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Ideal_Rock
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I mentioned once before, I think, about my crazy aunt F and how one of my biggest wedding fears was her going off the deep end. I know pratically everyone has a crazy relative that they worry about! But just to give you an idea of what I''m dealing with here...
I just went to breakfast with her and my grammy. Near the end of the meal, I mentioned that I hadn''t finalized the guestlist yet, and so it might be prudent not to talk to anyone in the family about my wedding plans before the invitations go out. I brought this up in a casual non-confrontational way, and the reason is that when my dad got married last fall, she took it upon herself to invite a tonne of people (like 15!) and help them make travel arrangements and things... people my dad had no intention of inviting. It became a huge issue. She was also, by the way, calling my dad''s venue and giving them instructions, and changing my step-mom''s instructions and stuff! Can you imagine!
Well, I can''t afford an extra 15 people, and it would mean there would be no room for a dancefloor at my venue, so I thought I''d just slip that in.
Now, how does Aunt F respond? She stands up, in the middle of the restaurant, and starts YELLING at me. Mind you, when she yells at me (which happens about once a year or so) it''s almost always about my father, as though I were responsible for anything he does. So she just stood there shrieking (and I mean SHRIEKING!) in the middle of the restaurant about how dare my father this and what makes me think that that. And why do I think I''m so special and my father once did XYZ and blah blah blah.
ARGH! So embarassing! And angry making! Everybody was staring. I just have this sinking feeling that she''ll do something horrible to ruin my wedding.
I have to prepare myself to try to ignore her. But imagine if she starts yelling at me at the wedding?!?! I seriously wouldn''t put it past her.
I''m also going to tell the event coordinator at my venue to ignore anything she says, except say ''Can you direct me to the ladies room'' and check with me before changing ANYTHING.
I''m rather upset now. Partly because it really upsets my grammy when she does stuff like that. How did she end up so, well, INAPPROPRIATE?
I just went to breakfast with her and my grammy. Near the end of the meal, I mentioned that I hadn''t finalized the guestlist yet, and so it might be prudent not to talk to anyone in the family about my wedding plans before the invitations go out. I brought this up in a casual non-confrontational way, and the reason is that when my dad got married last fall, she took it upon herself to invite a tonne of people (like 15!) and help them make travel arrangements and things... people my dad had no intention of inviting. It became a huge issue. She was also, by the way, calling my dad''s venue and giving them instructions, and changing my step-mom''s instructions and stuff! Can you imagine!
Well, I can''t afford an extra 15 people, and it would mean there would be no room for a dancefloor at my venue, so I thought I''d just slip that in.
Now, how does Aunt F respond? She stands up, in the middle of the restaurant, and starts YELLING at me. Mind you, when she yells at me (which happens about once a year or so) it''s almost always about my father, as though I were responsible for anything he does. So she just stood there shrieking (and I mean SHRIEKING!) in the middle of the restaurant about how dare my father this and what makes me think that that. And why do I think I''m so special and my father once did XYZ and blah blah blah.
ARGH! So embarassing! And angry making! Everybody was staring. I just have this sinking feeling that she''ll do something horrible to ruin my wedding.
I''m also going to tell the event coordinator at my venue to ignore anything she says, except say ''Can you direct me to the ladies room'' and check with me before changing ANYTHING.
I''m rather upset now. Partly because it really upsets my grammy when she does stuff like that. How did she end up so, well, INAPPROPRIATE?