My Introduction

[SomethingSinful]

Salutations,
I'd like to introduce myself. I’m currently in a long distance relationship, which I have to say is the best and most likely healthiest relationship that I've ever been in. My one year anniversary is coming up on the 17th of October. We were on friends for several years and met on myspace. He was lucky that I responded since he sent me a strange message, but I thought he was cute . Last year, following a breakup, I decided that I wanted to travel more and go higher than the Mason-Dixon Line. So, I asked him what he was doing for his fall break, since at that point he was working on his master’s at the University of Michigan. He said nothing, so I told him to buy me a plane ticket so that I could come and visit. We decided to also head over to Chicago for a few days, which was fun. When we were there we went to the Chicago Lyric Opera to see Gounod’s Faust and tentatively began our relationship. Ever since then, we’ve been going back and forth and visiting each other, since I’m on the east coast and he’s on the west coast. He is completely ready to get married whenever I want and would be thrilled if we could get married tomorrow instead of in the next couple of years. We have already decided on a ring. We are just waiting to save up enough money for the engagement ring at my insistence because it is important to me.

 

[DuckLovingVegan]

Well welcome to LIW. It sounds like you guys are both headed in the right direction. This is a great place to be while waiting it helps keep me sane. It sounds like you won't be on here for long but I hope you enjoy your stay while your here.

 

[PrincessNatalie]

Welcome! Very cute story

Geez such a long distance relationship must be difficult! What is he doing now that he has finished his Masters (I assume finished as you said he 'was' studying)? Do you visit each other often?

Did you like Gounod's Faust, and did the version you saw have the Act 5 Ballet omited or did they leave it in?

Do you have a picture of the ring you have decided on? We are always happy to look at eye candy lol.

Sorry for the the questions its been quiet around here lately and new meat is always fun

 

[maebelle]

Hey SomethingSinful, Hope your stay here is short and sweet! I am a UoM alum, like your future fiance!

I agree about posting the ring you are looking at, it's all that tides us over

 

[Grlsbestfrnd]

Welcome! It sounds like you won't be here too long. It's great that your BF is so excited to spend the rest of his life with you! He sounds very sweet

I love your Totoro avitar. I love Miyazaki, my favorite film of his is Spirited Away. Do you watch a lot of anime?

 

[FuturePsyD]

Welcome to LIW!

Sounds like you and your ff have a very wonderful and solid relationship!

Wishing you guys a speedy saving period (I'm in the same boat)!!!

 

[SomethingSinful]

Thanks for the supportive replies. I hope that everything works out and that I don’t have to wait too long, since it’s really up to him. To everyone who asked about the ring – I don’t want to post a picture of the ring until it is more certain that we can obtain it.


@PrincessNatalie – Yes, he has finished his Master’s and has been working on short-term projects while seeking something long-term. I did enjoy Faust and they did omit the ballet.


@maebelle – I really enjoyed visiting Ann Arbor


@Grlsbestfrnd – Yes, I very much enjoy anime and watch it quite often.

 

[Jessie702]

Welcome .....Welcome

 

[monarch64]

Hello, SomethingSinful! Welcome to PS/LIW...I am no longer a LIW but wanted to welcome you anyway.

Your courtship sounds lovely!

I wondered about the last sentence of your introductory paragraph, though...you say that 'We are just waiting to save up enough money for the engagement ring at my insistence because it is important to me." Is your boyfriend on board with the engagement or are you posting because you're worried that he isn't? There is plenty of support here for ladies (or gents) who may be experiencing some anxiety over whether their future intended actually will follow through with a proposal.

You have a lot of great friends here who are willing to lend support, a listening ear, a shoulder to lean on, etc. while you are going through the transition of dating to getting engaged, so please take advantage. Take care, and once again, welcome to Pricescope and the LIW subforum.

 

[SomethingSinful]

There isn’t any anxiety over him being on board, it’s just that there are things we need to do before we can comfortably purchase the ring. I will be moving across the country and while he continues to adjust to a new career, which may provide more strain on the savings for the ring than we anticipate. I do not want him to plunge into debt to purchase the ring and sacrifice financial stability, since financial stability is important to me and a condition for marriage. The reason why I mentioned that the engagement ring is important to me is that I find gift-giving to be very meaningful and I cannot be with a man who doesn’t understand the importance of gifts in a relationship. Thankfully he understands this and doesn’t think that I’m a materialistic bitch.

 

[monarch64]

There isn’t any anxiety over him being on board, it’s just that there are things we need to do before we can comfortably purchase the ring. I will be moving across the country and while he continues to adjust to a new career, which may provide more strain on the savings for the ring than we anticipate. I do not want him to plunge into debt to purchase the ring and sacrifice financial stability, since financial stability is important to me and a condition for marriage. The reason why I mentioned that the engagement ring is important to me is that I find gift-giving to be very meaningful and I cannot be with a man who doesn’t understand the importance of gifts in a relationship. Thankfully he understands this and doesn’t think that I’m a materialistic bitch.

Gotcha! I don't think you're a materialistic bitch either, and I totally understand (I'd say most of the LIW's here would say the same) the need for an engagement ring. I apologize if my comments or questions came across as intrusive or anything other than good-natured! I wish you the best in your relationship and hope you have a speedy engagement. Meanwhile, we are all here for you, LIW or not, to support you through this transition. Much love!

 

[MayFlowers]

Welcome! Hope you enjoy your stay here!

 

[SomethingSinful]

@monarch64- It's okay; I didn't take your comments to be intrusive. I always feel the need to explain my desire for an engagement ring, since many women would marry a man as long as he loves them regardless of whether or not he would give them a ring, which is fine for them but not for me. Most women that I’ve come across find the ring to be a pleasantry and not a necessity, so sometimes I feel like the odd man out. I’m glad that I found a group of girls with similar views.