Kay
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I really need some advice on how to sleep train my DD. She is just turning eight months old, and she does not come close to sleeping through the night when she sleeps alone. I’ve probably spoiled her, and I’m not sure what to do at this point. DH and I both work, and we have been sick repeatedly over the past 5 months because she brings bugs home from daycare and our immune systems are shot from lack of sleep.
The first 2 months of her life, DD wanted to be held all the time. She would cry when she was put down, but would sleep peacefully in our arms, so DH and I took turns sitting up with her at night. At Christmastime, my in-laws visited and were helping us with the night shifts. MIL thought we were crazy and just put DD in her crib at night. From that point on until about a month ago, DD would be put in her crib at night once she was asleep. Sometimes she is sound asleep in our arms but wakes up screaming as soon as her butt hits the crib mattress. Once she was down, she would wake us a few times a night. Sometimes when she cried out she was not fully awake yet, so we could just pop the pacifier back in her mouth and she would sleep a while longer. At least once a night, she would fully wake and it would take between 30 minutes and 2.5 hours to change her, feed her and get her back to sleep. It is especially bad each time a new tooth is coming in. The funny thing is, in early January, she started sleeping through the night at 2.5 months old. It lasted about 10 days, but then she regressed when she started day care.
I sleep poorly, and have a very difficult time falling back asleep after I get up with DD, even if it is just for a few minutes. A few weeks ago, I decided to try sleeping with DD so I would not have to get out of bed every time she needs to be comforted. DH and I now take turns sleeping with her in the guest room so one of us can sleep. (Unlike in our room, one side of the guest bed is against the wall, so DD is between a parent and the wall and cannot roll off.) Most nights it works very well. DD likes to snuggle. When I sleep with her, she will cry or whimper several times during the night, and I can usually just rub her back or tummy and pop the pacifier in and she will go back to sleep and so do I. Some nights, she will still have one long, cranky awake period in the middle of the night. Some nights, either at bed time or when she wakes in the middle of the night, she will cry uncontrollably even if held/rocked/walked. When DH has her, his rule is if she is going to cry anyway she can cry alone in her room with the door shut. He will let her stay alone for 15-30 minutes. It just breaks my heart to listen to her cry. A few nights we have tried the CIO method of leaving her alone for 5 minutes, then trying to comfort her without picking her up, then waiting 10 minutes, then 15, then 20, etc., but she just keeps crying and there is no comforting her just by touching her or talking to her if we do not pick her up. Obviously, we have not been consistent with this method.
We are at the ends of our ropes and I just don’t know what to do at this point. She is such a sweet, happy kid during the day, but she can be a terror at night.