taovandel
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Okay,
About a week and a half ago my 29 year old sister came out of the closet. She wrote me a letter and posted it on a forum that is known for secrets. I'm 100% supportive and could care less who she loves, I just want her to be happy.
My issue since she has come out is this.....
The forum and her cellphone has become her lifeline. Yesterday she spent about 6 hours sitting on the floor in her room on the computer. I went into her room about 3 times during that six hours and each time she was on the forum. We also went to lunch prior to the 6 hours, and the entire time she would get texts and she would pretty much not even talk to me because she was so busy texting the different people from the forum---she wasn't like this a month ago. I know they are people from the forum because she has her number posted as her sig line ("Unlimited Text! If I'm not sleeping or at work I'll answer!) and she also told me they were from the forum. When we were at lunch we had talked about going to the movies----when we got home, she headed straight for her computer and I never saw her again except when she came out for supper---she filled her plate and returned to her room.
I haven't said anything to her because I'm assuming she has attached herself so heavily to the forum/text because I'm the only person she has officially come out to in her real life. So I think she just needs an outlet to talk about different things......but my question is, when does it stop becoming a communication tool and turn into an obsession.
ETA: I just went into her room this morning to get a bill I left in there and she's sitting on the floor again, on the website.
About a week and a half ago my 29 year old sister came out of the closet. She wrote me a letter and posted it on a forum that is known for secrets. I'm 100% supportive and could care less who she loves, I just want her to be happy.
My issue since she has come out is this.....
The forum and her cellphone has become her lifeline. Yesterday she spent about 6 hours sitting on the floor in her room on the computer. I went into her room about 3 times during that six hours and each time she was on the forum. We also went to lunch prior to the 6 hours, and the entire time she would get texts and she would pretty much not even talk to me because she was so busy texting the different people from the forum---she wasn't like this a month ago. I know they are people from the forum because she has her number posted as her sig line ("Unlimited Text! If I'm not sleeping or at work I'll answer!) and she also told me they were from the forum. When we were at lunch we had talked about going to the movies----when we got home, she headed straight for her computer and I never saw her again except when she came out for supper---she filled her plate and returned to her room.
I haven't said anything to her because I'm assuming she has attached herself so heavily to the forum/text because I'm the only person she has officially come out to in her real life. So I think she just needs an outlet to talk about different things......but my question is, when does it stop becoming a communication tool and turn into an obsession.
ETA: I just went into her room this morning to get a bill I left in there and she's sitting on the floor again, on the website.