calls me into the office to discuss it...asks me why I am so emotional and angry lately, and drops this bomb:
"Are you pregnant. Is that why you are so emotional? Comon don''t lie, youre pregnant aren''t you". I bet my jaw hit the desk.
I said "uh no..." I mention that every time I stand up for myself or give him attitude in retaliation for his own, I get called a Bitch. He swears that he never has, well in that ONE day alone, 6 times. I documented it. He denies it, and swears Im making it up, he would never. I counter with "you don''t even realize you do it." He denies more. Claims he says that he is telling me I bitch alot, which I do, Im a complainer. I know this, not news to me. Then asks why Im not mad at my colleague, JV, because he''s a much bigger ******* to me than the boss. My answer "because he''s not my boss. YOU are." No one wants my opinions, shut up blah blah blah.
The whole meeting went on with a pretty much denial, saying its all my fault pretty much you bring it on yourself. I don''t treat you differently maybe I should since you are an emotional girl...
So I tell HR about it, because we spoke and this woman needed to know. She almost fell over when I mention prego bomb. The other partner comes back and she wants to speak with him before it goes on, well the partner asks how I am, I say not happy, I give slight insight as to why and he says we will fix this. He goes to find HR because I mention I spoke with her, and that he should too. Well she was helping new people out so I guess he decided to just talk to the boss instead. Dissapears with boss for an hour and a half, boss is
when he comes back, and I disappear to lunch with others in the office, mind you the whole office knows like everything because there''s no privacy there...the other partner and HR are in the partner''s office for like 2 hours, my boss never mentions this talk he had with me, then again might not have much to do with me. Whatever...
So...I have HR and the partner involved...it''s obvious this is MAJOR, like if this was anywhere else there would be legal matters involved, perhaps there should be anyway...I like the partner, I really like the HR girl, she''s justcool and sweet. And very smart about this.
We have a very open and relaxed work environment. Maybe that''s a major negative here but I think we all like the irreverence...it just bites us in the ass a little.
So...any suggestions as to things i should mention do bring up? Or was this a good vent....
Maybe posting not so wise...
My boss is really quite offcolor. In fact, he''s a dick. A big racist and sexist jerk. I mistakingly let this precedent continue and his behavior is sickeningly unacceptably unprofessional.
He did something really ignorant to me last week that really caused my repressed anger to come out... when I was included on a meeting that I probably didn''t NEED to be at, but the girl who set up the meeting (T) had no real idea who to invite, she felt I should be there. He consistently threw out that I was only there for the free lunch that came with it, and every time Id make a comment or suggestion regarding the work to be done for this client, he would sternly say "shut up, no one asked you, you shouldn''t even be here. Eat your free lunch". I cannot believe I did not just get up and leave. I can write copy well and often do because he won''t hire someone who is really good at it, he often belittles my copy, even thought he cannot come up with any and always needs help. The topic of hiring someone for this job came up, my other coworker(JV) mentioned that he thinks I should do it and I said "ok, Ill bill you and do it on the side" in a joking fashion, and my boss blurts out "you aren''t THAT good. Not worth paying for, Im talking abotu a real copy writer". Every time he would snap back at me, T and the salesperson present(J) who''s client this was for our company would sit there completely stunned and very uncomfortable. My boss could tell he went too far and tried to play it off like a joke, which is pretty much the modus opporandi when he messes up. He just nagged at me the whole way back to the office, and I tried to not go off on him. I regret not confronting him then because I stewed ALL DAY. The next day I wouldn''t speak to him, he seemed to know that and tried to bribe me with candy. I was still so mad. I tried to let it go through the week...I simply couldnt.
Knowing how this guy is when confronted, he just cannot handle confrontation, and it''s NEVER his fault, I chose to not go to him, maybe a bad choice, but I just felt uncomfortable. I went straight to HR. This woman was just knocked over with all that I told her. She wanted to discuss with the other partner, who came back from vacation today before she pursued anything more and asked me to wait as well. Well T and J both knew I went to HR and both tried to mention to the boss that he pissed me off badly maybe we need to talk. Both thinking that maybe it would help. Really it didn''t. Didn''t necessarily hurt matters though either.
Well he calls me into the office to discuss it...asks me why I am so emotional and angry lately, and drops this bomb:
"Are you pregnant. Is that why you are so emotional? Comon don''t lie, youre pregnant aren''t you". I bet my jaw hit the desk.
The whole meeting went on with a pretty much denial, saying its all my fault pretty much you bring it on yourself. I don''t treat you differently maybe I should since you are an emotional girl...
So I tell HR about it, because we spoke and this woman needed to know. She almost fell over when I mention prego bomb. The other partner comes back and she wants to speak with him before it goes on, well the partner asks how I am, I say not happy, I give slight insight as to why and he says we will fix this. He goes to find HR because I mention I spoke with her, and that he should too. Well she was helping new people out so I guess he decided to just talk to the boss instead. Dissapears with boss for an hour and a half, boss is
So...I have HR and the partner involved...it''s obvious this is MAJOR, like if this was anywhere else there would be legal matters involved, perhaps there should be anyway...I like the partner, I really like the HR girl, she''s justcool and sweet. And very smart about this.
We have a very open and relaxed work environment. Maybe that''s a major negative here but I think we all like the irreverence...it just bites us in the ass a little.
So...any suggestions as to things i should mention do bring up? Or was this a good vent....
Maybe posting not so wise...
I have so many moments where I just want to tell him to get bent..
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